Forgiveness is probably the best practice for us to cultivate in our lives. Anger is a negative, dark emotion. It clouds our hearts and our lives. Forgiving another person allows positive energy and love to replace the darkness. Is anger holding back from leading a full life? What do you think you can do about it?
Sometimes just the awareness of anger towards someone is the beginning of forgiveness. It is not easy or quick to forgive. Just sitting and acknowledging that you are angry at someone is progress. The Dalai Lama’s says about forgiveness, “I forgive but, I do not forget”. Forgiveness does not mean what was done to you was alright. Forgiveness frees your soul to allow more light to enter.
The New York Times published an article on April 5, 2014 titled, “Portraits of Reconciliation” with photos by Pieter Hugo and text by Susan Dominus. It was an extremely moving article on the power of forgiveness. They went to Rwanda; 20 years after nearly a million people were killed during the country’s genocide. There is a national effort in Rwanda toward reconciliation. Groups are counseled over months with the objective that the perpetrator formally requests forgiveness from their victims. The text and photos are remarkable. One common theme among the survivors was that they felt more peaceful after they forgave the perpetrators. They felt peace in their hearts.
There is a lot of power in Forgiveness. Is there someone you are ready and would like to forgive? Follow these tips.
1. Be gentle and loving with yourself. Think of the image of a deer, gentle and loving.
2. Be patient. It will take time.
3. Take small steps. Start with something or someone that may be easier to forgive. Gradually move on to larger, more difficult situations.
Every Sunday the Single, Happy, and Strong Blog will have an exercise for you to do. This is a wonderful way to start a new week; to reflect, grow, and begin a shift in your life. Today we will talk about a technique for forgiveness and letting go.
This Sunday I will give you a technique I use to forgive and let go of past relationships. Resentment, anger, and grief over past relationships hold a tremendous amount of energy. It is important to release the negative energy in order for more positive relationships to flow into your life. It is almost like creating a “space” for something or someone new to enter. Thich Nhat Hanh says, “Freedom is cultivated by the practice of letting go”.
We are not meant to live in a vacuum so eventually I started dating and actually had relationships. As my attorney said, ‘You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your Prince”. Well, I would not call the men I dated frogs they were quite nice-just not for me.
In order to release myself and my energy from a relationship, I would write a letter to them. Sometimes it was just one letter other times six or seven. No one would ever see the letters. When I felt I wrote all I need to, I would follow the steps I list below. It provided closure and healing. In one of my relationships, I felt I was a convenience instead of a priority. I started writing the letters before I ended the relationship for the courage to move on.
This is a powerful exercise.
Get a piece of paper and a pen. Sit in a comfortable chair in a quiet space. Take a few deep breaths. Write a letter to the person you need to forgive or the person you need to let go of. Take your time. Write your feelings about them; how they hurt you, how that felt, how you may have done things differently. There is no rule as to how long the letter has to be, keep writing until you have nothing else to say to them. When you feel you have written enough, at the bottom of the letter wish them well and sign your name.
Tear the letter up into small pieces and then do one of the following: a) Put them in a pan and burn them. Obviously, be very careful with this step. As you watch them burn say a prayer for the person the letter is addressed to. b) Bury the pieces of paper in the ground. As you cover them with dirt, say a prayer for the person the letter is addressed to.
Repeat this as often as needed, until you feel you have forgiven and released the person.
Every Sunday the Single, Happy, and Strong Blog will have an exercise for you to do. This is a wonderful way to start a new week; to reflect, grow, and begin a shift in your life. This week will we try a meditation for manifesting.
Crystal Meditation for Manifesting
This sensational Sunday I will be introducing a crystal meditation for manifesting. Meditation can be a means to find inner peace and happiness. There are many different meditation techniques and styles. This is just a quick meditation for you to try today.
Sit upright in a chair in a quiet place in your home. Turn off your phone, computer, and television. Try to eliminate all outside distractions. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Scan you body for any tension you are holding. Breathe into the tension to release it. Now picture a large, clear quartz crystal. It is magnificent and has many points that are catching the sunlight. Picture yourself walking up to this large crystal. You look closely and see it has many chambers inside. It is like a large, crystal clear castle. Step inside, feel how cool it is being inside. Notice the beautiful bright sunlight shining through the many points. You feel tremendous energy being in the crystal castle. It is glorious. Begin to explore the different chambers; they are all unique, gorgeous, and soothing. You feel at peace and at home. Keep exploring and touching the cools walls. After you feel you have explored all the chambers, you see a door. Slowly open the door. Who do you see? Is it who or what you expected? Is it someone you know or hope to know? An angel? Spirit guide? Deceased family member? Smile and give the person a hug.
Now gradually step out of the crystal. Feel your feet on the ground, breathe. Open your eyes and look around your room. Take a deep breath. Do you feel lighter? Refreshed? Surprised?
Spend some time journaling about who you saw when you opened the door and your reactions. What meaning did it have for you?
Gloria is a transformation life coach, spiritual teacher, and author. She received her Master in Education from the University of Florida and her life coaching certification from the Universal Coach Institute. Her articles have appeared in Huffington Post and divorcedmoms.com. Gloria brings over 35 years of entrepreneurial experience to her work. She is the proud mother of two grown sons.