Category Archives: Dating

Change Your Energy to Attract Love

By: Gloria Pierson

CHANGE YOUR ENERGY TO ATTRACT LOVE
It is time to lighten up and let go of any negative or dark thoughts you have about yourself. Using the techniques in this video, you will create positive, affirming affirmations about yourself. Discover what you honor and appreciate about yourself and put it into a mirror practice daily. Raise your vibration to attract the love you desire.

Learning to Love Yourself Motivation

By: Gloria Pierson

Learn to love you: the incredible, amazing human being that you are. It is time to stop the negative self-talk and negative thinking. It is time to treat yourself with the same love and respect that you give to others. Start today with the tools discussed in this video on learning to love yourself motivation.

Attracting Love Into Your Life

By: Gloria Pierson

ATTRACTING LOVE INTO YOUR LIFE MEDITATION
Whether you want a romantic partner or new friends, learn to get in touch with your beautiful soul and raise your vibration to attract what you want. Project your beautiful soul energy that is connected to the Divine and become a magnetic of powerful energy. This guided meditation/visualization can be repeated daily to get you the incredible results that you deserve.

Attract Love Meditation

By: Gloria Pierson

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Manifest Love Meditation- Get comfortable, sit back, and relax with this guided meditation that will raise your vibration and help you attract love. You will get in touch with your heart center, your deep longings and send loving light to others. The more you repeat this, the more effective it will be.

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Healing From a Broken Heart

By: Gloria Pierson

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Try this two-step process to free yourself from anger, hurt, and resentment. Learn to move on and get your happy back.

5 Ways to Deal with a Broken Heart

By: Gloria Pierson

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Dating is part of a single women’s life. Having a broken heart at some point may become a reality. It hurts, it’s uncomfortable and many emotions will wash over you. I like to think of every relationship like a brick in the foundation of the new me I am creating. If one relationship doesn’t work out, maybe it prepared me in some way for the next one. After all, we are a work in progress, brick by brick. Try these 5 ways to deal with a broken heart.

When a relationship does not work out, I like to ask myself, “What was the lesson this situation has brought to me?” “How can I grow from this experience?” These are very powerful questions to ask yourself. Spend some quiet time, centered in the moment and think about this. The present moment is always the best teacher.

5 Ways to Deal with a Broken Heart

1. Try to avoid negative thoughts about yourself or your ex-boyfriend. Negative thinking does no good. Remember the law of attraction. Try to stay positive to attract more positivity into your life.
2. That beautiful shirt he bought you, either toss is out or box it up and get it out of your sight. This goes for anything that brings back strong memories about the relationship. If you cannot bear to throw something away: box it up, give it to someone or sell it. Physical items contain energy and you want new, fresh energy in your life.
3. Exercise. Exercise is a great way to release stress. Get moving. Walk, go to the gym, play tennis: the important point is to begin moving. It might be easy and comfortable to stay on the couch in front of the television. Do the uncomfortable, get some fresh air.

4. Pamper Yourself. Do something special for yourself. Some suggestions are: take a long, warm bath, get a massage, take a trip, go to the movies, get a manicure and pedicure, or visit a great restaurant.

5. Journal. – Spend some time journaling your feelings.  It is ok to be angry, depressed or sad.

 

What have you done to deal with a broken heart?

Introduce Your Boyfriend to Your Children

By: Gloria Pierson

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This is a question that comes up often. When should I introduce my children to my new boyfriend? There is not a straight forward answer, but, the first meeting should be planned. I also feel that unless you are in a serious relationship, it is best not to involve your children. So, how do you introduce your boyfriend to your children.

Personally, I used the three month rule. My sons would not meet anyone unless I had been seeing them three months. It just complicates matters and I always felt is best to leave my children’s lives separate, especially right after the divorce. Of course, this would vary with the age of your children. Mine at the time of my divorce were teenagers.

What I was naïve about what how to introduce them. Learn from my mistakes. My boys and I were going on a vacation with other family members. My boyfriend wanted to join us because we were going to celebrate my birthday. On the big day, I chose white water rafting as our activity. I love it and my sons and I have gone many times. My older son was a white water rafting guide and I thought, what better way to all get to know each other. Well, while most of us were having fun paddling through the rapids, my boyfriend was scared to death. He was holding on for dear life and was crouched down in the middle of the raft. This was not what I expected. We stopped dating shortly after that.

My sister thought the situation was so hilarious, that she bought an 11” X 14” photo of that famous river run and it still hangs in her house.

My advice:
1. Plan the introduction in a group setting, some easy, neutral activity.
2. Have no expectations of the outcome.
3. Remind your children, that your boyfriend will not replace their father. They have only one Mother and one Father.

What has worked for you?

4 Ways to Deal with a Broken Heart

By: Gloria Pierson

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The following is a chapter from my book, “Divorce the Divorce: a 52 Step Journey to Creating Unlimited Happiness”.  This chapter gives 4 ways to deal with a broken heart.

Chapter 12

Ways to Deal with a Broken Heart

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”
-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Dating is part of a single women’s life. Having a broken heart at some point may become a reality. It hurts, it’s uncomfortable, and many emotions will wash over you. I like to think of every relationship like a brick in the foundation of the new me I am creating. If one relationship doesn’t work out, maybe it prepared me in some way for the next one. After all, we are a work in progress, brick by brick, experience by experience.

A broken heart is not fun. But loss is a part of life. Congratulate yourself that you had the courage to love again. That is progress. You will get through this new loss, grow stronger and find love again.

When a relationship does not work out, I like to ask myself, “What was the lesson this situation has brought to me?” “How can I grow from this experience?” These are very powerful questions to ask yourself. Spend some quiet time centered in the moment and think about this. The present moment is always the best teacher. I try not to ignore my feeling of loss, despair, and helplessness, and I know in time I will heal once again. Until then, I treat myself with compassion and love.

Activity
1. Try to avoid negative thoughts about yourself or your ex-boyfriend. Negative thinking does no good. Remember the law of attraction. Try to stay positive to attract more positivity into your life. Use affirmations to remain positive.
Some to try:
I am healing.
I have faith that the Universe will fill my life with love and joy.
I am creating happiness in my life.
2. That beautiful shirt he bought you, either toss it out or box it up and get it out of your sight. This goes for anything that brings back strong memories about the relationship. If you cannot bear to throw something away, box it up, give it to someone or sell it. Physical items contain energy, and you want new, fresh energy in your life. Exercise. Exercise is a great way to release stress. Get moving. Walk, go to the gym or play tennis: the important point is to begin moving. It might be easy and comfortable to stay on the couch in front of the television. Do the uncomfortable, get some fresh air.
3. Take out your journal and write a letter to your ex. Go deep and write about what you are feeling. Begin the letter with, “I forgive ___________ for______________ because__________.” Then, write a letter from your ex to you in response to your letter. Begin that letter with the same sentence. Keep writing until you have nothing else left to say.
4. Get a large piece of paper and your markers. Draw a picture of your ideal day. What would you be doing throughout it? What kind of relationship would you want in your ideal life? Write some description adjectives next your your pictures.  What color is dominate? Have fun and dream BIG!   When you complete your drawing, place it where you can see it every day.

Mid-Week Delight
Spend 5 minutes sitting quietly and focusing on your breath.

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Online Dating Tips for Men

By: Gloria Pierson

Online dating sites are the norm these days. I have written several blogs about tips for women, but, today I decided to write some online dating tips for men, based on my experiences on several of the sites.

1. Age – Do not lie about your age. A lie is a lie. Many times when I would talk to a man for the first time, he would say, “My pictures are recent and everything in my profile is correct except my age. For searching purposes I put in a younger age”. Please, if my profile says I prefer not to date someone over the age of 64, why would he think it is ok that you are 69? Be honest.
2. Photos – My advice, no selfies. Also, wear a shirt. I did not like seeing a bare chest in the main picture. Would you show up on a first date like that? And, smile, a mean look is not appealing. Online dating is scary enough for me. I do not need someone that looks ready for a fight. Photos with you and Mom are not the greatest to put either.
3. “What I am looking for”– List something other than physical characteristics. So many profiles would say: someone athletic and in great shape. I am more than my physical body.
4. Spell check your profile.
5. Do not use “lol”. Way overused.
6. Try to make your profile positive. So many man would list things they do not want. For example, “If you are looking for someone to take care of you, I am not the guy”. A huge list of demands tells me you are close minded.
7. Height and weight. – Be honest, get on the scale and get out the yard stick, do not misguide either.
8. Avoid the terms: honey, sweetie, and cutie. That tells me you are in contact with lots and lots of ladies and cannot remember their names.

What other advice do you have for men?

Online Dating Tips

By: Gloria Pierson

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One in 10 Americans are actively involved in online dating. Have you ever tried it? I have tried most of the popular dating sites. I, like most people, get tired of the process. But, my philosophy is, if you don’t try, you are 100% assured of meeting no one online. As one of my dear friends says, “A man is not just going to show up on our front porch”.

There is a new study about online dating tips that was published in the Journal of Evidenced Based Medicine. The study was done by two doctors, Dr. Khan and Dr. Chaudhry. Dr. Chaudhry’s online dating attempts were not successful. So they decided to research the data and study it in the hopes of improving Dr. Chaudhry chances of success. They focused on 86 studies. This is what they found.

1. Success begins with choosing a user name. Men prefer user names that are linked to a physical trait. (Like Cutie). Women prefer user names that show intelligence. Both sexes like playful names.
2. User names from the first half of the alphabet do better than user names from the last half of the alphabet.
3. Successful profiles are divided by 70:30 ratio. Seventy percent of the profile with personal information and 30% gives a description of the desired partner.
4. Honest, likable profiles with humor were desirable.
5. Photos showing the user standing and smiling worked the best.
6. The best profiles were not too perfect.

Maybe it is time to redo you online profile using the above research tips. I think it is a good idea to have a friend read your profile. You may be omitting some great qualities about yourself. It is also good to add some new photos. Mix things up a bit.

You might also try some online dating apps. They are gaining in popularity. Tinder and The League are two popular ones. The important thing with any dating is to be smart and careful.