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How to Deal With Betrayal

By: Gloria Marie

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How to Deal With Betrayal by a Friend

Betrayal by a friend is awful and hurtful, however, if you carry around bitterness or hostility you are zapping your own energy. The only one that continues to suffer will be you. It is like drinking poison! You do not need to condone or agree with their treatment of you. But, bitterness only hurts your energy. Like attracts like and you certainly do not want to attract more of the same. You want to attract loving, kind, and trustworthy friends into your life. Wish the betrayer well and cast if off. Spend your energy on thinking and attracting the type of true friends that you deserve. You cannot change what they did, you can only control your thoughts going forward. #betrayal #friendbetrayal

 

The Preciousness of Life

By: Gloria Marie

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Our lives unfold in Divine Order every day, yet the surrender to this is difficult. We worry about the past and the future. We get upset if things do not go our way and spend tons of energy being upset. This energy would be better directed to see the wonder and beauty that we have in our lives daily. Sometimes, if we are lucky, we are reminded of the preciousness of life. It happened to me this past week.

A dear friend of mine was admitted to Hospice this past week. My sister and I went late one evening to see her and to pray. Being in Hospice so late at night there was silence. The silence of acceptance. It was peaceful and serene. James Finely said in a retreat that I attended, “In Hospice, no one recovers, but, some people are healed. That is compassion.” At Hospice, there is surrender to Divine Order.

The next morning, the sky looked bluer than I had seen it in a while. The flowers and landscape in my backyard were beautiful. The air smelled so crisp and fresh. I felt alive and grateful for the day before me. Not that the day was perfect, rarely is a day perfect. But, I once again realized the preciousness of the simple things in life.

Many parts of our lives and days are spent in limbo, waiting for the future, perfect day instead of being fully alive today. Are there clothes in your closet that you wear only on special occasions? How about the cologne on your dresser that you rarely use? What else are you holding onto for the “just in case” future event?

Today is that special day! Look around you and be grateful for all the blessings in your life. Open your heart and feel the preciousness of life.

This is a helpful prayer to say in the morning.

“Divine Order takes charge in my life today and every day. All things work together for me today. This is a new and wonderful day for me. I am divinely guided all day long.”

Remove Toxic Ties from Your Life

By: Gloria Marie

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Toxic relationships can poison your life. Would you put toxic chemicals in your body? More than likely, you try to avoid them. Toxic relationships drain your time, your energy, and your self-esteem. You know when you are in this type of relationship. You may feel tired, mistreated, and give more than you receive. These relationships can be with a lover, a friend, a family member or an ex-husband. You have the power to remove toxic ties from your life.

Recently, I cut a toxic tie with a friend. He continually disappointed me, and I allowed it. It took one last huge disappointment, and I said enough! I would no longer tolerate this type of treatment. I kept hoping for a change that may never occur, and the only one suffering was me. Once I made that decision, I felt more in control of my life.

A toxic relationship is like a computer virus that grows and grows. It may start small and go unnoticed, but, eventually, you see that your computer is not working quite right. The next day you may notice something else different about your computer as the virus continues to evade your hard drive. While in a toxic relationship, you may not be aware of the compromises initially, they will grow gradually, but, one day you realize you can no longer put up with the lies, the lack of respect or the constant drain on your time and energy. When that day arrives, you then must have the courage to cut the tie.

What you tolerate will happen again and again. It is like watching a movie or reading a book and hoping for a different ending. That is not going to happen. Releasing this type of relationship requires courage. It is not your fault that you are in a relationship of this type. But, you can do something about it because there is a huge cost.

1. If you are stuck in a toxic relationship ask yourself why you are stuck?
2. If it is a romantic relationship, do you believe that you do not deserve real love?
3. Set healthy boundaries and do not feel guilty about it. Or you may have to avoid contact altogether.
4. Ask yourself, what difference would it make in your life if this energy drainer was out of your life?

Have the courage to release. Do not tolerate mistreatment.

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How to Trust Your Inner Guidance

By: Gloria Marie

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It seems whenever there is dissatisfaction in our lives, we become more impressionable. At times like these, there is a tendency to allow the opinions of others to affect our lives. We get caught in the currents of change and grasp for input. I am not saying that friends and family are not well meaning, they want you to be happy, successful, and content. But, the best guidance is your inner guidance and your connection with God, Infinite Intelligence. How to trust your inner guidance and gain confidence in your choices?
Always remember, there is a place you are to fill, and no one can fill it, something you are to do. That is why God created you to be on this earth. You have a special role to fill. You may not be sure of what it is, but, in silence and with a connection to God, your heart and soul will reveal it to you. There may be baby steps along the way, but, learning to trust your inner guidance and rejoice in the present moment, you will get there.
Trusting yourself may be uncomfortable for you at first, especially if you have allowed others to make your choices. Or you may be nervous that you will not succeed or that you will appear foolish. To reach your dreams, you could have setbacks or look foolish. So, what? Only you know what is right for you.
Every performance an actor has in a movie does not win an Academy Award. Some of my favorite actors had incredible performances in wonderful movies, yet, they were not nominated. Does that stop them from accepting the next role? No, because they are filling their place that no one else can fill. And, so can you.
Take the direct, straight route to find your life purpose and follow your dreams. Spend time in silence, asking God for guidance. Try lighting a candle and put your ideas in a journal. Remember, you are on this magnificent Earth for a reason. Learn to trust your inner guidance and move courageously forward.

Learn to Let Go of Irritation

By: Gloria Marie

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Our thoughts carry tremendous energy. Usually, when we are irritated, angry, or upset, our thoughts are charged with super power. However, this is not the super power that we want or that we need. The more we concentrate on what is bothering us, the more control we give to those thoughts that do us no good. You can learn to let go of irritation; it takes letting go of the pull the thoughts have on your consciousness.

When my boys were young, I would read them a book called, “When You Give a Moose a Muffin.” In the story, the moose would get a muffin, but, then he would want something else, and this went on and on. The moose was never satisfied with the muffin or anything else. It is similar to our thoughts and our minds. If we let the pull of energy control us, we can never be satisfied.

For example, you may be shopping and see a beautiful dress that you would like to buy, but, cannot afford. You leave the store, and you are still thinking about the dress. Then you begin to think about your job that you don’t like and that you would like to have a job with a better salary. Then you begin to think that you do not like the area that you live, and maybe you should just move and get a new job. It goes on and on, and you become more and more irritated.

So, how to let the irritation go? The minute you begin to feel the pull of energy from the irritation. Relax, take a deep breath and let it go. You can let yourself be bothered by this, or you can be in freedom and let it go. Of course, you may still want the dress, but, it does not have to ruin your day or your mood. Relax, release and let go. Try to relax your shoulders and the area around your heart.

Relax, Release, Let Go

Next time you are at a light, and someone honks at you, try this technique. Relax, release and let go. Be willing to let the irritation go. It is your choice.

Secret to Doing Dreaded Tasks Mindfully

By: Gloria Marie

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We all have some tasks or chores that we dread to do. It maybe you worked all day and are exhausted, but, your family is waiting for you to cook dinner. Or it a beautiful Saturday morning and you would love to play golf, but, instead you must mow the grass. Can you think of a time something similar applied to you? Usually the problem is we do not stay in the present moment. Our minds are racing to the future and wishing our time could be spent in another way. There is a secret to doing dreaded tasks mindfully.

The secret is just that: do the dreaded tasks mindfully. Stay in the present moment and give it your complete attention. The jobs will get done quicker and you could find peace and solace in the present moment. We can spend so much energy resisting instead of surrendering.

Surrender to the present moment do not resist it.

When my boys were young, I was starting up a business. If you have ever done that, it takes more time and more money than even the most conservative business plan projected. The boys school was 30 -40 minutes from my office. After working all day, I would rush to pick them up, silently hoping that I would not be the last Mother at pick up. Then I would drive home and make dinner. I dreaded cooking dinner. I was tired and just wanted to relax.

My spiritual teacher at the time suggested I turn that cooking time into a time of prayer and meditation. Instead of dreading and resisting, figure a way to make it relaxing and contemplative. So, on Sundays, I would sit down and plan all the menus for the week. I challenged myself to try new recipes and I would go to the store and buy all the groceries needed. In time, it worked. Cooking dinner was relaxing and meditative to me. To this day, when I have had a crazy day, I love to cook a meal.

The other day I was speaking with a family member and I inquired about her parents. They just had a huge snow storm late in the season. She said her Dad was happy for the snow because it gave him one more chance to shovel the long driveway. Instead of dreading what could be an unpleasant task, he relished the solitude and considered it a meditation. He would shovel zig zags and other designs in the snow instead of shoveling straight boring lines.

There is a wonderful little book titled, “The Practice of the Presence of God” by Brother Lawrence. Brother Lawrence was a monk in the Carmelite Order in the 1600’s. He disliked cooking and being in the kitchen. Well, as you could probably guess, that was his job, to wash dishes. Brother Lawrence, felt he was just as close to God while in the kitchen as when he was attending mass in church. He spent his time while washing dishes in prayer and communication with God.

We are all creative human beings. Next time that dreaded task needs to be done, think creatively on how to make it a special, meditative time for you. Find solace in the situation and surrender to the moment.

Perfect Gift Book

By: Gloria Marie

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This adorable book is filled with inspiring messages and beautiful, uplifting illustrations. It is the perfect book to give someone that you want to comfort, support or encourage. The messages are timeless and can be read over and over. Some of the topics include: happiness, growth, karma, forgiveness and calm. “Open when: Letters to lift your spirit” is also a great gift to give to yourself and keep it on your desk. Sometimes we need to think more positively, but, we get stuck in old habits and ways of thinking. This book will help you become unstuck with the uplifting passages. The book is arranged with envelopes that you unfold in an origami-like way to find the inspirational reading. There are twelve different envelopes to explore. The author, Karen Salmansohn, is considered a happiness expert and her newest book will have you find happiness and support. This will be my go-to gift book. It is a treasure.
One of my favorite messages:
Open when you need a booster shot of motivation……. When feeling overwhelmed by a faraway goal, repeat the following: I have it within me right now to get me to where I want to be later.

Inspired by the trend of “open when” letters sweeping the nation, Instant Happy author Karen Salmansohn has created a bound collection of 12 notes for readers to flip open whenever they need a pep talk. With categories like “Open when you need a laugh,” “Open when you’re feeling stressed out,” and “Open when you need courage,” these little happiness-boosters are based on Salmansohn’s viral posters that combine witty sayings with colorful graphics.
I received this book from Blogging for Books to write this review.

Discover Your Gold Mine

By: Gloria Marie

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This is a from I book I am writing on dealing with fears. This is Chapter One, Discover Your Gold Mine.

We carry a gold mine with us all day long. It is at our disposable whenever we want to access it. Would your day have been different if you knew you had a gold mine with you? Our gold mine is our sub-conscious mind. It never sleeps, it does not judge and has no ego. It oversees our organs. It is what keeps us breathing at night. It never sleeps. The sub-conscious mind is our imagination, our intuition. It is what is aligned with God, Infinite Intelligence or the Universe.

Our mind has two spheres: the conscious and sub-conscious mind. The conscious mind is our ego. It is that chatter that we hear in our head all day long. Most of the chatter is negative. It is the sphere of our human mind that sees life as it is. It sees death, disaster, sickness, and limitation. It is that voice in your head that says: “You really think you can be successful? You are not good enough.” The conscious mind rules logic, judgement, and reason.

The conscious mind is the “Gate” to the sub-conscious mind. Whatever your conscious mind chooses to believe and focus on, the sub-conscious mind will accept it and bring it to pass. This is fantastic news because you can choose your thoughts. You can choose thoughts of limitation, fear of failure, fear of poverty, or fear of being alone. Or, you can choose thoughts of love, happiness, or abundance. This is your gold mind because if you learn to control your thoughts, you can change your life. Your mind does not control you.

Have you ever had a problem to think about before you went to sleep at night and in the morning, you knew the answer. This happens to me if I lose something. I will think about it before I go to sleep and in the morning, I know exactly where to find it. This is your sub-conscious mind at work during the night. It is open to a source much greater than ourselves. It is our Infinite Intelligences.

Your sub-consious mind it the book of your life. You have the power to rewrite the blueprint of you mind. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Man is what he thinks about all day long.” This is one of the most important principals to conquering your fears. You can and will learn to expect the best.

The conscious mind is the mind of the body. It remembers all our victories and our failures in this lifetime. It sees restriction. The conscious mind grows old and dislikes change. That is our ego. The sub-conscious mind is the mind of spirit. It sees endless possibilities. It has no limitations because it is aligned with God.

Think of a garden. It is filled with beautiful flowers, but, sometimes weeds grow in your garden. You have the power to water the seeds of peace, harmony, love and health in your garden. Also, the power to pull out any weeds. By learning to control your thoughts, you can reap a harvest and control your fears to move confidently in life. You can pull out the weeds of fear and limitation.

Morning Practice
“By first becoming aware of my thoughts, I can learn to control them.”
What would you like to bring into your life? What flowers would you like to water and grow? Write down three things you would like to bring into your life.

What weeds would you like to pull out of your life? Write down three fears you would like to remove from your life.

During the day, when your thoughts become fearful, try to remember the three “flowers” you would like. Imagine the happy ending or solution to your fears.

Remember, our thoughts become things.

Affirmation – I am not my thoughts.
You are an incredible human being with many talents and excellent qualities. Our ego tries to tell us otherwise. When the ego begins go talk to you today, say today’s affirmation.

Evening Practice
Spend a few minutes relaxing, then, get out your journal. Draw a large circle that will represent your mind. Draw lines from the circle and write some thoughts from your day. What was your mind telling you today? Were the thoughts mainly positive or negative? If there were negative thoughts, write a positive thought next to it. Remember we are beginning to program our sub-conscious mind with thoughts of possibilities.

What could you have done differently today to control your thoughts? Did you remember to use your affirmation?

Do not be hard on yourself, change will take patience and time. First comes awareness and then change.

Pick one positive thought and write it on an index card. Put it next to your pillow. Before you go to sleep tonight, silently say it to yourself.

Expect the best!

The Hum of Angels

By: Gloria Marie

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Most of us believe in angels for three main reasons: references in the Bible, experience with angels and Christian art. In the Bible alone, there are over three hundred references to angels. “The Hum of Angels” is filled with hundreds of references from the Bible and real-life stories of people that encountered angels.

Scott McKnight, the author, believes that angels are messengers from God and that angels are active in our world and all around us even when we do not take notice of them. It was fascinating to read that not all angel experiences are the same. Most people see angels as the traditional figure dressed in white. However, other experience angles as human-like figures, a scent of some sort or a bright light.

Angels provide God’s presence by expressing God’s love, confirming God’s presence, and they bring God’s comfort. The many stories were fascinating. Angels provided comfort during death and rescued people. McKnight writes, “That angels are all around us even when we don’t take notice of them. We are wise to believe they surround us, rather than expect them to announce themselves.” They appear when God thinks something special is needed.

One story gave an example of a women that did not listen to the hum of angels. She was scheduled for a cosmetic surgery procedure. She had to keep delaying the time because her baby sitter was late and got a flat tire. The sitter finally arrived over two hours late and she had the procedure. Of course, it went into complications. The angels intercede, but, we must listen to the hum.

The core teaching from the Bible about angels:
God is Love.
All that God does is loving.
God sends angels to us because God loves us.

I recommend this book. It will fill you with hope and love and you will most likely pay attention for the hum of angels.

I received this book for Blogging for Books to write this review.