How to Deal With Betrayal by a Friend
Betrayal by a friend is awful and hurtful, however, if you carry around bitterness or hostility you are zapping your own energy. The only one that continues to suffer will be you. It is like drinking poison! You do not need to condone or agree with their treatment of you. But, bitterness only hurts your energy. Like attracts like and you certainly do not want to attract more of the same. You want to attract loving, kind, and trustworthy friends into your life. Wish the betrayer well and cast if off. Spend your energy on thinking and attracting the type of true friends that you deserve. You cannot change what they did, you can only control your thoughts going forward. #betrayal #friendbetrayal
April 17, 2017
Our lives unfold in Divine Order every day, yet the surrender to this is difficult. We worry about the past and the future. We get upset if things do not go our way and spend tons of energy being upset. This energy would be better directed to see the wonder and beauty that we have in our lives daily. Sometimes, if we are lucky, we are reminded of the preciousness of life. It happened to me this past week.
A dear friend of mine was admitted to Hospice this past week. My sister and I went late one evening to see her and to pray. Being in Hospice so late at night there was silence. The silence of acceptance. It was peaceful and serene. James Finely said in a retreat that I attended, “In Hospice, no one recovers, but, some people are healed. That is compassion.” At Hospice, there is surrender to Divine Order.
The next morning, the sky looked bluer than I had seen it in a while. The flowers and landscape in my backyard were beautiful. The air smelled so crisp and fresh. I felt alive and grateful for the day before me. Not that the day was perfect, rarely is a day perfect. But, I once again realized the preciousness of the simple things in life.
Many parts of our lives and days are spent in limbo, waiting for the future, perfect day instead of being fully alive today. Are there clothes in your closet that you wear only on special occasions? How about the cologne on your dresser that you rarely use? What else are you holding onto for the “just in case” future event?
Today is that special day! Look around you and be grateful for all the blessings in your life. Open your heart and feel the preciousness of life.
This is a helpful prayer to say in the morning.
“Divine Order takes charge in my life today and every day. All things work together for me today. This is a new and wonderful day for me. I am divinely guided all day long.”
April 13, 2017
When you are feeling down or depressed use this simple tool to change your mood. Your problems are real. Could be the loss of job, health issues, or relationship break up, but, if left unchecked, you can spiral down and down. Spread kindness to others. Get out of your own head and problems and focus on others. Give smiles, give compliments. Leave envelopes with a few dollars in random places. You will feel a rush, and that rush will help you stop just focusing on yourself and your ego’s demands. When you feel better, then, begin to tackle the problems.
April 9, 2017
Toxic relationships can poison your life. Would you put toxic chemicals in your body? More than likely, you try to avoid them. Toxic relationships drain your time, your energy, and your self-esteem. You know when you are in this type of relationship. You may feel tired, mistreated, and give more than you receive. These relationships can be with a lover, a friend, a family member or an ex-husband. You have the power to remove toxic ties from your life.
Recently, I cut a toxic tie with a friend. He continually disappointed me, and I allowed it. It took one last huge disappointment, and I said enough! I would no longer tolerate this type of treatment. I kept hoping for a change that may never occur, and the only one suffering was me. Once I made that decision, I felt more in control of my life.
A toxic relationship is like a computer virus that grows and grows. It may start small and go unnoticed, but, eventually, you see that your computer is not working quite right. The next day you may notice something else different about your computer as the virus continues to evade your hard drive. While in a toxic relationship, you may not be aware of the compromises initially, they will grow gradually, but, one day you realize you can no longer put up with the lies, the lack of respect or the constant drain on your time and energy. When that day arrives, you then must have the courage to cut the tie.
What you tolerate will happen again and again. It is like watching a movie or reading a book and hoping for a different ending. That is not going to happen. Releasing this type of relationship requires courage. It is not your fault that you are in a relationship of this type. But, you can do something about it because there is a huge cost.
1. If you are stuck in a toxic relationship ask yourself why you are stuck?
2. If it is a romantic relationship, do you believe that you do not deserve real love?
3. Set healthy boundaries and do not feel guilty about it. Or you may have to avoid contact altogether.
4. Ask yourself, what difference would it make in your life if this energy drainer was out of your life?
Have the courage to release. Do not tolerate mistreatment.
April 6, 2017
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