Monthly Archives: October 2016

Make Gratitude Your Attitude

By: Gloria Marie

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How did you wake up feeling this morning? Were your first thoughts, “Oh no another day?” The first part of our morning sets the tone for the rest of the day. Our thoughts manifest into our lives. If you started the day with dread, guess what, your day probably would be filled with problems. Instead of dread, make gratitude your attitude in the morning and throughout the day.

On first awakening try saying or thinking, “God thank you for this wondrous day before me.” Gratitude opens us up to our true self and allows grace to enter our lives. When we are connected to our true self in gratitude, success and abundance flows into our lives.

Whatever we put out in the world comes back to us. Being grateful for what you have today, in this present moment, will bring more blessings into your life. All we truly have is this precious, present moment. The past is gone and we do not know what tomorrow will bring.

Even if your life is not quite what you want, there are still things to be grateful for. Look out the window and look at the magnificent world we live in. If you had water to drink and food to eat today, that is a gift.

Besides being grateful on first awakening, there are other ways to make gratitude your attitude.

1. At night, write down three blessing you received. Try not to write the obvious ones. Was there someone who touched your heart? Did something unexpected happen? Did you notice something in nature that was magnificent? I have a small forest behind my house and I am grateful every day to watch the birds. Nature can provide us with simple pleasures. When you write them down, expand a little on your feelings.
2. Write a gratitude letter to someone in your past that had an influence on your life and that you never thanked. It could be a former teacher, a relative, a couch, or maybe a friend. It is up to you whether to send the letter. It is more important to put your feelings on paper

This week make gratitude your attitude. Complain less and see what a difference it makes. Allow grace to flow into your life.

5 Minutes to Spare

By: Gloria Marie

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Every moment of our day is precious. But, how many times do you waste precious minutes? It is usually not the hours we waste away; it is the small increments of time. Maybe you need to leave for an appointment, you are all ready, and you have 5 minutes to spare. Or, your favorite show will be on in 5 minutes. Or, you put dinner on the stove and you have a few more minutes until it is ready. Well listed below are 5 ways to spend  5 minutes.

 

1. Clean out a drawer. It could be your, “junk” drawer, your sock drawer, or your kitchen utensil drawer. It really does not matter, just pick one. Organizing is much easier with small steps. If you take it at 5 minutes at a time, before long, most of your drawers will be cleaned and organized.
2. Go through that stack of magazines. Chances are if you have magazines older than 3 months, you will not read them. Sort them and recycle the older ones.
3. Call someone to say hello. Keep a list of people you would like to speak to but, just never seem to find the time. Perhaps it is an elderly person that does not get out of the house much, just think how a call to say hello will brighten their day.
4. Write an affirmation. Get out a pen and a sheet of paper. Spend 5 minutes writing an affirmation that speaks to your heart. How do you feel after spending 5 minutes this way?
• Some examples:
o I am enough.
o I am loving and deserve to be loved.
o I am grateful for this day and all the blessing that it brings.
o I am creative and my creative thoughts flow freely.
o I am surrounded with abundance.
5. Sit in silence. Concentrate on your breath or sit quietly in prayer.

How did you spend your 5 minutes?

Miracles are Seen in Light

By: Gloria Marie

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Miracles are seen in light. This statement is from “A Course in Miracles.” Miracles can and do occur in our life. But, we must remain in God’s light to experience the miracles.

What causes us to be in darkness? When we are filled with fear, when we are weak, and when we are doubtful, that is when we are in darkness. When we are in darkness, we are not putting our faith in God and any miracles will remain unseen. In darkness, we are putting our faith in our problems and in our fears, instead of in God.

We have the power to be strong, have faith and go to what we want. We have the power to instruct our mind and be in God’s light. That is when we walk and live in the light. God’s strength and love can become yours. Become a flashlight and remove the darkness.

We can remain in the light by quieting our minds every day. Spending at least ten minutes every day in meditation or prayer will allow you to leave your weakness behind. It will allow you to get in touch with your Inner Self that is perfectly created by God. By setting aside some quiet time, you will for a few moments, disconnect from the physical world and enter the realm where miracles occur.

Meditation will also allow you to undo any negative thoughts you may have about yourself.

I am not weak, but strong.
I am no helpless, but all powerful.
I am not limited, but unlimited.
I am not doubtful, but certain.
I cannot see in darkness, but in light.

Living in light is where we are meant to live and thrive. Turn on your flashlight and remove any darkness, that is when miracles will occur. Keep track of your miracles, write them in a journal. It will serve to remind you of God’s strength and love.

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Six Ways to Stay Joyful

By: Gloria Marie

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What was the first thing you did when you woke up this morning? Maybe said a prayer for having another day on this magnificent earth? Did you feel joyful and excited about your day? Finding joy and living a joy-filled life allows you to shine. Joy is a true internal feeling that is not affected by life’s up and downs. It differs from happiness which is more external. You won the lottery, you feel happiness. This is not to say that you will always be joyful, but, by cultivating joy, you will be joyful more frequently. Here are my six ways to stay joyful.

I practice these steps, not every day, but, most days. If I am going through a more challenging period in my life, I make it a habit to integrate these actions in my life. Let your soul shine through with joy, it will help everyone around you feel better.

6 Ways to Stay Joyful
1. Be grateful. A practice that includes gratitude allows you to dwell on the positive aspects in your life. No matter how difficult a period you are going through, there is always something to be grateful for. Do you say a silent prayer before a meal? Or maybe start a Gratitude journal.
2. Do something creative. Learn something new. When you are doing a creative project, you unblock energy and that energy can now flow in better ways. When you are doing the creative project; pay attention to the process. Immerse yourself in it.
3. Find your passion. Pursue something that you care deeply about. Even taking small steps toward your passion will bring you joy. What does your ideal day look like?
4. Be of service to others. Take the focus off your ego-centered self and bring happiness to another person. Think of the countless ways you can be of service.
5. Exercise. The Mayo Clinic says, “Exercise in almost any form can act as a stress reliever. Being active can boost your feel good endorphins and distract you from daily worries”. You do not have to train for a marathon. Just do some exercise that you enjoy.
6. Listen to your intuition. In silence, you deep gut feelings are very reliable. Learn to be aware of them.

What do you do to bring more joy into your life?

The Subconscious Mind is Your Gold Mine

By: Gloria Marie

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The subconscious mind is your gold mine.  It does what we tell it to do. There are not two minds. There are merely two spheres of activity within one mind: the conscious and sub-conscious mind.

The conscious mind  is our thoughts and our ego. It is the human mind that sees life as it is. It sees death, disaster, sickness, poverty and limitation. It impresses the sub-conscious and is called the “Watchman of the Gate” of the sub-conscious mind. With it we choose what we want to think. What we want to be. What we want to do and what we want to have. The conscious mind rules logic, judgement, and reason. Whatever your conscious mind chooses to believe, your sub-conscious mind will accept it and bring it to pass. The great part is that we can choose our thoughts. For example, instead of saying, “I can’t” say  “I can” and that will come to pass.

Our sub-conscious mind takes orders from the conscious mind. It does not judge and has no ego, it just carries out the orders in amazing detail: both positive and negative. It never sleeps. It is in charge of our organs and our breathing. It is our imagination and intuition. It is what connects us to Infinite Intelligence. For example, if you say, “I cannot get that job,” You wish will be granted. Once it accepts an idea, it begins to execute it. Have you ever had a problem that you thought about before going to sleep and then you woke up and knew the answer. The answer came from your sub-conscious mind, it never sleeps. Your sub-conscious mind is your gold mine!!!

I like to use the analogy of a garden. We can plant seeds in the sub-conscious mind of peace, harmony, health, abundance and good will. They will grow. Positive statements are like water and fertilizer, so, you can reap your harvest and move confidently in life. Negative thoughts and statements are like weeds in your garden, get rid of them, pull them out!

You can control your thoughts and your mind. Your mind does not control you.

 

10 Ways to Practice Gratitude

By: Gloria Marie

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Yesterday, my home was spared the wrath of Hurricane Matthew. I spent the day so grateful and thought this would be an appropriate blog. I believe that gratitude is an important component to manifesting your dreams and desires. Gratitude connects you to your true power. It gets you to expect the best and you will get the best! This week try a few of these 10 ways to practice gratitude. I also encourage you to watch the six minute film, “Gratitude.” The link is at the end of this blog.

I have kept a gratitude journal for over ten years. But, I must admit, I am not consistent writing in it. I keep it by my bedside and try to write three things that I am grateful for at the end of the day. Looking back over what I wrote is very heart warming. There are many, many memories. This month though, I wanted to go deeper in my gratitude practice and this is what I came up with.

10 Ways to Practice Gratitude

1. Write down three things you are grateful for and try to do this every day. When I have a disappointing or stressful day, it is amazing when I reflect on the great things or people in my day, it is an automatic attitude changer.
2. Think of a difficult situation or event that happened in your life and spend some journaling about “What was the Blessing” from that situation.
3. Write a gratitude letter to someone that helped make a difference in your life. Here is the link for the blog I wrote about gratitude letters.
4. Make a gratitude visit. Is there someone you could visit that you really appreciate and want to let them know?
5. Before meals, spend a few moments in prayer and silence giving thanks for the food you are about to eat.
6. Think of a gift you received from someone and probably how great it
made you feel. Can you pay it forward and do something for someone that is totally unexpected?
7. Think of a family member that you would like to acknowledge and thank. Give them a call. Usually, we forget to be grateful for those closest to us.
8. Stop at some point in your day and take a few deep breaths. Focus on the word “grateful” as you breathe in and out.
9. Write an affirmation. Start the sentence, “Today I am grateful for ________________.”
10. Write a check to an organization that you appreciate. It does not matter the amount. Even a $10 check is fine.

I would like to close with the beautiful film titled “Gratitude.” It was done by filmmaker Louie Schwartzberg. It is narrated by Brother David Steindl-Rast. It is only six minutes long and I guarantee you will not be disappointed.

A Captivating Work of Historical Fiction

By: Gloria Marie

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Saffire is a captivating work of historical fiction. It is filled with intrigue, romance and historical accuracy. The book is set in Panama in 1909. James Holt is asked by Teddy Roosevelt, an old friend of friend of his, to investigate sabotage at the Panama Canal construction site. James Holt’s character is right of the old west including his cowboy hat and boots. His ranch is in jeopardy of foreclosure, so, he accepts the assignment because of the hefty payment and travels by train and steamer ship to the Panama Canal. A very long trip in 1909. Holt is a widow and leaves his eight-year-old daughter in her uncle’s care in North Dakota. Holt quickly finds conspiracies far worse than Roosevelt imagined. He befriends, Saffire, a young girl whose Mother has disappeared and looks for clues to her disappearance. It is a compelling read filled with mystery, romance and murder. Saffire is page turner filled with history. It reminded me of Casablanca!
I received this book from Blogging for Books in order to write this review.

One Thing That Makes Life Better

By: Gloria Marie

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One thing that makes life better is gratitude. Our words carry tremendous energy. Living and feeling with a sense of lack in your life, you are going to create more lack. By focusing on gratitude and the many wonderful gifts you are given every day, you will surround yourself with more positive energy and bring more joy into your life.

Our minds are always filled with thoughts. But, you have the power to choose your thoughts. Choose them wisely.  Instead of thoughts of anger, fear or lack switch them to thoughts of gratitude.  You can and will change your life with thoughts of gratitude.

If your life is not quite what you want, thank God for what you have and ask for something better!

Before my feet touch the floor in the morning, I thank God for another day. It is not only the obvious things to be grateful for, but, also the not so obvious things. Did someone smile at you today? Did you see the sky today? Did you have clean water to drink? Some days it may be difficult to find something to be grateful for, we all have days like that. But, on days like that it is even more important to change your energy and find something to be grateful for. Try to expand the feeling throughout your body and heart. In difficult times being grateful will change your perspective and it will allow more happiness in your life.

On the mirror in my bathroom, I have an index card with the following saying, “I am grateful for what I have and I welcome all the gifts this day will bring”. Isn’t that a beautiful way to start a day?

Try this experiment this week:
1. Get a journal or a sheet of paper.
2. Write down 10 things that you are grateful for.
3. Commit to an action plan and read the list them out loud every day for a week.
4. At the end of each day, try to add 3 more items to your list.
5. Continue saying them out loud.

How did you feel at the end of the week? Gratitude is the one thing that can make life better.