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Secret to Doing Dreaded Tasks Mindfully

By: Gloria Marie

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We all have some tasks or chores that we dread to do. It maybe you worked all day and are exhausted, but, your family is waiting for you to cook dinner. Or it a beautiful Saturday morning and you would love to play golf, but, instead you must mow the grass. Can you think of a time something similar applied to you? Usually the problem is we do not stay in the present moment. Our minds are racing to the future and wishing our time could be spent in another way. There is a secret to doing dreaded tasks mindfully.

The secret is just that: do the dreaded tasks mindfully. Stay in the present moment and give it your complete attention. The jobs will get done quicker and you could find peace and solace in the present moment. We can spend so much energy resisting instead of surrendering.

Surrender to the present moment do not resist it.

When my boys were young, I was starting up a business. If you have ever done that, it takes more time and more money than even the most conservative business plan projected. The boys school was 30 -40 minutes from my office. After working all day, I would rush to pick them up, silently hoping that I would not be the last Mother at pick up. Then I would drive home and make dinner. I dreaded cooking dinner. I was tired and just wanted to relax.

My spiritual teacher at the time suggested I turn that cooking time into a time of prayer and meditation. Instead of dreading and resisting, figure a way to make it relaxing and contemplative. So, on Sundays, I would sit down and plan all the menus for the week. I challenged myself to try new recipes and I would go to the store and buy all the groceries needed. In time, it worked. Cooking dinner was relaxing and meditative to me. To this day, when I have had a crazy day, I love to cook a meal.

The other day I was speaking with a family member and I inquired about her parents. They just had a huge snow storm late in the season. She said her Dad was happy for the snow because it gave him one more chance to shovel the long driveway. Instead of dreading what could be an unpleasant task, he relished the solitude and considered it a meditation. He would shovel zig zags and other designs in the snow instead of shoveling straight boring lines.

There is a wonderful little book titled, “The Practice of the Presence of God” by Brother Lawrence. Brother Lawrence was a monk in the Carmelite Order in the 1600’s. He disliked cooking and being in the kitchen. Well, as you could probably guess, that was his job, to wash dishes. Brother Lawrence, felt he was just as close to God while in the kitchen as when he was attending mass in church. He spent his time while washing dishes in prayer and communication with God.

We are all creative human beings. Next time that dreaded task needs to be done, think creatively on how to make it a special, meditative time for you. Find solace in the situation and surrender to the moment.

Discover Your Gold Mine

By: Gloria Marie

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This is a from I book I am writing on dealing with fears. This is Chapter One, Discover Your Gold Mine.

We carry a gold mine with us all day long. It is at our disposable whenever we want to access it. Would your day have been different if you knew you had a gold mine with you? Our gold mine is our sub-conscious mind. It never sleeps, it does not judge and has no ego. It oversees our organs. It is what keeps us breathing at night. It never sleeps. The sub-conscious mind is our imagination, our intuition. It is what is aligned with God, Infinite Intelligence or the Universe.

Our mind has two spheres: the conscious and sub-conscious mind. The conscious mind is our ego. It is that chatter that we hear in our head all day long. Most of the chatter is negative. It is the sphere of our human mind that sees life as it is. It sees death, disaster, sickness, and limitation. It is that voice in your head that says: “You really think you can be successful? You are not good enough.” The conscious mind rules logic, judgement, and reason.

The conscious mind is the “Gate” to the sub-conscious mind. Whatever your conscious mind chooses to believe and focus on, the sub-conscious mind will accept it and bring it to pass. This is fantastic news because you can choose your thoughts. You can choose thoughts of limitation, fear of failure, fear of poverty, or fear of being alone. Or, you can choose thoughts of love, happiness, or abundance. This is your gold mind because if you learn to control your thoughts, you can change your life. Your mind does not control you.

Have you ever had a problem to think about before you went to sleep at night and in the morning, you knew the answer. This happens to me if I lose something. I will think about it before I go to sleep and in the morning, I know exactly where to find it. This is your sub-conscious mind at work during the night. It is open to a source much greater than ourselves. It is our Infinite Intelligences.

Your sub-consious mind it the book of your life. You have the power to rewrite the blueprint of you mind. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Man is what he thinks about all day long.” This is one of the most important principals to conquering your fears. You can and will learn to expect the best.

The conscious mind is the mind of the body. It remembers all our victories and our failures in this lifetime. It sees restriction. The conscious mind grows old and dislikes change. That is our ego. The sub-conscious mind is the mind of spirit. It sees endless possibilities. It has no limitations because it is aligned with God.

Think of a garden. It is filled with beautiful flowers, but, sometimes weeds grow in your garden. You have the power to water the seeds of peace, harmony, love and health in your garden. Also, the power to pull out any weeds. By learning to control your thoughts, you can reap a harvest and control your fears to move confidently in life. You can pull out the weeds of fear and limitation.

Morning Practice
“By first becoming aware of my thoughts, I can learn to control them.”
What would you like to bring into your life? What flowers would you like to water and grow? Write down three things you would like to bring into your life.

What weeds would you like to pull out of your life? Write down three fears you would like to remove from your life.

During the day, when your thoughts become fearful, try to remember the three “flowers” you would like. Imagine the happy ending or solution to your fears.

Remember, our thoughts become things.

Affirmation – I am not my thoughts.
You are an incredible human being with many talents and excellent qualities. Our ego tries to tell us otherwise. When the ego begins go talk to you today, say today’s affirmation.

Evening Practice
Spend a few minutes relaxing, then, get out your journal. Draw a large circle that will represent your mind. Draw lines from the circle and write some thoughts from your day. What was your mind telling you today? Were the thoughts mainly positive or negative? If there were negative thoughts, write a positive thought next to it. Remember we are beginning to program our sub-conscious mind with thoughts of possibilities.

What could you have done differently today to control your thoughts? Did you remember to use your affirmation?

Do not be hard on yourself, change will take patience and time. First comes awareness and then change.

Pick one positive thought and write it on an index card. Put it next to your pillow. Before you go to sleep tonight, silently say it to yourself.

Expect the best!

Holidays are Over, Now What?

By: Gloria Marie

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Holidays are over, now what? We are entering the second week of the new year. How are those New Year Resolutions going? Do you feel stuck? Restless? Unhappy? That is a normal feeling after the holidays. It is sort of a letdown because we are back to the same old routines. Do any of these sound familiar?

I am going to meditate every day. Instead, I need more sleep.
I am going to start a diet and lose 10 pounds. Instead, maybe I will wait until February.
I am going to work out every day. Instead, it is so hard fitting in time to go to the gym.
I am going to spend less time on social media. Instead, I just need to check in a few minutes.
I am going to look for a new job. Instead, it is such a hassle, I might as well stay where I am.

Maybe your resolutions were too aggressive or too broad. All the examples I gave above are too broad. They are written for failure. It is easier to be more gentle with yourself and break up these goals into smaller steps. Small success can translate into larger accomplishments. Smaller steps will also keep you motivated to keep going.

I am going to meditate every day. Instead, twice a week, I will meditate for five minutes either in the morning or in the evening.

I am going to start a diet and lose 10 pounds. Instead, I will have a protein shake every morning and not eat after 8:00 pm. I hope to lose 3 pounds in the next month.

I am going to work out every day. Instead, I will go to the gym or walk for 30 minutes twice a week.

I am going to spend less time on social media. Instead, I will check my social media accounts one time a day for less than 15 minutes.

I am going to look for a new job. Instead, I am going to redo my resume and apply for a minimum of 5 jobs a week.

These are just examples. You can tailor them to fit your needs. The important point is that you write your resolutions in objective terms that can be measured. That is how you will be motivated to continue. If you did not write any resolutions, this can also be applied to any parts of your life you would like to see change.

You can do whatever you put your mind to. Break your goals into smaller steps. I know you can do it! Make 2017 a year you tackle some parts of your life that you would like to change.

5 Ways to Survive the Holiday Season

By: Gloria Marie

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There are so many commitments and expectations this time of year, in addition to your normal, daily responsibilities. It is easy to get caught up in the “should” instead of what you would really like to do. When I get caught up in the should, I find that I miss the very essence of the holiday season. Try these 5 ways to survive the holiday season, I know I am going to put them into practice. You can survive and actually enjoy the season.

1. Go with the Flow – When the unexpected happens or your plans go awry, do not resist what is happening, go with the flow. It is probably out of your control anyway, so, why stress. I had a friend call me last week on her way to the airport. The traffic was horrendous and she was afraid she was going to miss her flight. Instead of stressing, she knew there was nothing she could do about it, she took a deep breath and surrendered the need to control the outcome. Our initial instinct would be to have our minds race with all possible scenarios, usually negative ones. Instead, just go with the flow. She ended up making the flight!
2. Check Off One Item on Your to Do List – If you look over that list, there is probably one item you can remove. Usually that item is at the bottom of the list anyway. Ask yourself, if it is important to get it done or is it just kind of nice to get it done?
3. Exercise – Any type of exercise, even a brisk walk will relieve stress and help clear your mind at the same time. When I am busy, it is very easy for me to find every excuse in the world to not exercise, when that is probably the one thing that would be the most beneficial.
4. Do Something Special for Someone – This helps to get the emphasis off “YOU!” It could be a simple as making a phone call to someone you have not talked to. Or sending an unexpected gift or card to someone.
5. Do Something Special for Yourself – Take time to nurture yourself in whatever way that is. Celebrate yourself at this special time of year. You deserve it.

What Do You Believe?

By: Gloria Marie

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What do you believe? Do you believe that life is difficult? That happiness is not within your reach? That poverty and suffering are normal? If those are your beliefs, then that is exactly what your life will be like. We are meant to have lives filled with peace, love and abundance. That is what God wants for us. If we are not living our lives in this way, we have gotten off track.

Living in the light is living with God. Light gives us strength and confidence to follow our dreams. Darkness only increases our weakness. We have two spheres of our mind: the bodily mind and the spirit mind. The bodily mind or ego is that constant chatter in our head. “You are not enough: not good enough, not bright enough, not pretty enough.” All that is chatter and that chatter puts us off track from being in the light.

When we live in the light miracles occur. That is when we are aligned with our spirit mind and God. Our spirit mind wants us to look past appearances and keep our steady gaze on our dreams. We are not our body. Faith keeps us focused on the life we want and deserve.

Of course, when we live in the light, we will not be problem free. That is simply not the case, but, the spaces and recovery time between the problems will grow less because of our faith.

How do we stay in the light? By prayer and spending time in quiet leaving our weakness behind. A Course in Miracles says, “Faith goes to what you want, and you instruct your mind accordingly.” Believe in yourself, believe in the light, believe in happiness and that is what you will bring into your life.

God is the Presence, Love, and Power in you that conquers all.

Soul Healing

By: Gloria Marie

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When we are ill and go to the Doctor, we most likely follow their orders. Perhaps we need more testing or there is a medicine that we need to take. If the Doctor suggests more exercise, we might consider to begin an exercise program. Likewise, when we are hurt emotionally, we take the necessary steps to heal. It might be talking to a therapist or being gentle with ourselves. However, these are just one aspect of healing. We tend to forget about soul healing.

True healing cannot take place without healing our soul. All healing begins internally and then the external can change. We need to get in touch with our Inner Self and God for true healing to begin. Soul healing is everlasting. It is what brings us joy that never ends.

Consider how much time we all spend daily on social media, emails, surfing the web and looking at our phones. Would not some of that time be better spent on healing our souls? Just ten minutes a day in meditation, can connect you with your Inner Self, put you closer to God and bring you peace.

Paramahansa Yogananda was a great spiritual teacher and healer. Many people would come to him for healing and over time he became frustrated because people were only interested in physical healing. Once they were cured, he would never see them again. He wanted them to do soul healing because we all have the power to heal ourselves. Paramahansa Yogananda was not the healer, God was the healer working through him. It was his strong, unwavering faith in God that did the miraculous healing.

We can begin today to heal our souls. Meditation is one way to begin. Self-healing also includes treating everyone with love and respect, proper diet and exercise. Self-healing puts our faith in God and his power. Think only positive thoughts and practice mindfulness. Then, you too can heal your soul and have everlasting joy!

The Subconscious Mind is Your Gold Mine

By: Gloria Marie

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The subconscious mind is your gold mine.  It does what we tell it to do. There are not two minds. There are merely two spheres of activity within one mind: the conscious and sub-conscious mind.

The conscious mind  is our thoughts and our ego. It is the human mind that sees life as it is. It sees death, disaster, sickness, poverty and limitation. It impresses the sub-conscious and is called the “Watchman of the Gate” of the sub-conscious mind. With it we choose what we want to think. What we want to be. What we want to do and what we want to have. The conscious mind rules logic, judgement, and reason. Whatever your conscious mind chooses to believe, your sub-conscious mind will accept it and bring it to pass. The great part is that we can choose our thoughts. For example, instead of saying, “I can’t” say  “I can” and that will come to pass.

Our sub-conscious mind takes orders from the conscious mind. It does not judge and has no ego, it just carries out the orders in amazing detail: both positive and negative. It never sleeps. It is in charge of our organs and our breathing. It is our imagination and intuition. It is what connects us to Infinite Intelligence. For example, if you say, “I cannot get that job,” You wish will be granted. Once it accepts an idea, it begins to execute it. Have you ever had a problem that you thought about before going to sleep and then you woke up and knew the answer. The answer came from your sub-conscious mind, it never sleeps. Your sub-conscious mind is your gold mine!!!

I like to use the analogy of a garden. We can plant seeds in the sub-conscious mind of peace, harmony, health, abundance and good will. They will grow. Positive statements are like water and fertilizer, so, you can reap your harvest and move confidently in life. Negative thoughts and statements are like weeds in your garden, get rid of them, pull them out!

You can control your thoughts and your mind. Your mind does not control you.

 

The Magic of Believing

By: Gloria Marie

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What does success mean to you? Success is different for everyone. To one person, it might be lots of money. To another, a powerful position. To another a wonderful, loving relationship. Using the magic of believing with creative thinking, you can achieve success.

Lot of people work hard, but, are not successful. Hard work alone is not enough to achieve you dreams. You must believe in them and have a very clear picture of what it is you want. A vague picture of success will not bring it to you. You must have a burning desire to achieve your objective of success.

Aimlessly drifting through life, like a log going down a river, will not bring you your desires. You must first determine in very clear terms what it is you desire. You must visualize it and clearly picture yourself as successful.

The visualization charges your sub-conscious mind. Our sub-conscious mind is a powerhouse of energy and has the resources to give you the strength, courage and faith to reach your dreams. That is the magic of believing. You must see yourself as successful and believe it for the sub-conscious mind to do its job.

1. The first step is to get a very clear picture what you want.
2. Next, write it down and refer to it often. Get the burning desire!!
3. Wait patiently for your sub-conscious mind to do its job.

Some questions to help you develop that clear desire.

What is your goal?
What will your life be like after you have achieved everything you want?
How does it feel?
Who is there with you?
What are your ideal surroundings like?
What can you smell?
What do you look like?
What are you wearing?

Start today to put those goals for success in concrete terms. Feel it, believe it. That is the magic of believing and it works!

Be Still and Know That I Am God

By: Gloria Marie

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“Be Still and Know That I am God” is probably one of the greatest verses in the Bible. This verse alone can help us deal with fear and anxiety. It reminds us to stop and focus on God alone. But, often in our crazy, busy, daily life we forget to practice that. We are usually more conditioned to accept the fear and anxiety as a part of our life struggles.

It has been said that Buddha did a whole silent lecture once. He merely gazed at a flower. The beauty in a flower is the same beauty we all have inside of us. It is our God nature that we can access if we become still.

Yesterday I had the privilege of driving through Yellowstone National Park. I was really lucky because I was not the one driving, I was fortunate to sit back and absorb the beauty of this great National Park. It was in the silence of the drive that I marveled how great God is and in the stillness I felt a part of the incredible beauty and nature that I saw.

The beauty was sometimes in the smallest of things. The way the sun was reflecting on a river, the different mineral colors in the mountains, or an elk quietly grazing or the perfect timing of Old Faithful geyser erupting every 90 minutes. My thoughts kept going to: Be still and know that I am God. I felt love, joy, and peace.

You can access this same feeling. One easy way is when difficulties arise, turn your thoughts to this beautiful phrase, “Be still and know that I am God.” Take a pause from your problems, focus on God. God does not work with the laws of this earth, he can and does perform miracles.

Another way is to spend time in nature in silence. Like Buddha, gaze at a simple flower, or leaf or tree. Begin to connect to your deepest, beautiful inner self. By practicing in this way, it will help you to connect with your inner self the next time you are filled with fear.

This week, when fearful thoughts arise, remember, “Be still and know that I am God.”

Two Most Powerful Words

By: Gloria Marie

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Our words carry tremendous energy and it is important to choose the words we put into the Universe carefully. Our words manifest into our lives. It takes diligence to become aware of this and to correct old habits. But, there are two words that can align you with the Divine. The two most powerful words are,” I AM.”

“I AM” is “God in Action.” When you say and feel,” I AM”, you are releasing God’s everlasting life flow into your life. Try saying this right now, “I AM unlimited.” “I AM love.” “I AM strong.”
How did that feel? By saying “I AM” you are using enormous power that is love, peace, beauty, harmony and opulence for life. Isn’t that what we all want?

I know I get stuck in a rut sometimes and do not choose my words wisely. I try to catch myself before I sink too far down and write some “I AM” affirmations. I write them down and say them out loud several times a day. I have had some amazing, wonderful experiences with the use of these two powerful words.

What is it that you would like to manifest more of in your life? Start with an “I AM” to align your thoughts with God’s Divine Energy. This is very great stuff.

The “I AM” opens the door to the tremendous love and energy of the Divine. One word of caution, you can SLAM the door shut just as easily by saying, “I AM not.” I am not prosperous. I am not well. I am not happy. This energy works both ways and that is why it is important to become aware of the words you use.

Also, be aware of saying affirmations like, “I AM sick.” You are reversing the principles of life. This is not a positive affirmation, but, it is an affirmation.

A lifetime of habits cannot be changed overnight, but, with awareness, change will begin. Think this over and start to incorporate it into your life. Keep that beautiful, powerful energy of God coming into your life.

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