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Remain Joyful

By: Gloria Marie

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What was the first thing you did when you woke up this morning? Maybe said a prayer for having another day on this magnificent earth? Did you feel joyful and excited about your day? Finding joy and living a joy-filled life allows you to shine. Joy is a true internal feeling that is not affected by life’s up and downs. It differs from happiness which is more external. You won the lottery, you feel happiness. This is not to say that you will always be joyful, but, by cultivating joy, you will be joyful more frequently. Here are my six ways to remain joyful.

I practice these steps, not every day, but, most days. If I am going through a more challenging period in my life, I make it a habit to integrate these actions in my life. Let your soul shine through with joy, it will help everyone around you feel better.

6 Ways to Stay Joyful
1. Be grateful. A practice that includes gratitude allows you to dwell on the positive aspects in your life. No matter how difficult a period you are going through, there is always something to be grateful for. Do you say a silent prayer before a meal? Or maybe start a Gratitude journal.
2. Do something creative. Learn something new. When you are doing a creative project, you unblock energy and that energy can now flow in better ways. When you are doing the creative project; pay attention to the process. Immerse yourself in it.
3. Find your passion. Pursue something that you care deeply about. Even taking small steps toward your passion will bring you joy. What does your ideal day look like?
4. Be of service to others. Take the focus off your ego-centered self and bring happiness to another person. Think of the countless ways you can be of service.
5. Exercise. The Mayo Clinic says, “Exercise in almost any form can act as a stress reliever. Being active can boost your feel good endorphins and distract you from daily worries”. You do not have to train for a marathon. Just do some exercise that you enjoy.
6. Listen to your intuition. In silence, you deep gut feelings are very reliable. Learn to be aware of them.

What do you do to bring more joy into your life?

Be Still and Know That I Am God

By: Gloria Marie

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“Be Still and Know That I am God” is probably one of the greatest verses in the Bible. This verse alone can help us deal with fear and anxiety. It reminds us to stop and focus on God alone. But, often in our crazy, busy, daily life we forget to practice that. We are usually more conditioned to accept the fear and anxiety as a part of our life struggles.

It has been said that Buddha did a whole silent lecture once. He merely gazed at a flower. The beauty in a flower is the same beauty we all have inside of us. It is our God nature that we can access if we become still.

Yesterday I had the privilege of driving through Yellowstone National Park. I was really lucky because I was not the one driving, I was fortunate to sit back and absorb the beauty of this great National Park. It was in the silence of the drive that I marveled how great God is and in the stillness I felt a part of the incredible beauty and nature that I saw.

The beauty was sometimes in the smallest of things. The way the sun was reflecting on a river, the different mineral colors in the mountains, or an elk quietly grazing or the perfect timing of Old Faithful geyser erupting every 90 minutes. My thoughts kept going to: Be still and know that I am God. I felt love, joy, and peace.

You can access this same feeling. One easy way is when difficulties arise, turn your thoughts to this beautiful phrase, “Be still and know that I am God.” Take a pause from your problems, focus on God. God does not work with the laws of this earth, he can and does perform miracles.

Another way is to spend time in nature in silence. Like Buddha, gaze at a simple flower, or leaf or tree. Begin to connect to your deepest, beautiful inner self. By practicing in this way, it will help you to connect with your inner self the next time you are filled with fear.

This week, when fearful thoughts arise, remember, “Be still and know that I am God.”

3 Ways to Help with Sadness

By: Gloria Marie

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One day this past week, I woke up sad. There was really no specific reason, it just was. We can have a very happy, fulfilled life, but, some day’s sadness can come over us. Perhaps a friend received a diagnosis or you are concerned about a family member. The news and world events that are tragic can also bring about this feeling. Try these 3 ways to help with sadness the next time you feel that way.

If you are feeling sad, it is alright, do not feel bad about it. Try to get in touch with your feelings instead of ignoring them. These tools can help you create a shift in your thinking so you do not keep descending to a deep, dark place. By shifting our energy, we are creating space for more positive thoughts to come into our mind.

Many times we are sad over something we have no control of. When I read about a mass shooting, I am sad, but, there is nothing I can do to bring the lost lives back to life. What I can do, is create positive energy around me and that will help heal others.

3 Ways to Help with Sadness
1. Write down ten things you are grateful for. Even if you are struggling now, you have something to be grateful for. You are reading this article which means you woke up today and you are breathing. Try to not list the ten obvious things, go deep. Gratitude centers you in the moment and allows God’s graces to flow to you.
2. Call a friend. If you are fortunate to have a buddy that lifts you up when you talk with them. Give them a call and let them know you are sad. Hopefully, they will listen non-judgmentally and give you that pick up you want. Do you have any friends like that? The kind of friend that you know will cheer you up or make you laugh. Treasure that friendship.
3. Watch an inspiring video or read an inspiring passage in a book. With the Internet, it would take only a little searching to find the perfect media to read or watch.

Remember that sadness will pass. The sun and blue sky are still behind every dark cloud.

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“Tasting Rome” a Cookbook and Travelogue

By: Gloria Marie

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“Tasting Rome” by Katie Parla and Kristina Gill is a combination cookbook and travelogue. The beautiful photographs, wonderful recipes, and interesting texts will make you want to buy a ticket to visit Rome.  If you cannot go to Rome, enjoy the delights of this cookbook. “Tasting Rome” is so much more than a cookbook.

This book combines both traditional and contemporary recipes with interesting stories and facts about Rome. They include recipes for classic dishes like Cacio e Pepe, Pollo alla Romana, and gnocchi di patate di arcangelo dandini.  The authors worked alongside some of the city’s great chefs to develop recipes deeply rooted in Roman culture.

The photographs accompanying the recipes are beautiful, but, I personally enjoyed the photographs of the Roman landscape, people and restaurants.  It is an immersion for the sights and taste of that beautiful, historic city.

In the “How to Use This Book” section the authors explain the use of “q.b.”, which is used throughout the book. Quanto Basta means, “as much as you need.” In the Roman tradition they do not get bogged down with precise measures or proportions. They provide guidelines that you adjust to your personal preference, “q.b”.   This reminds me of my Italian grandmother’s recipes, they did not have exact measurements and I finally know the term for that!

“Tasting Rome” has recipes for pizza, salads, chicken, pastas, and deserts.  But, it also uses some ingredients that are more native to Rome. For example, lingua in salsa verde (beef tongue in salsa verde), coda alla vaccinara (braised oxtail), and fegatelli di maiale (grilled pig’s liver).

Get a copy of this unique cookbook. Plan a Roman meal and dream about your visit there!

I receive this book from Blogging for Books in order to write this review.

 

 

 

3 Steps to Your Best Summer Ever

By: Gloria Marie

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It is hard to believe it is the middle of May already. Summer is right around the corner. Do you have any plans yet for the summer? I remember while growing up how exciting it was to have the whole summer off from school. We would spend days in our above ground pool and take breaks from swimming to play board games. I loved reading, so, summer was also a time to leisurely read. Nancy Drew books were my favorite. Try these 3 steps to your best summer ever.

This summer try to make it your best summer ever. What brings you joy? What makes your heart sing? A friend of mine is going through a tough time and I encouraged her to do something that she loves doing. She responded, “I do not know what brings me joy. I work a lot and never do anything for myself.”

It is easy to get complacent and just exist day to day. God wants us to have joyful, happy lives. Take some time to plan for your summer. I decided this summer I want to try watercolor painting. It is a gift to myself. I may not have any talent for it, but, I can assure you I will have fun experimenting with the paints and brushes.

3 Steps to Your Best Summer Ever
Allow yourself 5 – 10 minutes of quiet time to write out your answers. Sit in a chair, take a few deep breaths and think back to your childhood or a summer when you had a great time. What were you doing? Where were you? Who were you with? What made you smile? Your answers do not have to be complicated, simple answers are the best.
Step 1. Get a sheet of paper and a pen. At the top of the page write, “The Top 10 things that would MAKE THIS YOUR BEST SUMMER EVER”. Write the numbers 1- 10. Imagine the sun is shining. You’re relaxed, happy, can’t help but smile and are at peace with yourself and the world. What are you doing? What’s going on in your life? Now, start writing the 10 things.
If your life is busy with not many options right now, find small things you can do for yourself. (a 20 minute walk, dinner with friends, a weekend away) And remember- your best summer ever may be about what you don’t do as well. (Taking a nap, resting)
Step 2. Below your 10 things, write 3 actions that will move you closer to your BEST SUMMER EVER. These can be small action steps. The important point is that you take these three steps this week.
Step 3. Next week create 3 more action steps based on your 10 things.
What would make this your best summer ever?

Creating a Worry Box

By: Gloria Marie

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A worry box is a great tool for dealing with fear. Fear and worry can both be forms of prayer, but, not the type of prayer you want to draw your energy too. Sometimes we can get caught in the spiral of fear and before we know it our fear encompasses many aspects of our lives. That is why I like to have several tools to deal with fear and creating a worry box is one of my favorites.

Normally, I try to nip fear in the bud. I have had many hurdles the past several years and it has taught me to overcome and deal with fear. If we do not deal with it, we are imprinting the fear on our subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind does not judge and obeys whatever we tell it.

If we are concentrating on thoughts of worry or fear, that is exactly what we are putting in our subconscious mind. Consider the analogy of a garden, instead of growing flowers, you are planting weeds. It has been written that fear is man’s greatest enemy. However, the good news is that you can control and overcome it.

The past several months, I have had many challenges. It seemed that whatever I put into motion just stopped dead in its’ tracks. Lots of hard work produced nothing. It was a very frustrating time, like, I was running in place and getting nowhere. This is when worry and fear starting trying to take over. But, I was determined to deal with it and move on. The worry box is one of the tools I used.

Steps to Make Worry Box

1. Find a box you want to use. You probably already have one in your home. It could be a decorative box that is empty. Empty boxes are stagnant energy, put that box to use. Or you can use any small cardboard box and decorate it. Have some fun and let those creative juices flow.
2. Next, light a candle or some incense and say a prayer for guidance and strength. Write down your worries. I remember years ago having worry dolls. I would tell each one of them my problems and then put them in a small pouch. This is a very similar activity.
3. Cut out each “worry” and place it in your box. As you place each one, ask God to surround each of your worries with his Divine Love and Wisdom to help you work through them. Say a prayer of Gratitude that God has heard and will answer your prayers. Have trust and faith in God.
4. Close the box and leave the worries there. When you think about them or fear begins to set in, declare that God, the Universal Intelligence, is working on each and every one is perfect timing and in a perfect way.

Have Some Fun and Create a New Vision Board

By: Gloria Marie

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Yesterday was a New Moon in Aries. New Moons are time for beginning new projects, new ideas and starting over. I thought this would be the perfect time to have some fun and create a new vision board. Of course, do not feel you need to wait for a New Moon to make one. It is a positive project for you to try anytime you feel inspired. Vision boards are a powerful tool for manifestation.

I have a vision board in my closet that I made several years ago. It has collected dust and has seen better days. It was interesting to note that some of my vision remained the same, but, it had recently become more fine-tuned. I turned off my phone and had such fun constructing the new vision board. I was inspired and loved my completed project. This new board is not hidden in my closet, but, in my office below my altar where I can see it every day.

Steps to Create a Vision Board:

1. Gather the materials: Poster board of any size, glue, scissors, markers, pastel crayons, stickers, magazines, photos albums, a happy photo of yourself, and any quotes you like.
2. Glue the photo of yourself in the center.
3. Imagine the board divided into four sections. The top left is for relationships and love. The top right is for self-expression/career. The bottom right is for prosperity/wealth. The bottom left is for health and spirituality. Of course, these are just suggestions. Divide the poster board with works best for you and this point in your life.
4. Next, start looking through magazines, photo albums, and the Internet for quotes and for pictures that inspire you and that you would like to envision in your future. Do not spend a lot of time thinking about it, follow your heart and instincts. Find lots and lots of photos, you may not use them all.
5. Place the photos on the board. Which ones tell the story of your life six months, a year, maybe several years from now? Which quotes do you want to live your life by? When you are ready begin gluing them on.
6. On my board, I could not find some of the photos or quotes I wanted and that is when the markers and pastel crayons came into use. I wrote words and drew pictures.
7. At the top of my board, I wrote, “I AM Presence, Divine Wisdom, Love, and Power.” The I AM presence is God in action. I believe the God is the Universal Force that will manifest my dreams.
8. At the bottom of the board, I wrote the date.

I hope you have fun with this. Put it in an area of your home that you can see it every day for inspiration.

Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui

By: Gloria Marie

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This is a fantastic book for helping you simplify your life by clearing your clutter. “Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui” by Karen Kingston is a practical, easy to put in place formula for freeing yourself from physical, mental, emotional and spiritual clutter forever in a joyful way.

The author gives many examples that by changing and clearing your home you are also changing the possibilities in your life. All of our objects have energy and by clinging to clutter, we may also be clinging to our past. “Do you own your stuff or does it own you?”

One entire chapter explores, “So Why Do People Keep Clutter?” I found myself nodding my head in agreement to many of the reasons: keeping things just in case, security, status, identity, inherited clutteritis or belief that more is better.

The author interjects stories from her clients and many are hilarious, but, hilarious also in the way we can probably relate. For example, your “duck” collection might have begun with a co-worker giving you a gift and before you know it, your entire home is filled with ducks.

The chapter on the Feng Shui Bagua is very easy to understand. In fact, I have read many books on Feng Shui and this is the first time I understood it. There are illustrations to help you map out your Bagua.

The authors’ Clutter Test:
1. Does it lift my energy when I think about it or look at it?
2. Do I absolutely love it?
3. Is it genuinely useful?

It is no surprise that earlier editions of this book sold over one million copies. Personally, I felt my home was pretty clutter free, but, I have a list of projects that I cannot wait to start. Freeing up  space and energy will be fantastic.

I received this book from Blogging for Books in order to write this review.

Spring is Here

By: Gloria Marie

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Spring is Here!

Spring is here! Daylight savings time begins today and our daylight hours will increase. Spring is a time of re-birth and new beginnings. Living in Florida, the season changes are not as dramatic as other parts of the country, but, I still like to do a ritual to welcome in the season.

Of course, we always hear about spring cleaning at this time of year. The morning talk shows have multiple segments on “How Best to Do Your Spring Cleaning” and I picked up some great tips. Picking up the tips and actually performing the work are two different things!

I find a great way to start spring cleaning is by focusing on one area or one room. Walk around your home concentrating on your feelings. Does any area feel like it could use a pickup? Are there any areas where you have allowed clutter to build up? This is where you could start.

My area will be my closet. It is filled with clothes that I do not wear. I read somewhere that we usually only wear 20% of the clothes in our closet. That mean 80% is there to just gather dust. While I am cleaning my closet, I also want to think about my relationship with the clothes.

If you think about it, our clothes tell a story about our lives. I have the dress that I wore to my Mother’s funeral. It used to be one of my favorites and now it just stays on the hanger. Then there is the dress that a former boyfriend bought me. It has been hanging there for several years.

Now there is the dress I wore to my son’s wedding. Just looking at it brings me joy and happiness. And of course, there is the outfit that I paid a lot of money for that never fit quite right and really never looked good on me. There is also a jacket that my Mother bought me that was really not my style, but, I keep it for sentimental value.

This spring, I am going to try and keep only the clothes that I love, that look great on me and that bring me joy. This may not be easy, but, I am willing to give it a try because I know it will change the energy in my room for the better.