The Power of Mindfulness, try these five ways to practice it. Being mindful allows us to be fully present. When we are fully present, we are truly alive and can experience joy. Life has problems and we cannot escape them, however, being mindful allows us the space to find solutions. It opens up possibilities.
There is so much written to “stay fully present.” That is a simple concept but usually difficult to adhere to day in and day out. However, there is only now. We can choose to worry about the future and those worries may never come to fruition. We can carry the past with us and part of that past might be bitterness, forgiveness, and hurt. Spring is a time of renewal and a fantastic time to shed and cut the emotional baggage from your past.
If we look at nature; birds and animals shed their fur and feathers in the spring. They are casting off the old and receiving the new. Native Americans called March the “weak month” because of the inactivity in animal and man, which always prevails when this power is recuperating, and renewing. It is perfect time of year for us to release what we would like to shed from the past. By releasing the past, we can live more fully in the present. We can be unburdened.
Carrying past unfinished business is a drain on our emotional and physical being. It can be likened to carrying credit card debt. The ever-increasing interest rate goes on and on. Why continue to carry that weight forward? Be free of past hurts and then you can renew the possibilities of your life in the present. Your energy is free and you are healed.
What debt are you carrying? Whom do you need to forgive? It could be yourself that you need to forgive. Let’s cut that debt and feel free. Peace and freedom are the doorway to happiness. Practice the Law of Forgiveness and give up the need to punish the people who hurt you. Unless you are willing to forgive, how can you be forgiven?
Pray for guidance and help. Say silently to the person that you need to release or forgive,
“I send to you the fullness of the Divine Love of my Being to bless and prosper you.”
Happy Spring! Wishing you peace, love and light.
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This is a from I book I am writing on dealing with fears. This is Chapter One, Discover Your Gold Mine.
We carry a gold mine with us all day long. It is at our disposable whenever we want to access it. Would your day have been different if you knew you had a gold mine with you? Our gold mine is our sub-conscious mind. It never sleeps, it does not judge and has no ego. It oversees our organs. It is what keeps us breathing at night. It never sleeps. The sub-conscious mind is our imagination, our intuition. It is what is aligned with God, Infinite Intelligence or the Universe.
Our mind has two spheres: the conscious and sub-conscious mind. The conscious mind is our ego. It is that chatter that we hear in our head all day long. Most of the chatter is negative. It is the sphere of our human mind that sees life as it is. It sees death, disaster, sickness, and limitation. It is that voice in your head that says: “You really think you can be successful? You are not good enough.” The conscious mind rules logic, judgement, and reason.
The conscious mind is the “Gate” to the sub-conscious mind. Whatever your conscious mind chooses to believe and focus on, the sub-conscious mind will accept it and bring it to pass. This is fantastic news because you can choose your thoughts. You can choose thoughts of limitation, fear of failure, fear of poverty, or fear of being alone. Or, you can choose thoughts of love, happiness, or abundance. This is your gold mind because if you learn to control your thoughts, you can change your life. Your mind does not control you.
Have you ever had a problem to think about before you went to sleep at night and in the morning, you knew the answer. This happens to me if I lose something. I will think about it before I go to sleep and in the morning, I know exactly where to find it. This is your sub-conscious mind at work during the night. It is open to a source much greater than ourselves. It is our Infinite Intelligences.
Your sub-consious mind it the book of your life. You have the power to rewrite the blueprint of you mind. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Man is what he thinks about all day long.” This is one of the most important principals to conquering your fears. You can and will learn to expect the best.
The conscious mind is the mind of the body. It remembers all our victories and our failures in this lifetime. It sees restriction. The conscious mind grows old and dislikes change. That is our ego. The sub-conscious mind is the mind of spirit. It sees endless possibilities. It has no limitations because it is aligned with God.
Think of a garden. It is filled with beautiful flowers, but, sometimes weeds grow in your garden. You have the power to water the seeds of peace, harmony, love and health in your garden. Also, the power to pull out any weeds. By learning to control your thoughts, you can reap a harvest and control your fears to move confidently in life. You can pull out the weeds of fear and limitation.
“By first becoming aware of my thoughts, I can learn to control them.”
What would you like to bring into your life? What flowers would you like to water and grow? Write down three things you would like to bring into your life.
What weeds would you like to pull out of your life? Write down three fears you would like to remove from your life.
During the day, when your thoughts become fearful, try to remember the three “flowers” you would like. Imagine the happy ending or solution to your fears.
Remember, our thoughts become things.
Affirmation – I am not my thoughts.
You are an incredible human being with many talents and excellent qualities. Our ego tries to tell us otherwise. When the ego begins go talk to you today, say today’s affirmation.
Spend a few minutes relaxing, then, get out your journal. Draw a large circle that will represent your mind. Draw lines from the circle and write some thoughts from your day. What was your mind telling you today? Were the thoughts mainly positive or negative? If there were negative thoughts, write a positive thought next to it. Remember we are beginning to program our sub-conscious mind with thoughts of possibilities.
What could you have done differently today to control your thoughts? Did you remember to use your affirmation?
Do not be hard on yourself, change will take patience and time. First comes awareness and then change.
Pick one positive thought and write it on an index card. Put it next to your pillow. Before you go to sleep tonight, silently say it to yourself.
Expect the best!
There is so much written about being mindful and staying in the moment. You are probably reading this and thinking, of course I stay in the moment. At work, you concentrate and get the job done. At home, you concentrate and do your chores, make dinner and take care of your family. At leisure, you may play an awesome match of tennis. However, are you mindful or just going through some rote, learned, and familiar experiences? To be mindful and present will give you the secret to climbing mountains.
That mountain may be out of your comfort zone. It may be taking on a new career. It may be trying a new sport. It may be doing what makes your heart sing and that requires that you stay in the present moment. It takes walking by faith not sight.
Walking by faith not sight.
Recently, I fell and broke two bones in my foot. It required surgery and I also needed to stay completely off my foot for at least two weeks possibly longer. I had all sorts of things planned including a trip and suddenly everything came to a halt. Just getting out of bed and getting dressed was an enormous feat. I have a daily spiritual practice and always thought I stayed in the present moment. And maybe I did, but, this new challenge was a whole new level of mindfulness.
If you want to climb a mountain, you need to go one pitch at a time. One rope at a time. When you finish one small climb, then you prepare for the next. You do not know what you will see on the top of the mountain. You cannot see beyond the peak as you climb. You go step by step.
With my broken foot, I was forced to go day by day. I did not know how I could function over the next several weeks. I took it one day at a time, just like climbing a mountain, one pitch at a time. I walked, or in my case, rode my scooter, by faith not sight.
How do you prepare for life challenges and they will come? The only way to survive is in the present moment. You can begin today to develop a practice that will only deepen with life challenges. These can be the rope you use to climb that mountain.
1. Pray daily. Ask for God’s Infinite Love, peace and harmony to surround you.
2. Repeat daily. Be Still and Know That I am God.
3. Practice deep abdominal breaths.
4. Clear your energy. Ask Michael the Archangel to protect you, use sage, open your windows, take salt baths.
5. Do something every day that brings you joy. Make a list and commit to incorporating one item into your life every day.
Walk by Faith Not Sight.
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Passion is defined as a very strong feeling about a person or thing. Passion is an intense emotion compelling, enthusiasm, or desire for anything. When going through my divorce and other difficult transitions, I realized I was not passionate about anything. In order to survive emotionally, there was a time I did not allow myself to feel any strong emotion, whether passion or anger. How boring is that? Try these 3 steps to a more fulfilling life.
We will begin by reflecting on the following questions and then we will discuss ways to begin putting that passion into your life!
Reflect on these questions, take your time. It may take a few weeks before you can answer them. Perhaps write your answers in your journal.
1. What activity would you engage in even if you never made money doing it?
2. When you dream, what do you dream about?
3. What are you good at?
4. What sparks your creativity?
5. What are 5 past life experiences that left you with a sense of fulfillment?
6. What was the best time you ever had?
7. What activities make you feel like your heart is about to burst?
Now what? While reflecting on these answers, write down 3 things that bring you passion. They may be small things: time with your children, spending more time reading, taking you dog on a walk or they could be larger things: learning to paint, dancing lessons, going back to school. This week, try to incorporate one of your passions into your life.
1. Start with a small thing, something that can easily be added to your life.
2. Be fearless. Do not let your mind tell you “I should” or “I cannot”.
3. Simplify some part of your life to make room for more passion.
Life is challenging and when we are going through transitions and changes it can be more difficult to control our thoughts and our minds. But, that is also the time for the most growth. Positive thoughts produce positive results. The key is to be vigilant about your thoughts because improved results may take time. There are 3 words that will calm your mind that I often use.
This sounds so simple and it is simple. Stop reading right now and become aware of your thoughts. Are you thinking about what you need to pick up at the store later? Or are you thinking about a friend that you need to call? And probably all those thoughts going on while you are reading an article about controlling your thoughts and calming your mind.
The three words that will calm your mind – PEACE BE STILL!
Recently, I had just bought a trunk full of grocery. I started driving out of the parking place. I heard and felt, thud, thud, thud. I pulled back into the parking space and saw I had a flat tire. Not the end of the world but, an inconvenience, especially with all the grocery. So, I took a deep breath and said, “Peace Be Still.” I instantly felt calm and was able to deal with the situation without frustration or anger.
As a being of power, intelligence, and love…you hold the key to every situation, and contain within yourself that transforming and regenerative agency by which you may make yourself what you will.
We do have the power, intelligence, and love to transform our lives; sometimes it is hidden and needs nurturing to expand. The key is to be patient with ourselves and every day make a little progress in controlling your thoughts. Small steps will in time, produce large results.
Keep your hand firmly upon the helm of thought. Self-control is strength:
right thought is master; calmness is power.
Say to your heart, “Peace, be still!”
Non-attachment can help you create happiness in your life. We are more comfortable with what we know, even, if we are unhappy. Humans can be like dogs, we like the same things day after day. We may be in a job we do not like or in a relationship that is not right for us, but, it is comfortable like an old shoe. In order to practice non-attachment, we have to stop resisting.
“Clinging to things and to people reveals our fear of losing them.
And when we do lose them, we grieve”.
-Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo
My former husband and I collected western art. As part of the divorce settlement, I was given most of the paintings. I had to sell the artwork because I needed the money. Learning how to sell the artwork, is another whole story. I did figure out how to sell the artwork, but, I resisted. I was attached to the artwork and some part of me didn’t want to “disturb” my home by removing the paintings. One day I came home and found one of the paintings had fallen off the wall. This was an acrylic painting on wood, a very heavy piece that was anchored to the wall. The anchors had actually pulled away from the wall. There was no reason for this to happen, it had been there for over 10 years. This was a wakeup call for me. I felt it was a sign from God.
I sold that painting that week. Once I made the decision it was easy. I stopped resisting and clinging. I continued to sell one painting after another. I realized that things cannot make us happy. True happiness comes from the heart.
1. Thank God every day for your life exactly like it is.
2. Use affirmations. “I trust the process of life.” “All is well in my world.”
3. If fear sets in, just breathe. Take 5 deep breaths to bring yourself back to the present moment.
How do you practice non-attachment?
This is an easy time of year to overburden ourselves. I was thinking about all the additional things I was putting in my schedule: holiday parties, baking, decorating, gift purchases and holiday dinners. This list, of course, is in addition to my everyday obligations with work and my home life. I decided in order to really enjoy the holidays and spend time with my family, I would only schedule things that really mattered to me and I would not worry if the holidays weren’t perfect. When my holiday decorations came down from the attic, I looked at all the boxes and decided that is was not important to put out every decoration and that it was ok that my outside bushes did not have lights. I decided to take some time for myself with the 5 ways to deal with holiday stress listed below.
5 Ways to Deal with Holiday Stress
- Breathe. Does this sound too simple? It is simple, but, it works. Stand up with your feet flat on the floor. Place you hand on your stomach, take 5 deep breaths, and feel your stomach go in and out while you breathe.
- Develop a spiritual practice. Throughout the holiday season, try to spend at least 5 minutes every day in a spiritual practice. Try meditation, prayer, inspirational reading, or some time in silence. The important point it to practice it consistently.
- Humor. A good laugh does our soul good. Watch a funny movie, read cartoons or read a humorous book.
- Exercise. There are many studies that show that exercise reduces stress and helps you sleep better. At the very least, go for a walk.
- Gratitude is very powerful. Make a list of 10 things you are grateful for. Try to stop and do this whenever you feel stressful.
Which of these did you try?
Some days, I find it a little more difficult to meditate. On those days, I prefer to use a guided meditation. One of my favorite mediation apps is Buddify2. It is easy to navigate and has a wonderful variety of meditations to choose from. They have meditations for feeling stressed, going to sleep, in nature and many, many more. They meditations also vary in length. I love the “Kind” meditation.
Today there was a lunar eclipse. As a cancer, lunar phases seem to affect me. This lunar eclipse made me feel anxious, so, I thought I needed to take the emphasis off of “me” and put my energy into others. I needed to get out of my own head and connect with others. So, I chose the Buddify 2 “Kind” meditation. This is my version of the “Kind” Meditation.
The steps for the Meditation:
- Take a few minutes to sit still and take a few deep breaths.
- Think about someone you love or have affection for. The first person that comes to mind, is probably the one you want to direct your energy to. Silently repeat the following phrase while visualizing this person in your mind. “I wish you love and happiness”. Repeat this phrase silently for a few minutes. Then, picture your heart surrounded by beautiful pink light. Visualize this light growing and growing. Surround the person you are thinking about with this beautiful pink light, from your heart to theirs.
- Choose a second person that you love or have affection for. Repeat the above. Silently repeating,” I wish you love and happiness”. Then visualize the beautiful pink light from your heart to theirs.
- Now repeat the above on yourself. Silently repeat, “I wish you love and happiness”. Then visualize your entire body surrounded with pink light.
- Take a few deep breaths and slowly open your eyes.
Did you feel more relaxed?
Football season was always a big event at my home. My two sons loved watching football with their father and uncles: both college games and NFL games. I am from Italian descent and any event always involved food and lots of it. Luckily, I love to cook and enjoyed preparing the “football fare”. The recipes below are some of their favorite game day recipes. Try them during football season and just maybe these will be recipes for you to catch a man. I choose some that are very easy to prepare, after all, you still need time to blow dry your hair.
Man Catching Barbecued Ribs
1 onion sliced
4 – 5 pounds of baby back ribs
Salt and Pepper
1 large bottle of good quality barbecue sauce
Line a large cookie sheet pan (that has sides) with heavy duty aluminum foil. (You will thank me for this step). Spread the onion slices in the pan. Sprinkle both sides of the ribs with salt, pepper and garlic powder. Place the ribs over the onion slice. Cover with heavy duty foil. Bake at 350 degrees for 2 hours.
Uncover the ribs. Spread the barbecue sauce over the back side of the ribs. Return to the oven, uncovered for 15 minutes. Spread the barbecue sauce over the front of the ribs. Return to oven, uncovered for 45 minutes.
Ranch Chili Dip
1 can, chili NO beans
1 large package cream cheese
Combine the ingredients in a small crock pot. Cook until the cheese is melted. Serve with tortilla chips.
1 (8 oz.) package of cream cheese, softened
½ teaspoon dried oregano
½ teaspoon dried parsley
¼ teaspoon dried basil
1 cup shredded mozzarella
1 cup grated Parmesan cheese
1 cup Pizza sauce
2 tablespoons finely chopped green pepper
In a small bowl, mix together the cream cheese and spices. Spread the mixture in the bottom of a 9 inch pie plate. Sprinkle ½ cup of the mozzarella cheese and ½ cup of the Parmesan cheese on top of the cream cheese mixture. Spread the pizza sauce over all. Sprinkle with remaining cheese, then top with green peppers. Cover with foil and bake in 350 degree oven for about 15 minutes, until heated through. Serve with slices of French bread.