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My Morning Ritual

By: Gloria Pierson

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I have my morning ritual, it is a time that I cherish. I believe this time helps me stay centered and calm throughout the day. Most mornings, I get up early, while it is still dark and the world is quiet. I make myself a cup of coffee and retreat to my “meditation chair”. It is an oversized, comfortable chair with a large basket of inspirational books next to it. This hour that I spend every morning, is a gift to myself. Most days there are no startling insights: just time to pray, go deep into my soul, and be in God’s presence. This week try to give yourself a gift of silence each morning.
My morning ritual consists of meditation, journaling, inspirational reading and sitting in silence. I begin reading while enjoying my coffee. By my chair, I have several books to choose from. Next I meditate for about 20 minutes. This is followed by journaling and praying. Some days, I do not have the luxury of an hour and that is alright. This morning ritual has helped me transform my life from fear to peace and love.
Create Your Own Morning Ritual
1. Pick out a spot in your home that you can remain undisturbed. It is preferable to have a chair to sit on. If you do not have an hour to spend, try half an hour.
2. Inspirational Reading – Pick out several books to keep by your side. I like to have a variety depending on what my mood is. Currently I am reading, “New Seeds of Contemplation” by Thomas Merton. I also have a book of daily inspirational messages that I read right before my meditation. My old standby is “Around the Year with Emmet Fox”. I also enjoy, “The Book of Awakening” by Mark Nepo. I usually read for about 20 minutes while sipping my coffee.
3. Meditation – If you do not have a meditation practice, a breathing meditation may be the way to start. Sit silently and concentrate on your breath going in and out of your body. When thoughts come, just let them go. Do not engage the thoughts. Just breathe. I set a timer for 20 minutes.
4. Journaling – Buy a special journal that you will use just for this purpose. After meditation, I open my journal and begin to write. I let the pen just flow. Some mornings, I may write a letter to God.
5. Silence and Reflection – Before leave my chair, I spend a few minutes in quiet reflection and praying.
These are just my suggestions, be flexible and create your own morning ritual.
What are your favorite books for inspiration?

3 Steps for Time Management

By: Gloria Pierson

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Do you ever feel that some weeks go by so quickly and you look back on Saturday and say, “Wow, I did not accomplish anything this week.” That happens to all of us, but, with a little planning, you can stay on track. These are my 3 steps for time management.

Set a couple long term goals for yourself. Then decide on a few goals that you would like to accomplish in the next week.

When your action plan is together, complete the following sentences.

I will avoid………

I will complete……………..

To make sure I complete my task, I will……………………….

I will not……………………….

Now do the following 3 steps:

1. Spend 10 minutes at the beginning of the week in a “strategy session”. Pick 2 tasks this week that will get you closer to your long-term goals. Write down what else you would like to accomplish this week.
2. Schedule. Buy a planner or find a weekly planner on-line. Map out each day with realistic timeframes and tasks. Try not to over schedule. You will need some flexible time during the week. Remember to also schedule some fun and recreational activities. Put a star next to the items that absolutely must be accomplished this week because of some sort of deadline.
3. After you have planned your week, focus only on the day at hand. If you were not able to complete all your goals for the current day, evaluate whether you could schedule it later in the week or whether it is best left for another week. Remain flexible and do not be hard on yourself if you cannot accomplish everything. With practice, you will learn how to best use your time.

Refer back to the sentences you completed above when planning the following week.

Be aware of the time you spend looking at emails. Does that detract from completing your tasks? Maybe limit checking emails to three days a day: morning, afternoon and evening.

4 Ways to Deal with a Broken Heart

By: Gloria Pierson

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The following is a chapter from my book, “Divorce the Divorce: a 52 Step Journey to Creating Unlimited Happiness”.  This chapter gives 4 ways to deal with a broken heart.

Chapter 12

Ways to Deal with a Broken Heart

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”
-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Dating is part of a single women’s life. Having a broken heart at some point may become a reality. It hurts, it’s uncomfortable, and many emotions will wash over you. I like to think of every relationship like a brick in the foundation of the new me I am creating. If one relationship doesn’t work out, maybe it prepared me in some way for the next one. After all, we are a work in progress, brick by brick, experience by experience.

A broken heart is not fun. But loss is a part of life. Congratulate yourself that you had the courage to love again. That is progress. You will get through this new loss, grow stronger and find love again.

When a relationship does not work out, I like to ask myself, “What was the lesson this situation has brought to me?” “How can I grow from this experience?” These are very powerful questions to ask yourself. Spend some quiet time centered in the moment and think about this. The present moment is always the best teacher. I try not to ignore my feeling of loss, despair, and helplessness, and I know in time I will heal once again. Until then, I treat myself with compassion and love.

Activity
1. Try to avoid negative thoughts about yourself or your ex-boyfriend. Negative thinking does no good. Remember the law of attraction. Try to stay positive to attract more positivity into your life. Use affirmations to remain positive.
Some to try:
I am healing.
I have faith that the Universe will fill my life with love and joy.
I am creating happiness in my life.
2. That beautiful shirt he bought you, either toss it out or box it up and get it out of your sight. This goes for anything that brings back strong memories about the relationship. If you cannot bear to throw something away, box it up, give it to someone or sell it. Physical items contain energy, and you want new, fresh energy in your life. Exercise. Exercise is a great way to release stress. Get moving. Walk, go to the gym or play tennis: the important point is to begin moving. It might be easy and comfortable to stay on the couch in front of the television. Do the uncomfortable, get some fresh air.
3. Take out your journal and write a letter to your ex. Go deep and write about what you are feeling. Begin the letter with, “I forgive ___________ for______________ because__________.” Then, write a letter from your ex to you in response to your letter. Begin that letter with the same sentence. Keep writing until you have nothing else left to say.
4. Get a large piece of paper and your markers. Draw a picture of your ideal day. What would you be doing throughout it? What kind of relationship would you want in your ideal life? Write some description adjectives next your your pictures.  What color is dominate? Have fun and dream BIG!   When you complete your drawing, place it where you can see it every day.

Mid-Week Delight
Spend 5 minutes sitting quietly and focusing on your breath.

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20 Inspirational Quotes

By: Gloria Pierson

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We can learn from the wisdom of others. I love quotes from all sorts of people: mystics, celebrities, a wise children. Sometimes a quote is just the pick me up or encouragement we need at a given moment. This list below contains some of my favorites. You might consider printing it for the days when you need a lift.

1. If you dream it, you can do it. –Walt Disney
2. We become what we think about. – Earl Nightingale
3. Two roads diverged in a wood, and I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference. – Robert Frost
4. The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be. –Ralph Waldo Emerson
5. Certain things catch you eye, but pursue only those that capture the heart. – Ancient Indian Proverb
6. When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. – Lao Tzu
7. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. – Dalai Lama
8. Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. – Eleanor Roosevelt
9. Change your thoughts and you change your world. – Norman Vincent Peale
10. A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new. – Albert Einstein
11. All that you achieve an all that you fail to achieve is the direct result of your own thoughts. – James Allen
12. The soul cannot smile if the eyes did not cry. – Native American
13. There are no limitations to the mind except those we acknowledge. – Napoleon Hill
14. Whoever is happy will make others happy too. He who has courage and faith will never perish in misery. – Anne Frank
15. Happiness is not something readymade. It comes from your own actions. – Dalai Lama
16. The perfect love is the love within you. – Marianne Williamson
17. Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined. – Henry David Thoreau
18. Follow not others in your life. Follow your heart and each day will be yours, not somebody else’s. – Ron Rathbun
19. Fall seven times and stand up eight. – Japanese Proverb
20. You can’t us up creativity. The more you use, the more you have. – Maya Angelou

New Moon Ritual

By: Gloria Pierson

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On May 18 there is a new moon. New moons are times for new beginnings and fresh starts. New moons are turning points and a great time for manifestations. A new moon ritual helps you set your intentions for the next six months. Many different cultures and people have followed rituals for centuries. Think of the many rituals you have in your life today. Do you follow rituals at your place of worship, for birthday celebrations or for weddings?

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Rituals should fun, simple and authentic. Follow the steps below to perform your own new moon ritual.

1. Gather the following supplies: a candle, a stick of incense, matches, paper, pen, a journal, and soothing music. You can also collect any stones or crystals that have meaning for you.
2. Find a place in your home that you feel is sacred or that you feel peaceful.
3. Light a candle, light the incense and put on some soothing music.
4. Sit down and take a few deep breaths. Breathe beautiful white light into your heart area.
5. Say a prayer for inner guidance and clarity.
6. When you feel you are present and your mind is clear. Write down on the paper what you would like to bring into your life. What would you like to “grow”? To manifest? Try to make sure your intentions are truly what you believe you can attract, but, dream big.
7. When you are finished writing, at the bottom of your paper write, “And it is so.”  Sign your name and put the date.
8. Take a moment to say a prayer.
9. Write any thoughts or inspirations you have in your journal.
10. Take the paper and either burn it and blow the ashes in the wind outdoors or bury it in the garden to allow your intentions to “grow”.

Be flexible with the way the Universe will manifest your intentions.

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Homemade Gnocchi

By: Gloria Pierson

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One of my favorite hobbies and a favorite way to relax is cooking. It may be from my Italian heritage. In my house when I was growing up, everything revolved around food. I guess to this day, it still provides comfort to me. Cooking is a type of meditation for me. I immense myself in preparing a recipe and feel gratitude for anyone that had anything to do with bringing the food to my kitchen. The April recipe is for homemade gnocchi.
My Mom always made homemade gnocchi. It was a family favorite. She made hers with mashed potatoes. In my recipe, the gnocchi is made with ricotta cheese. They are lighter and more delicate than the ones made with mashed potatoes. What is really great, is that they are so easy to make. You will never buy prepared gnocchi again. This recipe serves four.
1 16 oz. container of whole-mild ricotta
1 large egg
½ cup grated Parmesan cheese
½ teaspoon salt
¾ cup flour
1. Set a strainer lined with paper towels over a bowl. Add the ricotta and let the cheese drain for about one hour.
2. In a large bowl, mix the strained ricotta, egg, cheese, and flour. Cover and refrigerate for 15 minutes.
3. Check the dough, it should be a little tacky. If it clings to your fingers, put a little more flour in, one teaspoon at a time. Refrigerate another 15 minutes.
4. Sprinkle a cookie sheet with flour.
5. Get the dough from the refrigerator. Sprinkle your hands with flour and also the counter you are working on. Grab a tennis ball size of the dough and roll it into a log shape. Cut the log into 3/4” pieces. Toss with a little flour on the baking sheet to prevent sticking. Repeat with the remaining dough.
6. You can cook them at this point or freeze them to use later. If cooking, boil a pot of water and add ½ of the gnocchi. Gently stir them, so they do not stick. When they come to the surface, reduce heat to medium and cook for 2 minutes. Remove with a slotted spoon. Repeat with the other half and serve with your favorite sauce.
7. If you are going to freeze them. Freeze them on the baking sheet. When they are frozen, put them in a zip lock bag. Cook them the same way.

Whatever is Good for the Soul Blog

By: Gloria Pierson

I was featured in the Blog Whatever is Good for the Soul.  The link below gives the complete interview.

 

Life Coach Specialist in Singletons & Divorcees:
Gloria Marie Pierson

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Today Gloria Marie Pierson shared her wonderful story and soul with us. Gloria is a well-renown life coach, specializing in singletons and divorcees. Listen to the story of her divorce, and how she managed to change it all. Gloria shares her to day to day life and really allows us to become inspired. 

For the complete interview, use the link below.

Whatever is Good for the Soul

My Morning Ritual

By: Gloria Pierson

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I have my morning ritual, it is a time that I cherish. I believe this time helps me stay centered and calm throughout the day. Most mornings, I get up early, while it is still dark and the world is quiet. I make myself a cup of coffee and retreat to my “meditation chair”. It is an over sized, comfortable chair with a large basket of inspirational books next to it. This hour that I spend every morning, is a gift to myself. Most days there are no startling insights: just time to pray, go deep into my soul, and be in God’s presence. This week try to give yourself a gift of silence each morning.
My morning ritual consists of meditation, journaling, inspirational reading and sitting in silence. I begin reading while enjoying my coffee. By my chair, I have several books to choose from. Next I meditate for about 20 minutes. This is followed by journaling and praying. Some days, I do not have the luxury of an hour and that is alright. This morning ritual has helped me transform my life from fear to peace and love.
Create Your Own Morning Ritual
1. Pick out a spot in your home that you can remain undisturbed. It is preferable to have a chair to sit on. If you do not have an hour to spend, try half an hour.
2. Inspirational Reading – Pick out several books to keep by your side. I like to have a variety depending on what my mood is. Currently I am reading, “New Seeds of Contemplation” by Thomas Merton. I also have a book of daily inspirational messages that I read right before my meditation. My old standby is “Around the Year with Emmet Fox”. I also enjoy, “The Book of Awakening” by Mark Nepo. I usually read for about 20 minutes while sipping my coffee.
3. Meditation – If you do not have a meditation practice, a breathing meditation may be the way to start. Sit silently and concentrate on your breath going in and out of your body. When thoughts come, just let them go. Do not engage the thoughts. Just breathe. I set a timer for 20 minutes.
4. Journaling – Buy a special journal that you will use just for this purpose. After meditation, I open my journal and begin to write. I let the pen just flow. Some mornings, I may write a letter to God.
5. Silence and Reflection – Before leave my chair, I spend a few minutes in quiet reflection and praying.
These are just my suggestions, be flexible and create your own morning ritual.
What are your favorite books for inspiration?

Ghosting in Dating

By: Gloria Pierson

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Another new term I learned about dating: ghosting.  This is so not ok and so disrespectful.  If you are dating, it has probably happened to you, but, you may not be familiar with the term. With texting, the Internet, and on-line dating, ghosting has become more prevalent, even though it is easier to communicate without a face to face confrontation. So, what is ghosting?  Well, you have been seeing someone for a while and then without any warning, you never hear from them again.  They have dropped off the face of the earth.  They just “ghosted” away from you. So here is how you can deal with ghosting in dating.

This happened to me last summer.  I had been dating someone for about 5 weeks. We lived in different cities and had plans to get together in the fall.  We exchanged emails in the early fall and that was it. I was ghosted without warning. Of course, I did what I will recommend you not do, I kept going over our last date and what I said or did wrong.  Online dating makes ghosting easier because they can just go on to the next one.  Sometimes I wish for the good old days when I took woodworking classes to meet men. By the way, I did not meet anyone to date in woodworking class, but, I made a beautiful cutting board and checker board.

What to do if you have been ghosted:

  1. Know that this is not cool. You are owed a better level of respect.
  2. Keep your dignity. Maybe text once to see if they are ok and that is it. If they do not respond, move on.
  3. Realize that you are not the problem. It was nothing that you said or did. As difficult as it may be to admit, he is a jerk and a coward. You deserve more.
  4. Be thankful that the relationship did not go further. This type of person is afraid of confrontation and it not relationship material
  5. If he does reappear, you need a sincere apology.

Have you ever been ghosted?  How did you handle it?

Valentine’s Day Alone

By: Gloria Pierson

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This week we celebrate Valentine’s Day. “Celebrate” may be too strong of a word if you are going to spend the day alone and single. Many of my single friends refuse to out on Valentine’s Day if they do not have a date. Well this year, even if you do not have a date, make it a great day filled with love for YOU! Pamper yourself, discover some things about yourself and maybe perform one of the love rituals.  You can enjoy a Valentine’s Day Alone.

If you are alone, would you rather be miserable with an ex? Probably not. Look at being alone as an opportunity to do whatever it is that you want. It is your choice to have a pity party today or make it a wonderful day. You do not need a man in your life to enjoy the day.

Begin by asking yourself these questions. They can provide insight into how you would like to pamper yourself.

1. If you had one year to live, what would be most important to you to do and be in that time?
2. What makes your heart sing?
3. What are ten things in life you would like to do purely for the fun of it?
4. What have you done in life that you would like to do more of?
5. What do you want to learn? What skills do you want to master?

Now, based on your answers to these questions, make an action plan to pamper yourself on Valentine’s Day. Do something special for yourself. Remember times as a child when you woke up on a summer morning so excited for the day ahead. Plan Valentine’s Day with that feeling in mind. So you wake up excited and filled with energy.

Remember the law of attraction: what you focus on you bring into your life. Try to not focus on the lack of a relationship in your life. Be grateful for what you do have in your life today. With this attitude, I doubt you will be alone on Valentine’s Day next year.

What are you planning to do on Valentine’s Day?