Monthly Archives: March 2016

Birth the Life You Deserve

By: Gloria Marie

Easter is a time of re-birth and renewal. It is a great time to reflect on your life. Maybe it is time to begin again and birth the life you deserve. How does that sound?

What part of your life would you like to change? Examine your life and see if there is something that needs to be cleansed or removed before you can move forward. Is there a habit you would like to get rid of? Is there someone you need to forgive? Or is that “fear” chatter consistently in your head.

During Lent, I was determined to face some of my fears. It was time to get rid of that chatter in my head. We all have something we fear and sometimes we deal with one and then another comes up. I was determined to trust God more than my fears. On a daily basis, I would spend a few minutes embracing my fears and then took steps to face them. Once I did this with prayers, affirmations, and journaling, some amazing things began to happen in my life.

The next step is to take some action steps toward the life you want and deserve. Some ideas would be: take a class, start networking, volunteer, research on the Internet, or join a meetup group. This action step is important. It is you telling the Universe that you are ready for a change. Stay focused and do not give up. If you have to take baby steps, that is alright.

Keep the faith and wonderful things will manifest. Doors will open up. But, remember change may not be in your timeframe. It is in God’s timeframe. Find a way to keep the faith. If one method does not work, try another.

Happy Easter and Happy Spring!

“The real key to life: if you change your mind your conditions must change too.”-Emmet Fox

Spring Equinox is a Time to Let Go

By: Gloria Marie

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spring equinox, divorce, divorce advice, single happy strongToday is the spring equinox and the first day of spring. Spring is a time of rebirth and spring equinox is a time to let go of the past. Letting go the past can take many forms. It is not always easy to let go. We are more comfortable with what we know even if it no longer serves us. By letting go of the past we are allowing the Universe to bring new things into our lives.

Keep the lessons you have learned from the past, but, move forward. Your burden will lighten and you will have more energy. There are many ways to let the past go: some of the ways maybe small and others may be larger and require more courage. Look at the steps below and see if you can relate to any of them.

1. Is there anyone you need to forgive? Holding anger or resentment keeps you in a dark place in the past. Spend some time this week practicing forgiveness.
2. How about cleaning your closets or cabinets? Is there something you have not used the past year or something you have not worn, get rid of it. Consider giving what you no longer want to someone who will love and adore it. You are freeing up the energy to allow the Universe to fill that space.
3. Are you surrounded by friends that support you and make you feel fantastic? If not, perhaps there are some friends that you need to let go of.
4. This fourth step is the one that resonates the most with me. Letting go of your past “mental” patterns. My fear the last several years has been the lack of money. This is a tough one for me to change. But, I am now working on letting go of the past, just because things were tough in the past does not mean it will be that way in the future. Today is a new day and the spring equinox is a fantastic time to stay positive and know tomorrow can bring abundance and miracles.

Spring: A Time for Renewal

By: Gloria Marie

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We have also entered into a new season: spring. Spring is a time of re-birth and a time of renewal. What seeds would you like to plant? What would you like to see grow in your Life? When my boys were growing up we often went out west during their spring break. My younger son would comment that “People think spring is about bunnies and flowers and it really is about mud and dirty snow.” There is some truth in that, but, I would like you to think of spring as a time to plant new seeds: a time of renewal.

How about doing some spring cleaning in your own life?

Clean your space. – Pick one area in your home to clean out. Your closet might be just the perfect place to start. Clear out those winter clothes that you never wore this past season. Evaluate your spring clothes. Are there any that you no longer care for or that no longer fit? Clear them out.

Open your windows – Let some fresh air in your house. Fresh air is fresh energy. Breathe in the spring air.

Sage – Consider saging your house or lighting candles to welcome this new season.

Your mind – spring is a time to plant new seeds. Spend some time in silence with your journal. What new intention would you like to begin? What would you like to bring into your life? What would you like to grow in your life? Now, create action steps to bring these intentions into your life. These could be long range goals or short range goals. By creating action steps, you are telling the Universe that you are reaching out with your intentions.

Start today and who knows what beautiful flowers will come into your life.

Spring is Here

By: Gloria Marie

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Spring is Here!

Spring is here! Daylight savings time begins today and our daylight hours will increase. Spring is a time of re-birth and new beginnings. Living in Florida, the season changes are not as dramatic as other parts of the country, but, I still like to do a ritual to welcome in the season.

Of course, we always hear about spring cleaning at this time of year. The morning talk shows have multiple segments on “How Best to Do Your Spring Cleaning” and I picked up some great tips. Picking up the tips and actually performing the work are two different things!

I find a great way to start spring cleaning is by focusing on one area or one room. Walk around your home concentrating on your feelings. Does any area feel like it could use a pickup? Are there any areas where you have allowed clutter to build up? This is where you could start.

My area will be my closet. It is filled with clothes that I do not wear. I read somewhere that we usually only wear 20% of the clothes in our closet. That mean 80% is there to just gather dust. While I am cleaning my closet, I also want to think about my relationship with the clothes.

If you think about it, our clothes tell a story about our lives. I have the dress that I wore to my Mother’s funeral. It used to be one of my favorites and now it just stays on the hanger. Then there is the dress that a former boyfriend bought me. It has been hanging there for several years.

Now there is the dress I wore to my son’s wedding. Just looking at it brings me joy and happiness. And of course, there is the outfit that I paid a lot of money for that never fit quite right and really never looked good on me. There is also a jacket that my Mother bought me that was really not my style, but, I keep it for sentimental value.

This spring, I am going to try and keep only the clothes that I love, that look great on me and that bring me joy. This may not be easy, but, I am willing to give it a try because I know it will change the energy in my room for the better.

My Morning Ritual

By: Gloria Marie

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I have my morning ritual, it is a time that I cherish. I believe this time helps me stay centered and calm throughout the day. Most mornings, I get up early, while it is still dark and the world is quiet. I make myself a cup of coffee and retreat to my “meditation chair”. It is an oversized, comfortable chair with a large basket of inspirational books next to it. This hour that I spend every morning, is a gift to myself. Most days there are no startling insights: just time to pray, go deep into my soul, and be in God’s presence. This week try to give yourself a gift of silence each morning.
My morning ritual consists of meditation, journaling, inspirational reading and sitting in silence. I begin reading while enjoying my coffee. By my chair, I have several books to choose from. Next I meditate for about 20 minutes. This is followed by journaling and praying. Some days, I do not have the luxury of an hour and that is alright. This morning ritual has helped me transform my life from fear to peace and love.
Create Your Own Morning Ritual
1. Pick out a spot in your home that you can remain undisturbed. It is preferable to have a chair to sit on. If you do not have an hour to spend, try half an hour.
2. Inspirational Reading – Pick out several books to keep by your side. I like to have a variety depending on what my mood is. Currently I am reading, “New Seeds of Contemplation” by Thomas Merton. I also have a book of daily inspirational messages that I read right before my meditation. My old standby is “Around the Year with Emmet Fox”. I also enjoy, “The Book of Awakening” by Mark Nepo. I usually read for about 20 minutes while sipping my coffee.
3. Meditation – If you do not have a meditation practice, a breathing meditation may be the way to start. Sit silently and concentrate on your breath going in and out of your body. When thoughts come, just let them go. Do not engage the thoughts. Just breathe. I set a timer for 20 minutes.
4. Journaling – Buy a special journal that you will use just for this purpose. After meditation, I open my journal and begin to write. I let the pen just flow. Some mornings, I may write a letter to God.
5. Silence and Reflection – Before leave my chair, I spend a few minutes in quiet reflection and praying.
These are just my suggestions, be flexible and create your own morning ritual.
What are your favorite books for inspiration?

The Law of Cause and Effect or The Boomerang Effect

By: Gloria Marie

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We all know the expression, “You reap what you sow.” Probably most of the time we feel that we follow this. But, if we analyze our thoughts and actions, we may find that we do this when it is easy. It is the tough times: a horrible divorce, a friend that betrayed you or being fired. These are the times when it is harder to control our thoughts, but, the law of cause and effect or the boomerang effect is still in place.

In every reaction and with every thought, we have a choice. You may have been very hurt by a former husband or former wife and that hurt is real, but, wishing them ill will or saying horrible things about them will only hurt you more. Your thoughts come back to you like a boomerang. Bam!!!

With practice and control, you can send loving, peaceful thoughts. This does not mean you have to like or that you want to be around the person that offended you. It just means you wish them well. Sending loving, peaceful thoughts and wishing them well will come back to you in the same loving way.

Before you react, pause, take a few seconds to think about what you are going to say. Is it aligned with God’s plan for love and peace for all? Or is it hurtful and hateful? If you are not sure, listen to your body. Normally we can feel what is right. One area could be in your solar plexus, two inches above your navel. This area is connected to our subconscious mind. And our subconscious mind is most aligned with God. Or you can listen to your heart. This sounds like a trite saying, but, it works and will serve you well. If your choice feels uncomfortable, change it!

If you are struggling to do this when you are hurting and going through a really tough time, ask yourself, “What is the blessing in this situation?” The answer may not come right away, but, keep listening to your heart.

With a conscious choice to follow the law of cause and effect, success and happiness will be in your life.

Are You on a Threshold to a New Beginning?

By: Gloria Marie

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Are you feeling a little discontent with some part of your life? Our lives are static. They are constantly changing and evolving. What might have worked for you last year is no longer working. You maybe longing for more. Are you on a threshold to a new beginning?

We can break down our lives into four basic areas: love, health, perfect self-expression/career and prosperity.

Love – family, friends, relationship. This also includes self-love.
Health – better health, better eating habits, diet, exercise.
Prosperity – abundance, material wealth.
Perfect self-expression/career – find your calling, not just a job.

Activity to help define where you would like change.

1. If you look at this list above, think or write one descriptive word or emotion that describes how you feel about that area.
2. Next, write a sentence about what you feel.
3. Now, rank your satisfaction in each of the areas. On a scale of 1 – 10. 10 being very satisfied and content.

Does anything stand out to you? Did this exercise help clarify what are of your life you would like to change?

Start today to take action steps to change the area that was revealed by the above exercise. You can start with small steps. When I have done changes in my own life, I feel I wanted to go to New York, but, went through Dallas and Chicago to get there from Florida.

Take your time, but, BEGIN!

Excerpt from “The Little Paris Bookshop” by Nina George

“Do you know that there’s a halfway world between each ending and each new beginning? It’s called the hurting time. It’s a bog: it’s where your dreams and worries and forgotten plans gather. Your steps are heavier during that time. Don’t underestimate the transition between farewell and new departure. Give yourself the time you need. Some thresholds are too wide to be taken in one stride.”