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Creating a Worry Box

By: Gloria Marie

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A worry box is a great tool for dealing with fear. Fear and worry can both be forms of prayer, but, not the type of prayer you want to draw your energy too. Sometimes we can get caught in the spiral of fear and before we know it our fear encompasses many aspects of our lives. That is why I like to have several tools to deal with fear and creating a worry box is one of my favorites.

Normally, I try to nip fear in the bud. I have had many hurdles the past several years and it has taught me to overcome and deal with fear. If we do not deal with it, we are imprinting the fear on our subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind does not judge and obeys whatever we tell it.

If we are concentrating on thoughts of worry or fear, that is exactly what we are putting in our subconscious mind. Consider the analogy of a garden, instead of growing flowers, you are planting weeds. It has been written that fear is man’s greatest enemy. However, the good news is that you can control and overcome it.

The past several months, I have had many challenges. It seemed that whatever I put into motion just stopped dead in its’ tracks. Lots of hard work produced nothing. It was a very frustrating time, like, I was running in place and getting nowhere. This is when worry and fear starting trying to take over. But, I was determined to deal with it and move on. The worry box is one of the tools I used.

Steps to Make Worry Box

1. Find a box you want to use. You probably already have one in your home. It could be a decorative box that is empty. Empty boxes are stagnant energy, put that box to use. Or you can use any small cardboard box and decorate it. Have some fun and let those creative juices flow.
2. Next, light a candle or some incense and say a prayer for guidance and strength. Write down your worries. I remember years ago having worry dolls. I would tell each one of them my problems and then put them in a small pouch. This is a very similar activity.
3. Cut out each “worry” and place it in your box. As you place each one, ask God to surround each of your worries with his Divine Love and Wisdom to help you work through them. Say a prayer of Gratitude that God has heard and will answer your prayers. Have trust and faith in God.
4. Close the box and leave the worries there. When you think about them or fear begins to set in, declare that God, the Universal Intelligence, is working on each and every one is perfect timing and in a perfect way.

Have Some Fun and Create a New Vision Board

By: Gloria Marie

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Yesterday was a New Moon in Aries. New Moons are time for beginning new projects, new ideas and starting over. I thought this would be the perfect time to have some fun and create a new vision board. Of course, do not feel you need to wait for a New Moon to make one. It is a positive project for you to try anytime you feel inspired. Vision boards are a powerful tool for manifestation.

I have a vision board in my closet that I made several years ago. It has collected dust and has seen better days. It was interesting to note that some of my vision remained the same, but, it had recently become more fine-tuned. I turned off my phone and had such fun constructing the new vision board. I was inspired and loved my completed project. This new board is not hidden in my closet, but, in my office below my altar where I can see it every day.

Steps to Create a Vision Board:

1. Gather the materials: Poster board of any size, glue, scissors, markers, pastel crayons, stickers, magazines, photos albums, a happy photo of yourself, and any quotes you like.
2. Glue the photo of yourself in the center.
3. Imagine the board divided into four sections. The top left is for relationships and love. The top right is for self-expression/career. The bottom right is for prosperity/wealth. The bottom left is for health and spirituality. Of course, these are just suggestions. Divide the poster board with works best for you and this point in your life.
4. Next, start looking through magazines, photo albums, and the Internet for quotes and for pictures that inspire you and that you would like to envision in your future. Do not spend a lot of time thinking about it, follow your heart and instincts. Find lots and lots of photos, you may not use them all.
5. Place the photos on the board. Which ones tell the story of your life six months, a year, maybe several years from now? Which quotes do you want to live your life by? When you are ready begin gluing them on.
6. On my board, I could not find some of the photos or quotes I wanted and that is when the markers and pastel crayons came into use. I wrote words and drew pictures.
7. At the top of my board, I wrote, “I AM Presence, Divine Wisdom, Love, and Power.” The I AM presence is God in action. I believe the God is the Universal Force that will manifest my dreams.
8. At the bottom of the board, I wrote the date.

I hope you have fun with this. Put it in an area of your home that you can see it every day for inspiration.

Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui

By: Gloria Marie

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This is a fantastic book for helping you simplify your life by clearing your clutter. “Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui” by Karen Kingston is a practical, easy to put in place formula for freeing yourself from physical, mental, emotional and spiritual clutter forever in a joyful way.

The author gives many examples that by changing and clearing your home you are also changing the possibilities in your life. All of our objects have energy and by clinging to clutter, we may also be clinging to our past. “Do you own your stuff or does it own you?”

One entire chapter explores, “So Why Do People Keep Clutter?” I found myself nodding my head in agreement to many of the reasons: keeping things just in case, security, status, identity, inherited clutteritis or belief that more is better.

The author interjects stories from her clients and many are hilarious, but, hilarious also in the way we can probably relate. For example, your “duck” collection might have begun with a co-worker giving you a gift and before you know it, your entire home is filled with ducks.

The chapter on the Feng Shui Bagua is very easy to understand. In fact, I have read many books on Feng Shui and this is the first time I understood it. There are illustrations to help you map out your Bagua.

The authors’ Clutter Test:
1. Does it lift my energy when I think about it or look at it?
2. Do I absolutely love it?
3. Is it genuinely useful?

It is no surprise that earlier editions of this book sold over one million copies. Personally, I felt my home was pretty clutter free, but, I have a list of projects that I cannot wait to start. Freeing up  space and energy will be fantastic.

I received this book from Blogging for Books in order to write this review.

Take The I Love Me Quiz

By: Gloria Marie

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So many times we are brought up to help others, take care of others and little by little our needs shrink into the background. Who is it you ALWAYS put before yourself? Is it your close friends, your parents, your children, or everyone? It is impossible to live a life filled with happiness, abundance, and love if we do not love ourselves first. Today take the I Love Me Quiz below.

Any external change in our lives must first begin internally. We need to change our innermost self and then our exterior lives will follow. It does not happen the other way around.

Take a look in the mirror and say, “I love you.” Does it feel authentic? Or do you feel like; “Wow, that felt awkward?” This is a good place to begin.

Think about someone you truly love. It could be a romantic partner, your husband/wife, a friend, your child, or a parent. Now think how you treat them. You are most likely very kind, generous, and would go above and beyond to help them. Do you treat yourself with that same love?

We cannot keep giving if we do not love and nourish ourselves. It is like a car filled with a tank of gas. If the car keeps driving and driving without stopping to fill up at a gas station, it will eventually stop.

Take the I Love Me Quiz.

Try to answer the following questions and see if you learn anything about yourself.
Score
Yes=2 points
Sometimes = 1 point
No = no points

1. I am up to date with my health checks (dentist, optician, etc.).
2. I eat healthy most of the time & do not abuse my body.
3. I have plenty of sleep, so I always feel rested.
4. I have regular periods of me time (relax, meditate, journal, etc.).
5. I take regular breaks from work and use my time wisely.
6. I say “No” to myself and others when I need to.
7. My home is tidy, organized and somewhere I enjoy being.
8. I choose to spend time with people that energize & inspire me.
9. I have no regrets and have forgiven myself for past mistakes.
10. I have reserves of things that are important to me in my life.

Did you learn anything about yourself? What action can you take this week to get more “2’s”?