Non-attachment can help you create happiness in your life. We are more comfortable with what we know, even, if we are unhappy. Humans can be like dogs, we like the same things day after day. We may be in a job we do not like or in a relationship that is not right for us, but, it is comfortable like an old shoe. In order to practice non-attachment, we have to stop resisting.
“Clinging to things and to people reveals our fear of losing them.
And when we do lose them, we grieve”.
-Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo
My former husband and I collected western art. As part of the divorce settlement, I was given most of the paintings. I had to sell the artwork because I needed the money. Learning how to sell the artwork, is another whole story. I did figure out how to sell the artwork, but, I resisted. I was attached to the artwork and some part of me didn’t want to “disturb” my home by removing the paintings. One day I came home and found one of the paintings had fallen off the wall. This was an acrylic painting on wood, a very heavy piece that was anchored to the wall. The anchors had actually pulled away from the wall. There was no reason for this to happen, it had been there for over 10 years. This was a wakeup call for me. I felt it was a sign from God.
I sold that painting that week. Once I made the decision it was easy. I stopped resisting and clinging. I continued to sell one painting after another. I realized that things cannot make us happy. True happiness comes from the heart.
1. Thank God every day for your life exactly like it is.
2. Use affirmations. “I trust the process of life.” “All is well in my world.”
3. If fear sets in, just breathe. Take 5 deep breaths to bring yourself back to the present moment.
How do you practice non-attachment?