Monthly Archives: December 2015

No Pity Party Learn to Love Yourself

By: Gloria Marie

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So, it is New Year’s Eve and you are alone. Does is seem like everyone around you is celebrating and having fun and you will be alone watching the ball drop on your television?  This New Year’s Eve no pity party, learn to love yourself.

You are an incredible, amazing human being. It is time to stop the negative self-talk and negative thinking. It is time to treat yourself with the same love and respect that you give others.

We become what we think about. Positive, loving thoughts will bring positive loving things into your life. When we go through a divorce or through other life changes, it is easy to go to a very “dark” place. It happens little by little and then one day, it seems that there is no joy or happiness in your life. If you are willing to change your thoughts, you can change your life.

Do something special for your self-today. Maybe it is taking the time for a long bath, reading a favorite book, calling a dear friend, or maybe it is just relaxing on the couch and being ok that you are just relaxing on the couch alone.

This New Year’s Eve, try the following:
1. This exercise is from Louise Hay. After my divorce, I did this on a daily basis. Look in the mirror at your eyes and repeat the following, saying your name, “I love and accept you exactly as you are”. You may find it difficult at first and your voice may sound insincere. Keep doing this every day, until you believe it.
2. Repeat other affirmations throughout the day.
3. Picture your heart surrounded by pink light and extend that light out into the world.
4. Do something special for someone. This will take the emphasis off your “me centered ego.”
5. If you are up at midnight, take a toast to YOU! Believe in miracles, there could be one right around the corner.

5 Steps to Release 2015 and Manifest in 2016

By: Gloria Marie

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This week, we ring in 2016. Do you feel like the past year went quickly? What I love about a new year is that it is almost like a blank canvas. I have this great exercise to help you do that. You can make it the best ever! Follow your dreams in 2016, do not give up. Start the year with clear intentions. Spend a few minutes on the 5 steps to release 2015 and manifest in 2016.

Make 2016 your best year yet. You can do it! Begin today to plan, keep your thoughts positive, and believe in yourself. This past year brought many changes into my life, some were planned and some were not. One of the difficult changes was my position with a non-profit organization ended with no warning. I was told that my position was no longer funded. I was not sure that was true, but, it was time for me to move on and I did!

Try these 5 steps to ring in the New Year!

1. On New Year’s Eve, get out your journal and spend some time reviewing your life in 2015. Sit in a quiet spot and reflect on the past year without judgment. Try answering some of these questions;
a. What was the most significant thing that happened in your life in 2015?
b. List one joy and one sorrow that you experienced this year.
c. What is the greatest thing you learned this year?
d. What are you thankful for this year?
2. Next, list what you want to leave behind in 2015. What is getting in the way of living the life you want? If you could change one thing about your life, what would it be?
3. For one of the sorrows or difficult situations you faced, find the blessing in that situation. It is there, dig deep and find it.
4. Light a candle and say a prayer of gratitude for 2015. Have the feeling of gratitude permeate your whole being. Now, leave 2015 behind, especially leave behind any anger or resentment.
4. On New Year’s Day make a list of what you would like to manifest in 2016. Be very clear with your intentions. Write them in a positive form and believe the Universe will help you.
At the top of your list write, “This or something better will manifest in 2016!” Say that out loud and believe it in your soul.

Happy New Year! What would you like to manifest in 2016?

Mary That Wondrous Star

By: Gloria Marie

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This week is the celebration of Christmas. This year I am posting a prayer about Mary, “That Wondrous Star” by Saint Bernard of Clairvaux. When I was growing up, my Italian grandmother would always tell me that if I was ever in need or trouble, to pray to Mary. It seems only fitting to honor Mary this week. That was really good advice my grandmother gave me and it has served me well many times in my life.

That Wondrous Star

She truly like a star,

That noble star of Jacob
whose rays illumine the universe,
shine in the highest heaven,
penetrate the darkest depths,
and spread throughout the earth,
warming goodness like springtime,
burning out evil.

She is that bright and wondrous star
forever raised above the great wide sea
of this world, sparkling with merit,
a shining guide.

Voyager, whoever you may be,
when you find yourself in stormy seas
in danger of foundering in the tempests
and far from land, lest you sink and drown,
fix your eyes on this bright star; call out to Mary.

When temptations blow
or the shoals of tribulation threaten,
fix your eyes on this star; call out to Mary.

When the waves of pride or ambition batter your soul,
of slander or jealousy, anger or lust,
fix your eyes on this star; call out to Mary.

In doubt, in danger, in precarious straits,
fix your mind on Mary; call out to Mary,
Never let her leave you, keep her with you always,
even in thy mouth and in thy heart.
Never abandon her presence, never leave her company,
to win approval in her prayers.

Follow her and you will never lose your way.
Appeal to her and you will never lose hope.
Think of her always and you will never stray.
With her holding you, you cannot fall.
With her protection, you cannot fear.
When she leads, you cannot tire.
With her grace you will safely
through to journey’s end.
Then you will know for yourself
why she bears the name “Star of the Sea.”

4 Ways to Initiate Change into Your Life

By: Gloria Marie

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The holidays can be a very emotional time of year. As the year is nearing an end, you may be reflecting on this past year and possibly be disappointed in how the year went. You may be stressed from too many holiday parties and family visits or you may be stressed because you are alone or facing a life-threatening condition. You can initiate change into your life and you can control how you react to your life, one step at a time. Try these 4 ways to initiate change into your life.

My son recently had lunch with an actor who is currently the lead in a Broadway musical. He asked him, “How do you do the same part over and over and keep it fresh?” The actor said that every week, he picked one aspect of his performance to work on. One week it may his singing or his dancing, or doing his lines with a different motivation. That was how he kept his performance relevant every time he played that role.

This is not unlike our lives. Many times, we try to tackle all our issues, our problems or the changes we want at once. It is much better to pick one area for change, especially if we are feeling stressed or overwhelmed.

1. Pick one area of your life that you would like to change. Usually, it is one of four areas: prosperity, career/work, health, or relationships. This is especially important during this very stressful time of year. By taking control of one area, you will feel more in control of your entire life.
2. Spend some time writing down what you would like to change in that area. Try to be as specific as possible. For example, if you would like more prosperity, what specifically can you do to attract more into your life? Could it be to get a better paying job, get a second job, or stick to a budget better? If you are not sure, spend some time in silence getting in touch with your Inner Self. Practice this until you find an answer. And remember, we are taking one step at a time in one area.
3. When you have decided what you want, write it down where you can see it every day. Visualize it, think about it and pray about it. Know that the Universe is there to bring you your dreams and desires. Have faith.
4. Practice gratitude for what you already have. Thank God every day for the many gifts you already have in your life.

Getting Back Into the Workforce

By: Gloria Marie

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Getting back into the workforce after divorce can be frightening. Suddenly you are single and may need to support yourself. Most of my marriage I was a stay at home mom. I did lots of volunteer work and my ex-husband and I started 2 companies, but, when I went to write a resume, there was no one I could list for a recommendation. Or you may have worked but, need a better paying job. Have faith and believe in yourself. You can small steps to find that ideal job.

Marianne Williamson, in her book, “A Return to Love” writes:
“God, please use me” is the most powerful affirmation we can say for an abundant career. It is the miracle worker’s prayer. Everybody wants a great job. Accept that it’s already been given to you. The fact that you’re alive means a function has been assigned to you: open your heart to everyone and everything. That way you’re a vessel of God.

Of course, the ideal career may not happen overnight. You may have several jobs until you arrive at the career you love. The important thing is to believe in yourself and begin to take steps toward your path. Start creating a vision of your ideal career. Begin to do research on it. Are there some on-line classes or night classes you can take to improve your skills?

Five Questions to help you create a vision:

1. What would you like to be doing five years from now?
2. What part of that could you begin doing now?
3. How do you need to plan and prepare so you can be in that role in five years?
4. What would you say are your best strengths?
5. What type of work would you do even if you were not paid?

These questions may take you time to answer. The important point is to have faith in yourself and keep that vision alive.

Life is Not an Elevator Ride

By: Gloria Marie

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Recently, I spoke with a friend that I had not spoken to in a while. We both shared a little bit about the past few months. The past few months had brought a few ups and downs to my life. She said, “Life is not an elevator ride.” I really loved that phrase.

Whether our life is going perfectly well or whether we are at a crossroads, it is not a straight journey up. There are bends and curves in the road. Or in the elevator phrase, there may be stops at many floors before we reach a destination.

How has your year gone? This is a great month to reflect, plan, and prepare for next year. Even if this year brought you some unexpected turns and stops, it is important to keep your vision for want you want. This vision could be in any area of your life that you want improvement or change: abundance, health, relationships, or career/work.

Emmet Fox talks about the “Two Spirations.” First, you need inspiration and second, you need perspiration. Inspiration is your vision, your steadfast belief and faith. It is listening to you Inner Being and having faith even when you are thrown a curve. When you are thrown a curve, try to find the blessing in that situation. Maybe it was there to prepare you for the next stops.

Perspiration is your action plan. Sitting on your couch will probably not bring results. But, by taking small steps every day toward your goals, you will progress.

Having faith through the trying times is not always easy. We are conditioned by habit to become depressed and ready to give up. That is when your faith and inspiration can kick in. Do not give up, the top of that elevator may be closer than you think.

Remain flexible, take action steps and have faith!

“Super Genes” is a Must Read

By: Gloria Marie

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“Super Genes” by Deepak Chopra, M.D. and Rudolph Tanzi, Ph.D. is a must read for anyone that is interested in a healthier lifestyle and longer life. It describes ground breaking and historical research that proves we can alter our genome on a daily basis. With evidence-based medicine, they describe ways that we can impact our genes to prevent disease and improve immunity.

There are six categories of change that have a meaningful effect on our genes: diet, stress, exercise, meditation, sleep, and emotions. A chapter is devoted to each of these areas and gives dozens of choices to incorporate the changes into your life. The choices for each are divided into three parts: easy choices, harder choices, and experimental choices. Deepak suggests just picking two or three changes for each of the six categories and you will begin to see results.

Deepak writes that the biggest enemy in people’s diet is inflammation. With some suggested diet changes and incorporating foods that fight inflammation you will improve your immune system and notice benefits right away.

“Super Genes” gives basic steps for weight loss. They do not recommend a calorie-restricted diet. Instead, they believe on focusing on the easy steps to reduce inflammation first, exercise, and getting a good night’s sleep. Some foods that fight inflammation include fatty fish, berries, tree nuts, dark leafy greens, tomatoes and olive oil.

The book is easy to understand even you do not have a degree in science. This book will serve as a reference book to me. I intend to adopt the principles in the six categories immediately.

I received a copy of this book from Blogging for Books in order to write this review.

5 Ways to Deal with Holiday Stress

By: Gloria Marie

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This is an easy time of year to overburden ourselves.  I was thinking about all the additional things I was putting in my schedule: holiday parties, baking, decorating, gift purchases and holiday dinners.  This list, of course, is in addition to my everyday obligations with work and my home life. I decided in order to really enjoy the holidays and spend time with my family, I would only schedule things that really mattered to me and I would not worry if the holidays weren’t perfect.  When my holiday decorations came down from the attic, I looked at all the boxes and decided that is was not important to put out every decoration and that it was ok that my outside bushes did not have lights. I decided to take some time for myself with the 5 ways to deal with holiday stress listed below.

 

5 Ways to Deal with Holiday Stress 

  1. Does this sound too simple? It is simple, but, it works.  Stand up with your feet flat on the floor.  Place you hand on your stomach, take 5 deep breaths, and feel your stomach go in and out while you breathe.
  2. Develop a spiritual practice. Throughout the holiday season, try to spend at least 5 minutes every day in a spiritual practice. Try meditation, prayer, inspirational reading, or some time in silence. The important point it to practice it consistently.
  3. A good laugh does our soul good.  Watch a funny movie, read cartoons or read a humorous book.
  4. There are many studies that show that exercise reduces stress and helps you sleep better.  At the very least, go for a walk.
  5. Gratitude is very powerful. Make a list of 10 things you are grateful for. Try to stop and do this whenever you feel stressful.

 

Which of these did you try?

Expect the Best

By: Gloria Marie

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Our thoughts manifest into our lives. If you expect the best, you will receive the best. If you expect less than you want, you will receive less than you want. This is the Law of Expectancy. Today, start to expect the best.

We often expect far less than we want. This is a habit. This may be caused by guilt or fear. It can be difficult to change old habits, but, it can be done. That voice inside your head can be trained and focused to get what you really want.

Expecting the best can be most difficult when you are going through a challenging time: a life-threatening illness, job loss, divorce, or financial loss. At times like those you might just want to get through another day or you may be waiting for the next crisis to hit. It is times like these when you need to expect the best and know that you can work consciously and sub-consciously for the highest and best outcome.

You do not have to settle for second best. By aligning your thoughts with the Infinite Intelligence of the Universe, forces much greater than you will be at work. It is your spiritual birthright to have health, prosperity and good relationships.

This is a simple principle, but, it is difficult to train our thoughts to expect and receive the best. I have had some very challenging relationships besides my divorce. Whenever I enter into a new relationship, I need to be vigilante that what happened in the past is in the past. Instead, I focus on the wonderful, new, loving relationship that I want and expect. So many times in the past I settled for less than I wanted or deserved. It was probably fear that had me settle for whatever came along instead of focusing on my heart’s desires.

Try this exercise the next time you want to manifest the BEST in your life.

Mental Movie Method

Sit quietly and have your body and mind relaxed. Close your eyes and imagine that you are looking at a movie screen. You are going to star in the movie. The action is whatever you would like to manifest in your life. Is it a new job? Picture yourself in the new job. How do you feel? What are you doing? See yourself getting a paycheck. Claim that Infinite Intelligence is creating that job in your life. You must feel 100% that this will come to pass. A clear mental picture with faith will allow you to expect the best and receive the best.

The Fifth Chakra

By: Gloria Marie

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Chakra’s are outlets in the human body that are centers of “life forces” and vital energy. We have seven main chakras that are aligned along the spinal column. Each chakra is associated with our physical health and also our emotional and mental health. The throat chakra is located at the base of the neck and it is the fifth chakra. It commonly gets out of balance. I will give you five techniques for clearing the throat chakra.
My throat chakra frequently gets out of balance. My first indication of this is repeatedly clearing my throat. I usually think, ok, what am I not expressing or what am I afraid to say. While dating, if there was someone I did not care to see again, I would notice my throat would feel constricted because I was hesitate about stating my true feelings. You may also notice this in a work situation. Try to become aware if you clear your throat before you have something uncomfortable to say to your boss or a co-worker.
Besides clearing your throat, some other indications of a blocked throat charka are: a sore throat, getting choked up, hearing problems, and a neck ache. When your throat chakra is open and balanced you speak your thoughts clearly. It represents communication and personal expression.
5 Ways to Clear the Throat Chakra
1. Singing or humming. You might be saying: I cannot sing. That should tell you something. To clear my throat chakra, I stand up straight and sing loudly and strongly. I pretend I am singing to the house across the street. Of course, my windows are shut when I do this! It does not matter what you sing, even a series of sounds will suffice.
2. Rub the essential oils chamomile or myrrh on your neck. Remember to dilute the essential oils before you apply them to your skin.
3. The throat chakra is associated with the color blue. Wear something blue, maybe, a blue scarf around your neck.
4. Carry or wear blue crystals: turquoise, lapis, aquamarine, and sapphire.
5. Say affirmations. This one is from “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay. “It is okay to make noise. I express myself freely and joyously. I speak up for myself with ease.”

Which of these techniques worked for you? Can you suggest some others?