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Practice Non-Attachment

By: Gloria Marie

Non-attachment can help you create happiness in your life. We are more comfortable with what we know, even, if we are unhappy. Humans can be like dogs, we like the same things day after day. We may be in a job we do not like or in a relationship that is not right for us, but, it is comfortable like an old shoe. In order to practice non-attachment, we have to stop resisting.

“Clinging to things and to people reveals our fear of losing them.
And when we do lose them, we grieve”.
-Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo

My former husband and I collected western art. As part of the divorce settlement, I was given most of the paintings. I had to sell the artwork because I needed the money. Learning how to sell the artwork, is another whole story. I did figure out how to sell the artwork, but, I resisted. I was attached to the artwork and some part of me didn’t want to “disturb” my home by removing the paintings. One day I came home and found one of the paintings had fallen off the wall. This was an acrylic painting on wood, a very heavy piece that was anchored to the wall. The anchors had actually pulled away from the wall. There was no reason for this to happen, it had been there for over 10 years. This was a wakeup call for me. I felt it was a sign from God.

I sold that painting that week. Once I made the decision it was easy. I stopped resisting and clinging. I continued to sell one painting after another. I realized that things cannot make us happy. True happiness comes from the heart.

Practice Non-Attachment
1. Thank God every day for your life exactly like it is.
2. Use affirmations. “I trust the process of life.” “All is well in my world.”
3. If fear sets in, just breathe. Take 5 deep breaths to bring yourself back to the present moment.

How do you practice non-attachment?

5 Self Help Books to Read Now

By: Gloria Marie

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Reading has always been a passion of mine. When I was 5, I remember being so thrilled because I could read “The Cat and the Hat” all by myself.  This passion for reading continues to this day. I love going to libraries and bookstores. The amount of knowledge in these places humbles me. This list of “5 Self Help Books to Read Now” are currently the ones on the coffee table in my family room. Maybe try to pick up at least one of these and read it this year.

  1. “The Book of Awakening: Having the Live You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have”  Mark Nepo –  This book has a reading for every day of the year. The message is timeless.  When I want some inspiration, I pick it up and open it to any page. Each day has a theme, a quote, and a story. Today’s quote- “We love what we attend”. Mwalimu Imara
  2. “Self-Mastery through Conscious Autosuggestion” by Emile Coue. This little gem was written in 1922 and has 118 pages. Emile Coue was a leader in believing that the mind is the principal factor in health in sickness.  His affirmation, “Every day in every way, I am getting better and better”.
  3. “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay. This has been my go to book for affirmations since 1987. Louise’s life story is inspiring and her techniques for using affirmations are timeless.
  4. “Secrets of Attraction: the Universal Laws of Love, Sex and Romance” by Sandra Anne Taylor. The author reveals how the Universal laws including quantum physics can affect your relationships.
  5. “The Strangest Secret” by Earl Nightingale. This is another classic. It was published in 1956 and it is a mire 42 pages. It is easy to read and yet a timeless, powerful message. His key to success and failure. “We become what we think about”.

Try to pick one of these books up. It may change your life.

How to Get Him off Your Mind

By: Gloria Marie

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This is what I consider a tough part about dating: the break up. But, breaking up is inevitable until you find “The One”. I try to stay positive and think that every relationship I have is preparing me for “The One”.  I imagine bricks going into a foundation for a house. Each brick represents a relationship or maybe even a date and they are helping me grow and build that strong foundation for the loving relationship that I am looking for. So, how to get him off your mind? Follow my 5 steps listed below.

  1. Do not fantasize about him or your relationship. This is tough to do. It is easy to remember all the good times. Force yourself to remember the “not so good times”.  Write them down. Think of his flaws and right them down too.  Did you hate the car he drove?  Was he a slob?  Did he snore at night?  If you are having problems doing this, ask your friends for help.  They can probably be more objective.
  2. When you think about him, replace the image with something else. Think of something that brings you happiness and joy. Picture that instead.
  3. Getting him off your mind will not happen overnight. Try to endure the discomfort of letting go.  Plan some activities with your friends. Maybe it is time for those tennis lessons.
  4. Remove any memories of him from your home, your computer and your work space. This also will free his energy to allow new energy and maybe that new man to enter into your life.
  5. Say affirmations. Affirmations are positive statements that are said in the present tense. Say these out loud. Put them on post it notes in your mirror and on your desk.  Repeat them often
    1. I am attracting a man who loves, adores and appreciates me.
    2. I release the past.
    3. I am ready for love.
    4. I am willing to let go.

 

Stay strong and before you know it, you will feel better.  What do you do to get him off your mind?

 

New Year’s Eve Rituals

By: Gloria Marie

Tonight we ring in the year 2015. I have a ritual that I like to do on New Year’s Eve or New Year’s Day.  I wrote about it in my blog on 12/28/14. Black eye peas for good luck are usually served at my house on New Year’s Day along with watching plenty of football games.  It is interesting to read about what people around the world do for New Year’s Eve rituals.  Maybe this year, you want to incorporate one of these in the day?

I do not make New Year’s resolutions, but, I do reflect on the past year.  There is nothing I change about it, however, there may be something I could learn. Maybe I had to face some fears, so I would ask myself, “What did that situation teach me?”  And then let it go!!! Tomorrow is an exciting day, January 1, 2015. Think of it as a clean slate or as a new beginning. What is it you want to do in 2015 to make it the best year ever?  You can do it.  You are unlimited in your ability to create the incredible life you want.  Have courage and follow those dreams.  Maybe try one of these rituals, it could not hurt.

Spain – They eat 12 grapes at midnight. Each grape signifies good luck for each month of the coming year.

Japan – Buddhist temples ring their bells 108 times.

Ireland – Women who hope to find a husband in the coming year, place mistletoe under their pillows.

Italy – The men and women wear red underwear to bring good luck.

English – The open the back door at midnight to let go of the old year.

Philippines – They believe round shapes represent coins and prosperity. So, a bowl of round fruit is placed on the dinner table.

These are other rituals:

  1. 1. Eat black eye peas on New Year’s Day for good luck and prosperity in the New Year.
  2. At midnight, have money in your pocket for prosperity in the New Year.
  3. Bless your home on New Year’s Day with sage or holy water.
  4. Pay careful attention to the first person to set foot in your house on New Year’s Day.

Do you have a New Year’s Eve ritual to share?

 

 

Clearing Your Throat Chakra

By: Gloria Marie

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Chakra’s are outlets in the human body that are centers of “life forces” and vital energy. We have seven main chakras that are aligned along the spinal column. Each chakra is associated with our physical health and also our emotional and mental health. The throat chakra is located at the base of the neck and it is the fifth chakra. It commonly gets out of balance. I will give you six techniques for clearing your throat chakra.
My throat chakra frequently gets out of balance. My first indication of this is repeatedly clearing my throat. I usually think, ok, what am I not expressing or what am I afraid to say. While dating, if there was someone I did not care to see again, I would notice my throat would feel constricted because I was hesitate about stating my true feelings. You may also notice this in a work situation. Try to become aware if you clear your throat before you have something uncomfortable to say to your boss or a co-worker.
Besides clearing your throat, some other indications of a blocked throat charka are: a sore throat, getting choked up, hearing problems, and a neck ache. When your throat chakra is open and balanced you speak your thoughts clearly. It represents communication and personal expression.
6 Ways to Clear the Throat Chakra
1. Singing or humming. You might be saying: I cannot sing. That should tell you something. To clear my throat chakra, I stand up straight and sing loudly and strongly. I pretend I am singing to the house across the street. Of course, my windows are shut when I do this! It does not matter what you sing, even a series of sounds will suffice.
2. Rub the essential oils chamomile or myrrh on your neck. Remember to dilute the essential oils before you apply them to your skin.
3. The throat chakra is associated with the color blue. Wear something blue, maybe, a blue scarf around your neck.
4. Wear blue jewelry, especially a blue necklace.
5. Carry or wear blue crystals: turquoise, lapis, aquamarine, and sapphire.
6. Say affirmations. This one is from “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay. “It is okay to make noise. I express myself freely and joyously. I speak up for myself with ease.”

Which of these techniques worked for you? Can you suggest some others?

Learn to Let Go and Move On

By: Gloria Marie

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Lessons in love; learn to let go and move on after divorce. This is not only to move on after a divorce, but, also after a relationship ends. Life is all about learning. Take what was positive from a relationship, learn from it, and use those lessons in your next relationship.

My first relationship after my divorce lasted 9 months. When we stopped seeing each other, I was devastated. I felt like a failed again. I went to a very, dark space, filled with fear that I would be alone the rest of my life. I did not let this pity party last too long. Sure, I was hurt, but, I tried  to look at the relationship in a positive way.

Instead of crying, I asked myself, “What did this experience teach me?” When I sat quietly and wrote in my journal, I began to see all the wonderful experiences those nine months gave me. That relationship formed a foundation for my next one. It helped me grow, learn to love myself, and begin to formalize what I wanted in a relationship.

By freeing up your energy and focusing on the positives from a past relationship, you are actually taking back your power. Negative thoughts form negative energy and that only hurts you. Free up your energy to allow someone else to come into your life.

My Tips:
Repeat this affirmation:
“Everything comes in perfect time, I am drawing in a man who I love and who loves me”

Questions to Ask Yourself:
From the book, “The Wizard of Us” by Jean Houston
Can you see any way in which this challenging situation might have served your growth or caused you to shift?
Offered you an opportunity to become more compassionate?
Set stronger boundaries for yourself?
Offered you opportunities to look at your self-worth?

Do you have any stories to share?

Learning to Love YOU!

By: Gloria Marie

Learn to love you: the incredible, amazing human being that you are. It is time to stop the negative self-talk and negative thinking. It is time to treat yourself with the same love and respect that you give others. Today, start learning to love YOU!

We become what we think about. Positive, loving thoughts will bring positive loving things into your life. When we go through a divorce or through other life changes, it is easy to go to a very “dark” place. It happens little by little and then one day, it seems that there is no joy or happiness in your life. If you are willing to change your thoughts, you can change your life.

Learning to love yourself is a miracle cure. How many times a day do you treat yourself without love? Do any of the following resonate with you?
We have negative thoughts.
We feel we are unlovable.
We live our life in fear.
We compare ourselves to others.
We settle for less – in relationships, salaries.
We criticize ourselves.

Make the decision today to start loving yourself. Do something special for yourself today. Maybe it is taking the time for a long bath, reading a favorite book, calling a dear friend, or maybe it is just relaxing on the couch.

Learn to Love You Exercises:
1. This exercise is from Louise Hay. After my divorce, I did this on a daily basis. Look in the mirror at your eyes and repeat the following, saying your name, “I love and accept you exactly as you are”. You may find it difficult at first and your voice may sound insincere. Keep doing this every day, until you believe it.
2. Repeat other affirmations throughout the day.
3. Picture your heart surrounded by pink light and extend that light out into the world.

You can change and find happiness and joy once again.

Which of the exercises worked for you?

One Thing That Makes Life Better

By: Gloria Marie

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The one thing that makes life better is gratitude. Our words carry tremendous energy. Living and feeling with a sense of lack in your life, you are going to create more lack. By focusing on gratitude and the many wonderful gifts you are given every day, you will surround yourself with more positive energy and bring more joy into your life.

Before my feet touch the floor in the morning, I thank God for another day.  It is not only the obvious things to be grateful for, but, also the not so obvious things.  Did someone smile at you today? Did you see the sky today? Did you have clean water to drink?  Some days it may be difficult to find something to be grateful for, we all have days like that.  But, on days like that it is even more important to change your energy and find something to be grateful for. Try to expand the feeling throughout your body and heart. In difficult times being grateful will change your perspective and it will allow more happiness in your life.

On the mirror in my bathroom, I have an index card with the following saying, “I am grateful for what I have and I welcome all the gifts this day will bring”. Isn’t that a beautiful way to start a day?

Try this experiment this week:

  1. Get a journal or a sheet of paper.
  2. Write down 10 things that you are grateful for.
  3. Commit to an action plan and read the list them out loud every day for a week.
  4. At the end of each day, try to add 3 more items to your list.
  5. Continue saying them out loud.

How did you feel at the end of the week?  Gratitude is the one thing that can make life better.

 

 

 

 

 

Create the Ideal You

By: Gloria Marie

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Sensational Sunday      Create the Ideal You

Every Sunday the Single, Happy, and Strong Blog will have an exercise for you to do.  This is a wonderful way to start a new week; to reflect, grow, and begin a shift in your life.  This week we are going help you create the ideal you.

Going through a divorce is not easy and there are many emotions involved.  Through the pain and changes there is also a precious opportunity to create the ideal you.  Stop pretending that it should not have been.   Stop trying to avoid the pain.  Try to relax and stop struggling.

Just sit and relax. Try to feel at peace. When you stop fighting the emotions and pain, you may find yourself more at peace that you thought.  It is in this relaxed state of non-resistance that you can begin to create the NEW ideal you.

Creating the Ideal You

  1. Be –   What do you want to be?  Do you want a new career?  Do you want to be a better Mother?   Do you want to be more patient?
  2. Do – What do you want to do?  Have more time for yourself?  Increase your social circle?  Do you want to learn a sport?  Do you want to learn to play a musical instrument?
  3. Have – Do you want to have a simpler life?  Do you want to have more income? Do you want to have more fun?
  4. Achieved – Do you want to be financially independent? Do you want to complete a marathon?
  5. Serve – How do you want to give back?  What charity, person, or cause can you help.

Exercise

  1. Sitting in that quiet space of non-resistance.  Get a sheet of paper and a pen.  On the left side of the page, write the 5 words from above: be, do, have, achieved, and serve.
  2. Just start writing next to each word. There are no right or wrong answers.  Just keep brainstorming.
  3. Complete this exercise with the idea that at the end of your life, you created the ideal you.
  4. Go back to your notes another day.  Make some changes or additions.

Now, are you going to begin taking steps to create the ideal you?

 

 

 

Affirmations

By: Gloria Marie

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The Dhammapada is an ancient collection of the Buddha’s teachings. In Twin Verses, the first chapter of the Dhammapada it is written, “All that we are is the result of what we have thought: we are formed and molded by our thoughts”.  Affirmations are positive statements that can be repeated on a regular basis.  They can be written, repeated orally or both. Affirmations help us control our thoughts.

James Allen in his book, “As You Thinketh”, written in 1904, states, “All that you achieve and all that you fail to achieve is the direct result of your own thoughts”.

Positive affirmations work! They can transform your life. They are simple to incorporate into your daily activities. I write down my affirmations on index cards and keep them with me all day. Or I will put them on post it notes on my mirror in the bathroom and on my desk. Put them wherever you spend time. They are constant reminders to keep thoughts positive and transforming.

Some days I may work with 10 affirmations. Other days or weeks, I may only work with one. I will write them down and read them out loud. The more you say them, the better. Try to repeat them morning and night.

3 Steps to Begin Using Affirmations

1. Affirmations should be written in the present tens

2.  Think about what you would like to change or improve in your life.

3. Write them on index cards or post it notes and read aloud daily.

Some examples of affirmations:

I am healthy.

I am creating my happiness

I am power and love.

I believe in myself.

I am lovable.

I am grateful for all the gifts this day will bring.

I am creative and the Universe supports me.

 

Change your thoughts, change your life.

 

What affirmations did you create?