A significant change in our lives, even if we want it, can be complicated. Letting go of the old is difficult. I remember when I was trying to train my Labrador, the breeder said, “Dogs like a routine, the same things day after day.” As humans, we are also like our routines. Letting go of the old is scary and uncomfortable. However, like a trapeze artist must let go of one bar to proceed. We need to let go to move forward.
What is it you want to change in your life? A new job? Start a business? A new relationship? More friends? More money? A move to a new location? You may have the desire for the new, but something is holding you back. Try this four-step process to release your fears and embrace change.
1. Rather than pretend you are not afraid, get in touch with how you are feeling. Complete the following sentence at least ten times. Next, read them out loud. Notice any discomfort or uneasiness in your body as you read them. Your feelings may go from excitement to fear.
The idea of making a major change makes me feel________________________________________.
Some examples: afraid, ambitious, brilliant, cautious, confident, determined, enthusiastic, frustrated, hopeful, impatient, lucky, nervous, optimistic, pessimistic, restless, scared, terrified, upset, worried.
2. List twelve reasons “why” you want a change.
3. What is the worst possible thing that could occur? Visualize it. For example, you start a business, and it fails. How do you feel? When you have a clear view of your fears, they usually diminish. This exercise will help you dilute the outcome because you already experienced it. When you do make a change, it is never as bad as you imagined.
4. Next, let switch to possibilities and solutions.
What if? ________________________________
What if everything went smoothly and you were ecstatic with the change you made. Answer the “What if?” question at least ten different ways. Then go for it! Plan some goals and begin taking some action steps; even baby steps will put you in the right direction.
