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4 Ways to Deal with a Broken Heart

By: Gloria Marie

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The following is a chapter from my book, “Divorce the Divorce: a 52 Step Journey to Creating Unlimited Happiness”.  This chapter gives 4 ways to deal with a broken heart.

Chapter 12

Ways to Deal with a Broken Heart

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”
-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Dating is part of a single women’s life. Having a broken heart at some point may become a reality. It hurts, it’s uncomfortable, and many emotions will wash over you. I like to think of every relationship like a brick in the foundation of the new me I am creating. If one relationship doesn’t work out, maybe it prepared me in some way for the next one. After all, we are a work in progress, brick by brick, experience by experience.

A broken heart is not fun. But loss is a part of life. Congratulate yourself that you had the courage to love again. That is progress. You will get through this new loss, grow stronger and find love again.

When a relationship does not work out, I like to ask myself, “What was the lesson this situation has brought to me?” “How can I grow from this experience?” These are very powerful questions to ask yourself. Spend some quiet time centered in the moment and think about this. The present moment is always the best teacher. I try not to ignore my feeling of loss, despair, and helplessness, and I know in time I will heal once again. Until then, I treat myself with compassion and love.

Activity
1. Try to avoid negative thoughts about yourself or your ex-boyfriend. Negative thinking does no good. Remember the law of attraction. Try to stay positive to attract more positivity into your life. Use affirmations to remain positive.
Some to try:
I am healing.
I have faith that the Universe will fill my life with love and joy.
I am creating happiness in my life.
2. That beautiful shirt he bought you, either toss it out or box it up and get it out of your sight. This goes for anything that brings back strong memories about the relationship. If you cannot bear to throw something away, box it up, give it to someone or sell it. Physical items contain energy, and you want new, fresh energy in your life. Exercise. Exercise is a great way to release stress. Get moving. Walk, go to the gym or play tennis: the important point is to begin moving. It might be easy and comfortable to stay on the couch in front of the television. Do the uncomfortable, get some fresh air.
3. Take out your journal and write a letter to your ex. Go deep and write about what you are feeling. Begin the letter with, “I forgive ___________ for______________ because__________.” Then, write a letter from your ex to you in response to your letter. Begin that letter with the same sentence. Keep writing until you have nothing else left to say.
4. Get a large piece of paper and your markers. Draw a picture of your ideal day. What would you be doing throughout it? What kind of relationship would you want in your ideal life? Write some description adjectives next your your pictures.  What color is dominate? Have fun and dream BIG!   When you complete your drawing, place it where you can see it every day.

Mid-Week Delight
Spend 5 minutes sitting quietly and focusing on your breath.

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20 Inspirational Quotes

By: Gloria Marie

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We can learn from the wisdom of others. I love quotes from all sorts of people: mystics, celebrities, a wise children. Sometimes a quote is just the pick me up or encouragement we need at a given moment. This list below contains some of my favorites. You might consider printing it for the days when you need a lift.

1. If you dream it, you can do it. –Walt Disney
2. We become what we think about. – Earl Nightingale
3. Two roads diverged in a wood, and I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference. – Robert Frost
4. The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be. –Ralph Waldo Emerson
5. Certain things catch you eye, but pursue only those that capture the heart. – Ancient Indian Proverb
6. When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. – Lao Tzu
7. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. – Dalai Lama
8. Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. – Eleanor Roosevelt
9. Change your thoughts and you change your world. – Norman Vincent Peale
10. A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new. – Albert Einstein
11. All that you achieve an all that you fail to achieve is the direct result of your own thoughts. – James Allen
12. The soul cannot smile if the eyes did not cry. – Native American
13. There are no limitations to the mind except those we acknowledge. – Napoleon Hill
14. Whoever is happy will make others happy too. He who has courage and faith will never perish in misery. – Anne Frank
15. Happiness is not something readymade. It comes from your own actions. – Dalai Lama
16. The perfect love is the love within you. – Marianne Williamson
17. Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined. – Henry David Thoreau
18. Follow not others in your life. Follow your heart and each day will be yours, not somebody else’s. – Ron Rathbun
19. Fall seven times and stand up eight. – Japanese Proverb
20. You can’t us up creativity. The more you use, the more you have. – Maya Angelou

New Moon Ritual

By: Gloria Marie

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On May 18 there is a new moon. New moons are times for new beginnings and fresh starts. New moons are turning points and a great time for manifestations. A new moon ritual helps you set your intentions for the next six months. Many different cultures and people have followed rituals for centuries. Think of the many rituals you have in your life today. Do you follow rituals at your place of worship, for birthday celebrations or for weddings?

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Rituals should fun, simple and authentic. Follow the steps below to perform your own new moon ritual.

1. Gather the following supplies: a candle, a stick of incense, matches, paper, pen, a journal, and soothing music. You can also collect any stones or crystals that have meaning for you.
2. Find a place in your home that you feel is sacred or that you feel peaceful.
3. Light a candle, light the incense and put on some soothing music.
4. Sit down and take a few deep breaths. Breathe beautiful white light into your heart area.
5. Say a prayer for inner guidance and clarity.
6. When you feel you are present and your mind is clear. Write down on the paper what you would like to bring into your life. What would you like to “grow”? To manifest? Try to make sure your intentions are truly what you believe you can attract, but, dream big.
7. When you are finished writing, at the bottom of your paper write, “And it is so.”  Sign your name and put the date.
8. Take a moment to say a prayer.
9. Write any thoughts or inspirations you have in your journal.
10. Take the paper and either burn it and blow the ashes in the wind outdoors or bury it in the garden to allow your intentions to “grow”.

Be flexible with the way the Universe will manifest your intentions.

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Homemade Gnocchi

By: Gloria Marie

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One of my favorite hobbies and a favorite way to relax is cooking. It may be from my Italian heritage. In my house when I was growing up, everything revolved around food. I guess to this day, it still provides comfort to me. Cooking is a type of meditation for me. I immense myself in preparing a recipe and feel gratitude for anyone that had anything to do with bringing the food to my kitchen. The April recipe is for homemade gnocchi.
My Mom always made homemade gnocchi. It was a family favorite. She made hers with mashed potatoes. In my recipe, the gnocchi is made with ricotta cheese. They are lighter and more delicate than the ones made with mashed potatoes. What is really great, is that they are so easy to make. You will never buy prepared gnocchi again. This recipe serves four.
1 16 oz. container of whole-mild ricotta
1 large egg
½ cup grated Parmesan cheese
½ teaspoon salt
¾ cup flour
1. Set a strainer lined with paper towels over a bowl. Add the ricotta and let the cheese drain for about one hour.
2. In a large bowl, mix the strained ricotta, egg, cheese, and flour. Cover and refrigerate for 15 minutes.
3. Check the dough, it should be a little tacky. If it clings to your fingers, put a little more flour in, one teaspoon at a time. Refrigerate another 15 minutes.
4. Sprinkle a cookie sheet with flour.
5. Get the dough from the refrigerator. Sprinkle your hands with flour and also the counter you are working on. Grab a tennis ball size of the dough and roll it into a log shape. Cut the log into 3/4” pieces. Toss with a little flour on the baking sheet to prevent sticking. Repeat with the remaining dough.
6. You can cook them at this point or freeze them to use later. If cooking, boil a pot of water and add ½ of the gnocchi. Gently stir them, so they do not stick. When they come to the surface, reduce heat to medium and cook for 2 minutes. Remove with a slotted spoon. Repeat with the other half and serve with your favorite sauce.
7. If you are going to freeze them. Freeze them on the baking sheet. When they are frozen, put them in a zip lock bag. Cook them the same way.

Whatever is Good for the Soul Blog

By: Gloria Marie

I was featured in the Blog Whatever is Good for the Soul.  The link below gives the complete interview.

 

Life Coach Specialist in Singletons & Divorcees:
Gloria Marie Pierson

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Today Gloria Marie Pierson shared her wonderful story and soul with us. Gloria is a well-renown life coach, specializing in singletons and divorcees. Listen to the story of her divorce, and how she managed to change it all. Gloria shares her to day to day life and really allows us to become inspired. 

For the complete interview, use the link below.

Whatever is Good for the Soul

My Morning Ritual

By: Gloria Marie

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I have my morning ritual, it is a time that I cherish. I believe this time helps me stay centered and calm throughout the day. Most mornings, I get up early, while it is still dark and the world is quiet. I make myself a cup of coffee and retreat to my “meditation chair”. It is an over sized, comfortable chair with a large basket of inspirational books next to it. This hour that I spend every morning, is a gift to myself. Most days there are no startling insights: just time to pray, go deep into my soul, and be in God’s presence. This week try to give yourself a gift of silence each morning.
My morning ritual consists of meditation, journaling, inspirational reading and sitting in silence. I begin reading while enjoying my coffee. By my chair, I have several books to choose from. Next I meditate for about 20 minutes. This is followed by journaling and praying. Some days, I do not have the luxury of an hour and that is alright. This morning ritual has helped me transform my life from fear to peace and love.
Create Your Own Morning Ritual
1. Pick out a spot in your home that you can remain undisturbed. It is preferable to have a chair to sit on. If you do not have an hour to spend, try half an hour.
2. Inspirational Reading – Pick out several books to keep by your side. I like to have a variety depending on what my mood is. Currently I am reading, “New Seeds of Contemplation” by Thomas Merton. I also have a book of daily inspirational messages that I read right before my meditation. My old standby is “Around the Year with Emmet Fox”. I also enjoy, “The Book of Awakening” by Mark Nepo. I usually read for about 20 minutes while sipping my coffee.
3. Meditation – If you do not have a meditation practice, a breathing meditation may be the way to start. Sit silently and concentrate on your breath going in and out of your body. When thoughts come, just let them go. Do not engage the thoughts. Just breathe. I set a timer for 20 minutes.
4. Journaling – Buy a special journal that you will use just for this purpose. After meditation, I open my journal and begin to write. I let the pen just flow. Some mornings, I may write a letter to God.
5. Silence and Reflection – Before leave my chair, I spend a few minutes in quiet reflection and praying.
These are just my suggestions, be flexible and create your own morning ritual.
What are your favorite books for inspiration?

Ghosting in Dating

By: Gloria Marie

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Another new term I learned about dating: ghosting.  This is so not ok and so disrespectful.  If you are dating, it has probably happened to you, but, you may not be familiar with the term. With texting, the Internet, and on-line dating, ghosting has become more prevalent, even though it is easier to communicate without a face to face confrontation. So, what is ghosting?  Well, you have been seeing someone for a while and then without any warning, you never hear from them again.  They have dropped off the face of the earth.  They just “ghosted” away from you. So here is how you can deal with ghosting in dating.

This happened to me last summer.  I had been dating someone for about 5 weeks. We lived in different cities and had plans to get together in the fall.  We exchanged emails in the early fall and that was it. I was ghosted without warning. Of course, I did what I will recommend you not do, I kept going over our last date and what I said or did wrong.  Online dating makes ghosting easier because they can just go on to the next one.  Sometimes I wish for the good old days when I took woodworking classes to meet men. By the way, I did not meet anyone to date in woodworking class, but, I made a beautiful cutting board and checker board.

What to do if you have been ghosted:

  1. Know that this is not cool. You are owed a better level of respect.
  2. Keep your dignity. Maybe text once to see if they are ok and that is it. If they do not respond, move on.
  3. Realize that you are not the problem. It was nothing that you said or did. As difficult as it may be to admit, he is a jerk and a coward. You deserve more.
  4. Be thankful that the relationship did not go further. This type of person is afraid of confrontation and it not relationship material
  5. If he does reappear, you need a sincere apology.

Have you ever been ghosted?  How did you handle it?

Valentine’s Day Alone

By: Gloria Marie

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This week we celebrate Valentine’s Day. “Celebrate” may be too strong of a word if you are going to spend the day alone and single. Many of my single friends refuse to out on Valentine’s Day if they do not have a date. Well this year, even if you do not have a date, make it a great day filled with love for YOU! Pamper yourself, discover some things about yourself and maybe perform one of the love rituals.  You can enjoy a Valentine’s Day Alone.

If you are alone, would you rather be miserable with an ex? Probably not. Look at being alone as an opportunity to do whatever it is that you want. It is your choice to have a pity party today or make it a wonderful day. You do not need a man in your life to enjoy the day.

Begin by asking yourself these questions. They can provide insight into how you would like to pamper yourself.

1. If you had one year to live, what would be most important to you to do and be in that time?
2. What makes your heart sing?
3. What are ten things in life you would like to do purely for the fun of it?
4. What have you done in life that you would like to do more of?
5. What do you want to learn? What skills do you want to master?

Now, based on your answers to these questions, make an action plan to pamper yourself on Valentine’s Day. Do something special for yourself. Remember times as a child when you woke up on a summer morning so excited for the day ahead. Plan Valentine’s Day with that feeling in mind. So you wake up excited and filled with energy.

Remember the law of attraction: what you focus on you bring into your life. Try to not focus on the lack of a relationship in your life. Be grateful for what you do have in your life today. With this attitude, I doubt you will be alone on Valentine’s Day next year.

What are you planning to do on Valentine’s Day?

Falling in Love

By: Gloria Marie

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February is about love and romance. The New York Times had an article titled, “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This” written by Mandy Len Catron. She cited a study done over 20 years ago by the psychologist Arthur Aron. The study explored whether intimacy between 2 strangers can be hastened by asking a specific series of 36 questions. Then the final task is starring into each other’s eyes for four minutes. I am sure those four minutes seem like an hour. Ms. Catron did her own “study” and found that it worked for her. Maybe we should try this to begin falling in love.

I found this study fascinating. A series of questions is a great way to get to know each other. So many of my Match.com dates I felt I was being interviewed for a job. Or being interrogated. All that was missing sometimes was a bright light in my eyes. The usual questions would get so boring. What type of work do you do? How long have you lived in the area? Do you have any children? On and on and on. Boring small talk. Next time, I am going to try the 36 questions. I may have to work up to the 4 minute stare. I think I had to do something like that in acting class one time.

The questions are in three sets. Each set is intended to have you become more open and vulnerable. Here are a sampling of the questions:

Set 1
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

Set 2
1. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
2. What is your most treasured memory?
3. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

Set 3
1. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life?
2. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
3. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

Let me know if you tired this and if it worked.

Whatever is Good for the Soul

By: Gloria Marie

Very excited to be interviewed on the website What Ever is Good for the Soul.

Life Coach Specialist in Singletons & Divorcees:
Gloria Marie Pierson

Today Gloria Marie Pierson shared her wonderful story and soul with us. Gloria is a well-renown life coach, specializing in singletons and divorcees. Listen to the story of her divorce, and how she managed to change it all. Gloria shares her to day to day life and really allows us to become inspired.

Where are you from?
I grew up near Gary, Indiana and moved to Boca Raton, Florida in 1970. That was quite a change. I was a junior in High School. Boca Raton was a small beach town at that time. I still live in Boca Raton and raised both my sons here. It is a wonderful community.

How do you try and live a zen and balanced lifestyle?
I lead a very “zen” life. The past 8 years brought many changes into my life, a balanced life, helped me survive.
My daily zen routine: Before my feet touch the floor in the morning, I say out loud that “I am so grateful for this day and all the gifts that it will bring” Next, before I engage in the world, I meditate for 20 – 30 minutes. After meditating, I sometimes journal. Breakfast is usually a “green” protein shake followed by some type of exercise. I follow a vegetarian diet. Next work begins, I go into my office and before I turn the computer on I pick out and write an affirmation for the day. I keep in on my desk. After lunch, I try to spend 20 minutes reading an inspirational book before I begin working again. That keeps me inspired. Before bed, I try to write in a journal at least 3 things I was grateful for in the day. My soul is happy spending time in nature, listening to beautiful music, laughing with family and friends, and watching movies. I love movies.

Tell us about your business
My business is life couching. My aim is to help women that are single or women that are going through a divorce. I learned so much from my process and I want to share this with others. Instead of being broken you can thrive through difficult times, if you are willing to work at it. I offer practical lessons and exercise to help them create a life filled with love and joy. My sessions begin with a series of question to help my clients discover what they would like to improve in their life. I as always say, “It is an inside job”. I offer my services primarily through phone sessions.

What has sent you on the path to become a life coach?
It all started with my blog, Single Happy and Strong. I started the blog as a hobby, a creative outlet, to pass on what worked for me the past 8 years. In the past 7 years: I went through a divorce, both my sons went off to college, my beloved dog died, and I was unemployed and underemployed. My home was going into foreclosure. It was a very, very dark period. The one rock I has was my Mom, who, also passed away. This dark period forced me to go deep within and begin a balanced lifestyle. It was not easy, but, I did it. I loved writing and sharing so, I decided to turn my hobby into a career and became certified as a life coach.

How do you think living a balanced and zen lifestyle has helped your business?
My balanced and zen lifestyle has helped my business because I practice what I preach. It is an authentic lifestyle that is congruent with my work. I lived through hell and it was a great teacher. I am no longer fearful or afraid of the future. I live passionately in the moment and really enjoy life. I want my clients to believe they can lead a happy life and help them get there. There is no greater satisfaction then seeing the changes in their lives.

What does your soul love?
I live in Florida just 20 minutes from the beach, so, this is going to sound strange. What does my soul love….the mountains in Jackson Hole, WY. My soul cries with happiness every time I land in that beautiful area. I love hiking in the canyons, canoeing on the river, or spending the day reading by a lake. It refreshes my soul. Every so often, I need my JH fix.

What advice would you give someone looking to move into the mind, body & soul revolution?
I would tell them to “just begin”. Make a commitment that you are going to move into the mind, body, movement and create an awesome life. It all starts with commitment. It can start with small steps. I would suggest that they do research on the Internet, read books, take some classes, and find blogs that give suggestions on life style changes. Then write down an “action” plan and stick with it. My clients have found that even small changes can have a huge effect on their lives. One example of this: meditate first thing in the morning for just 5 minutes.

Visit Gloria on her webpage www.singlehappyandstrong.com to hear more of her inspiring story, advice and contact details.

Until next time,

– Whatever is good for the soul, x.

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