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It is Alright to Say No

By: Gloria Marie

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Setting boundaries can be difficult in some areas of our lives. You may have no trouble with boundaries at work or with your children. How about boundaries with your family members or with friends? Or most important; boundaries with yourself? It is essential to be aware of and establish personal boundaries with ourselves, only then can we set boundaries with others. I equate it to the oxygen mask on planes. The flight attendant says, “Place the mask over your face before placing the mask with any children you are traveling with”.  Sometimes, it is alright to say no to demands on your time.

If we begin with ourselves then, it will be easier to establish other boundaries in our lives. By doing this you will empower yourself and become more confident. This will give you self-fulfillment and then you can freely give of yourself to others: your children, your family, and your friends. It is like putting gas in the tank of your car. If there is no gas, the car stops. If “your tank” is empty, it is hard to lead a happy, peaceful life.

Sometimes we feel guilty for doing things for ourselves or taking time for ourselves. There are all the “shoulda’” and “have to dos”. We get stuck in routines at work and at home. We go on autopilot and before we know it, we are exhausted and drained.

This exercise it to create a personal boundary.

1. Pick something that you enjoy doing: meditating, playing music, exercising, or reading. Have it something you look forward to doing, not something that is guilt driven.
2. Schedule this activity for 30 minutes to 1 hour each day for the next week. Put it on your calendar.
3. If you have children or roommates, put a “Do Not Disturb” sign on your door. This is your special time to renew and refresh your soul.

By empowering yourself to do this, it will carry over into other parts of your life.

What did your put into your schedule?

How to Confidently Make Important Decisions

By: Gloria Marie

divorce, divorce advice, divorced women, divorce the divorceDid you ever notice when you must make an important decision, your thoughts rapidly go through your head, and it seems like there is so much noise that you cannot think? We have all probably been there, and it might be because you are afraid that you will make the wrong decision. Or maybe you are scared to make any decisions. But, you can learn how to confidently make important decisions.

The key is to quiet your mind. We all are born with Inner Knowing and Inner Guidance that connects us with God, the source of Infinite Intelligence. But, we get caught up in the day to day activities, and we lose touch with this source. However, it is there for us to tap into and by training ourselves to tap that source, we can confidently make important decisions.

One of the ways to get in touch with our Inner Guidance is using a mantra. A mantra is a short phrase or word that you can silently repeat to yourself. With consistent use of a mantra, you can learn to calm your mind. With a calm mind, you can clearly make decisions.

Pick a mantra from the list below and silently repeat it to yourself. When you are stressed or worried, repeat it. When you are in traffic and upset, repeat it to yourself. By using it in everyday situations, it will become a powerhouse for you. Then, when it is time to make an important decision you are ready. Sit down in a quiet space, take some deep breaths and silently repeat the mantra. After a few minutes, your mind will quiet down, and you can begin to get in touch with your Inner Knowing and confidently know the answer.

Try this technique for small, unimportant decisions. Then, when the life-changing decisions need to be made, you will be ready!

Wishing you a week filled with love and light.

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Mantrams

Buddhist

Om mani padme hum

“The jewel in the lotus of the heart.”

Pronounced: ohm maa-nee paad-may-hoom

 

Christian

Jesus

 

Ave Maria or Hail Mary

“Ave Maria” means “Hail Mary” a mantram in honor of Mother Mary

 

My God and my all.

This was a phrase that Saint Francis used in his prayers

 

Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on us.

The Jesus prayer

 

Kyrie eleison or Lord have Mercy

 

Hindu

Rama

“The Lord as the source of abiding joy.”

 

Jewish

Barukh attah Adonal

“Blessed art thou, O Lord”

Pronounced: baa-rook aa-taa aa-doh-nai

 

Ribono shel olam

“Lord of the Universe”

Pronounced: rib-on-oh shell oh-lam

 

Muslim

Allah

The name of God.