Monthly Archives: May 2016

Release and Surrender

By: Gloria Marie

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Lately I have heard from so many people that feel frustrated in some part of their lives. It may be frustration from trying to launch a new company, frustration in trying to sell a home, or frustration in a dead end job. Have you ever felt that no matter what you do or no matter what steps you are taking; it seems like you are getting nowhere? Maybe it is time to release and surrender to a power much greater than yourself.

Surrendering does not mean you are giving up. It means you are going to stop holding onto the problems with your hands in tight fists and probably your stomach in knots. Do you find yourself thinking, “I am so mixed up and do not know what to do?” Think of what mixed signals you are giving your subconscious mind. You want to move forward, but, are verbalizing the opposite. A good analogy is getting in a taxi. You give the drive one address; you do not keep changing it. Eventually you arrive at your destination.

It is the same with our subconscious minds. Our subconscious mind is aligned with God. Give it positive thoughts for what you want to manifest and then let go. Easy does it, have faith that your prayers will be answered.

Several years ago, I had to sell my home of 25 years. I could no longer afford it and it was a very emotional time with many, many changes and difficult situations throughout my life. The house was on the market forever. I must have shown it over 100 times. It was so frustrating dealing with my financial situation and having to put a happy face on when showing the property. In addition, I was cleaning out 25 years’ worth of memories. Not an easy time at all.

I was like the passenger in the taxi giving too many directions. On the one hand, I desperately needed to sell the house. But, on the other, I kept thinking: Would my son and I be homeless? Where were we going to live? What am I going to do with all the furniture and other stuff?

I held the situation, “tightly in my hands” and it did no good and did not produce a buyer for the house. I remember one day, praying and meditating and a shift occurred. I felt it in my heart, the faith to release my worries and give them to God. After that day, whenever my worries would arise, I would say a prayer or think of God. I trusted that God could move mountains. I did sell the house and the sale went smoothly.

Sometimes we need to let go, let God and spend time quietly listening. Keep the ego mind in check and get in tune with your subconscious mind. Stop the struggle and open your heart to God’s love. Again, you are not giving up and of course, still take action steps toward your goals. But, also listen and believe in a power much greater than yourself.

Easy does it!

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“Tasting Rome” a Cookbook and Travelogue

By: Gloria Marie

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“Tasting Rome” by Katie Parla and Kristina Gill is a combination cookbook and travelogue. The beautiful photographs, wonderful recipes, and interesting texts will make you want to buy a ticket to visit Rome.  If you cannot go to Rome, enjoy the delights of this cookbook. “Tasting Rome” is so much more than a cookbook.

This book combines both traditional and contemporary recipes with interesting stories and facts about Rome. They include recipes for classic dishes like Cacio e Pepe, Pollo alla Romana, and gnocchi di patate di arcangelo dandini.  The authors worked alongside some of the city’s great chefs to develop recipes deeply rooted in Roman culture.

The photographs accompanying the recipes are beautiful, but, I personally enjoyed the photographs of the Roman landscape, people and restaurants.  It is an immersion for the sights and taste of that beautiful, historic city.

In the “How to Use This Book” section the authors explain the use of “q.b.”, which is used throughout the book. Quanto Basta means, “as much as you need.” In the Roman tradition they do not get bogged down with precise measures or proportions. They provide guidelines that you adjust to your personal preference, “q.b”.   This reminds me of my Italian grandmother’s recipes, they did not have exact measurements and I finally know the term for that!

“Tasting Rome” has recipes for pizza, salads, chicken, pastas, and deserts.  But, it also uses some ingredients that are more native to Rome. For example, lingua in salsa verde (beef tongue in salsa verde), coda alla vaccinara (braised oxtail), and fegatelli di maiale (grilled pig’s liver).

Get a copy of this unique cookbook. Plan a Roman meal and dream about your visit there!

I receive this book from Blogging for Books in order to write this review.

 

 

 

Shift From Fear to Gratitude

By: Gloria Marie

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Normally, I am pretty good dealing with anxiety. The past several years brought so many crises in my life, that I was left with very little choice than to put on my big girl pants and deal with it. But, this past week brought a situation that threw me off and I needed to back to the basics again. A shift from fear to gratitude was needed.

My son had a crisis at college. A miracle occurred and it was all worked out. The Dean of the Registrar at his University is a Saint and I will be forever grateful for her kindness and compassion. But, even when the situation was worked out, I still felt a lot of anxiety a week later. If you are a parent, you know, that it is so difficult to see your children going through a rough time.

I was meditating every morning, but, I still had that uncomfortable feeling in my solar plexius (about two inches above the navel). When I thought about this and allowed myself some quiet time to acutally feel the anxiety in my body, I realized my ego was in control. The ego was still focusing on the what-ifs. What if it didn’t work out? What would my son do? Can this happen again?

I allowed the ego mind to rule instead of the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is in a state of grace and does what we tell it. That was the shift I needed. Instead of allowing fear based thoughts every time I felt the anxiety, I would focus on gratitude and the miracle that God provided.

It was a subtle shift. Just taking charge of my thoughts and creating a new habit. Gratitude puts us in touch with our higher selves and that aligns us with God, faith, and trust. Deepak Chopra said, “Gratitude is like a flashlight in a dark forest.”

Within in a day of a gratitude shift, the anxiety was gone and I just felt so blessed for the miracle that occurred.

Next time you are filled with stress or anxiety turn your thoughts to gratitude. We can change our habits by changing our thoughts.

3 Steps to Your Best Summer Ever

By: Gloria Marie

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It is hard to believe it is the middle of May already. Summer is right around the corner. Do you have any plans yet for the summer? I remember while growing up how exciting it was to have the whole summer off from school. We would spend days in our above ground pool and take breaks from swimming to play board games. I loved reading, so, summer was also a time to leisurely read. Nancy Drew books were my favorite. Try these 3 steps to your best summer ever.

This summer try to make it your best summer ever. What brings you joy? What makes your heart sing? A friend of mine is going through a tough time and I encouraged her to do something that she loves doing. She responded, “I do not know what brings me joy. I work a lot and never do anything for myself.”

It is easy to get complacent and just exist day to day. God wants us to have joyful, happy lives. Take some time to plan for your summer. I decided this summer I want to try watercolor painting. It is a gift to myself. I may not have any talent for it, but, I can assure you I will have fun experimenting with the paints and brushes.

3 Steps to Your Best Summer Ever
Allow yourself 5 – 10 minutes of quiet time to write out your answers. Sit in a chair, take a few deep breaths and think back to your childhood or a summer when you had a great time. What were you doing? Where were you? Who were you with? What made you smile? Your answers do not have to be complicated, simple answers are the best.
Step 1. Get a sheet of paper and a pen. At the top of the page write, “The Top 10 things that would MAKE THIS YOUR BEST SUMMER EVER”. Write the numbers 1- 10. Imagine the sun is shining. You’re relaxed, happy, can’t help but smile and are at peace with yourself and the world. What are you doing? What’s going on in your life? Now, start writing the 10 things.
If your life is busy with not many options right now, find small things you can do for yourself. (a 20 minute walk, dinner with friends, a weekend away) And remember- your best summer ever may be about what you don’t do as well. (Taking a nap, resting)
Step 2. Below your 10 things, write 3 actions that will move you closer to your BEST SUMMER EVER. These can be small action steps. The important point is that you take these three steps this week.
Step 3. Next week create 3 more action steps based on your 10 things.
What would make this your best summer ever?

Two Techniques for Forgiveness

By: Gloria Marie

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Last week’s blog was about the importance of forgiveness. This week I would like to discuss two tools for forgiveness. When you forgive someone it does not mean that you condone what they did, it allows you to clear your energy and move forward with your life. The Universe is ready to fill any void. So, get rid of any negativity that you are holding onto and go forward with joy, peace and love.

Technique One

1. Spend ten minutes quieting your mind and getting in touch with your inner self. You can meditate, pray, or read something inspirational.
2. Then say the following: I fully and freely forgive _____________ (mention the name); I release him and let him go. I completely forgive everything. It is finished forever. He is free and I am free. I wish him well and ask God to Bless us both.
3. This does not need repeating. It is sufficient to do it only once.
4. When the person you forgave comes into your mind. Immediately ask God to Bless him.
5. Continue step 4 until all bitterness or resentment disappears.
6. Gradually, it will get easier and easier and one day you will feel joy and know that you are free.

Technique Two

1. Spend ten minutes quieting your mind and getting in touch with your inner self. You can meditate, pray, or read something inspirational.
2. Get a piece of paper and something to write with.
3. Write a letter to the person you want to forgive. Be very detailed and tell what hurt you, how it made you feel, and why you are going to forgive them.
4. Sign you name and put at the bottom of the letter. “It is done.”
5. Say a prayer asking God to Bless them.
6. Either burn the letter and scatter the ashes outside or bury the letter in the earth.

How did you feel after doing one of these techniques?

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The Big F Word

By: Gloria Marie

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Forgiveness is the big F word. Forgiveness is probably the most important act we can practice in our lives. It may not always be easy to forgive, but, it is vital for your physical, emotional, and mental wellbeing.

If someone hurt you deeply or did something that physically hurt you, it does not mean you condone the act. You can accept that it was wrong and that it is unacceptable to treat you that way, but, you can still forgive.

When we have ill or negative thoughts about someone, it is like putting poison in our own bodies and hoping it will have the effect on the person that hurt us. It does not work that way. Those negative thoughts come back to you like a boomerang and can affect you both physically and mentally.

Forgiveness does not happen overnight, but, once you make the decision, it CAN be done. Imagine how much lighter you will feel without holding onto something so negative. Other more positive things will appear in your life. The Universe will fill that void.

About a year ago I lost my job. That in and of itself was really tuff, but, I realized the owner of the company lied to me about why I was let go. This was a friend and someone I trusted. As a single mother supporting a son in school, I was let go after four years with no warning and no severance. Our mission at the company was to promote peace and love in the world. So, not only was I without work, all I had worked for was false.

I know how important forgiveness is and I began immediately to pray to God to help me and guide me. It wasn’t overnight, but, it worked. The litmus test for forgiveness: you hear something wonderful happened to the person and you are actually happy and joyous for them.

Not only are you happy, but, you are FREE!!!

Next week, I will share some techniques to achieve happiness. If you are not on my email list, sign up on my website to receive my weekly blog.

Blessings.