Monthly Archives: October 2015

3 Ways to Improve Your Self-Esteem

By: Gloria Marie

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Women need a more holistic approach to wellness and self-esteem. We often need to learn how to forgive ourselves for our short comings or faults. We need to learn to love our bodies, have faith in our abilities and feel secure. Today I will give you 3 ways to improve your self-esteem.

1. Word Wall 

Listed below are adjectives that you can use to describe yourself. Today, I want you to pick 3 adjectives that you feel describe yourself today and pick another 3 adjectives that you would like to become. The list below are just suggestions, feel free to add others.

For example: I feel I am kind, reliable and spiritual. I would like to become more fun, romantic, and creative. We are our thoughts, so, by consciously deciding what you would like, subtle shifts will begin.

Get a blank sheet of paper. At the top of the page, write your name, Word Wall and the date. On this paper, write all 6 adjectives that you have chosen. Have fun with it: color it, put borders, and make some drawings. Then put it where you can see it every day for the next week. Maybe put it by your computer, where you prepare dinner, or on your bathroom mirror. Every time you see it, read the words and feel them in your heart. You are taking charge of your life.

Kind Bright Passionate Fun
Generous Happy Beautiful Trustworthy
Patient Faithful Cheerful Reliable
Humorous Truthful Positive Creative
Peaceful Forgiving Prosperous Romantic
Grateful Compassionate Athletics Content
Spiritual Religious Loving Healthy
Joyful Dependable Generous Artistic
Blessed Confident Carefree Focused

2. Now take this a step further. – Show your friends or co-workers this list. Ask them to pick out 3 adjectives that describe you. Were you surprised by their choices? Did they pick out qualities that you thought you did not have?

3. Take an action toward the 3 adjectives that you would like to become. If you want to become more athletic: join a gym. If you want to be more prosperous: think of ways to cut your budget and also ways to generate more income. If you want to be more creative: publish an article, learn to paint. You get the idea?

What action step did you take?

Happiness is an Inside Job

By: Gloria Marie

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You could have the greatest job in the world, the most beautiful home, enough money to meet all your needs and desires, but, still be unhappy. Happiness is an inside job. The material world may provide you with joy, but, it is fleeting.

So how can you have that interior happiness? That happiness that cannot be taken away from you? It first begins by becoming aware of our thoughts. There is a learning curve with this. Are most of your thoughts positive, compassionate and loving? Or are they negative and fatalistic?

We can train our thoughts and thereby train our minds. If we practice new ways of thinking we can reshape our cells and the way the brain works. There have been many, many scientific studies that prove this.

Change takes time and patience. There are different methods to help you do this. But, what is needed is a commitment for you to change. Sometimes we are more comfortable with “our illness”, “our financial mess”, or “our unhappy job.”

Try this experiment. For one day, every time a negative thought comes into your mind, write it down. You may be very surprised at the number of negative thoughts you have. Again, first becomes awareness and then change.

Next to each of the negative thoughts, write down how you could change it to make it more positive. Start reshaping those cells in your brain. Our sub-conscious mind does whatever we tell it to do. It has no ego and follows our directions.

Another method for happiness is being compassionate and forgiving towards others. This is really difficult if someone you love, hurt and betrayed you. Again, I did not say it would be easy or quick to find inner peace and happiness.

Another method is prayer and a spiritual practice. Carve out some time every day, even 15 minutes can make a difference.

You deserve to be happy. Cultivate inner happiness. It cannot be taken away from you. It is time well spent.

Change Around the Energy in Your Home

By: Gloria Marie

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Your home, your space, is probably filled with objects you no longer need or use. Objects carry energy. De-cluttering your home will help remove “stagnant energy” to make room for new people and events in your life. Out with the old prepares your home for new energy to enter.

 
Take a few deep breaths and slowly, quietly, walk around your home. Be sensitive to what you are feeling. Are there any parts of your home that have you feel angry, depressed, and unhappy? Are there any specific objects that have you feel anxious? If you answered yes to these questions, this is where you begin to de-clutter, rearrange and cleanse your space.
If this is overwhelming for you, start with just one drawer, one shelf. Start in a small way with things that are not as difficult to part with. Once you get started, it will get easier. The important point is to start.

 
I recently moved to a house less than half the size of my former home. At first, it was so hard to part with my belongings, but, once I got going, it felt so good. My house felt brighter and I was happier. After that process, I only purchase objects that I really love.
If you are looking for love, it is very important to cleanse your bedroom area. Do you still have clothes or articles that belong to your former husband? Get them out of there. Call him up and have him pick them up. It is time you made the bedroom, your room. Get some new sheets and new pillows. Rearrange the decorations. Maybe buy some new art objects. Clear out a drawer and some closet space for your new lover. This is an important step, you are telling the Universe, that you are ready to have someone new come into your life.
Free up space-change the energy!

How to Make Every Day a Happy Day

By: Gloria Marie

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How to Make Every Day a Happy Day

How many of you woke up today feeling really excited and joyful to start your day? How many of you wake up this way every day? You are probably thinking, she is crazy, that is not possible. It is possible! I will teach you how to make every day a happy day.

It all starts with our mind. Your mind is a powerhouse that you can tap into and use its incredible strength. Picture yourself as the captain of a ship. You control where the ship goes. Likewise, you can control your thoughts and you will see changes in your life.

Our happiness is an inside job. It is not dependent on material things, other people or even our jobs. We need food and shelter and therefore need our jobs, but, you could have the best, most exciting job in the world and still be unhappy.

Try these 5 steps to make every day a happy day.

1. Begin you day with prayer and gratitude. Before your feet hit the floor, be grateful that you woke up for another sunrise. Say a prayer for yourself or others. Ask God for guidance.
2. Give something away. Give away love, your time, money, advice or even a smile to a stranger.
3. Do something you are passionate about. If you are not passionate about your work, find something that brings passion in your life. A hobby could turn into a career.
4. Face your fears. We are all fearful about something, instead of ignoring your fears, embrace them and take steps to remove them.
5. Use affirmations. Affirmations are powerful, positive statement written in the present tense. If you start you day saying, “I dread today, it is going to be a terrible day.” I can tell you with 100% accuracy that you WILL have a terrible day. Instead, try these affirmations. “Miracle will follow miracle and wonders will never cease today.” “Divine Love surrounds me and guides me today.” “This is a new and wonderful day for me.”

For the next week, try these five steps. You are the captain of the ship and you CAN live in joy!

Food52 VEGAN Cookbook Review

By: Gloria Marie

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“Food52 VEGAN” cookbook by Gena Hamshaw is amazing. There are 60 recipes in this beautiful volume. Every recipe has a gorgeous picture accompanying it. The recipes are simple to follow and use common ingredients. There is no need to hunt down unusual ingredients that many times you will find in vegan recipes. “VEGAN’s” recipes use a variety of flavors and ingredients. You will find recipes for tofu, grains, tempeh, and pasta. The recipes that I prepared were all flavorful.

There are recipes for breakfast, appetizers and snacks, soups, salads, main dishes, and desserts. In addition, there is Vegan 101, a sort of intro course. Throughout, the book Gena provides tidbits and tips. Some examples of these are tempeh vs tofu, the best way to cook lentils, and building a better veggie burger. These tidbits are very informative for a vegan based diet.

The ratatouille was outstanding. I have made ratatouille many times, but, Gena’s recipe called for roasting the vegetable instead of simmering them on the stovetop. This saved a lot of time. The seasonings and the addition of chickpeas made this a memorable dish. I next plan on making Squash with Tofu Curry and Lentil Sloppy Joes. Both simple to prepare.

Gena has a popular New Veganism column on Food52. Try this cookbook if you are considering incorporating plant-based recipes to your diet. You will be not be disappointed.

I received this book from Blogging for Books in order to write this review.

Mercury Retrograde Has Ended

By: Gloria Marie

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Mercury retrograde ended on October 9. But, astrologers feel there is shadow effect that can last for up to two weeks once it goes direct. So, you may still feel some effects of it even thought Mercury retrograde has ended.

Mercury rules communications, so, Mercury retrograde is not an ideal time to sign contracts or buy computers. It also can effect communication like publishing and the Internet. Of course, we could not stop our lives the past several weeks, it was a time to double check everything.

My computer crashed during a Mercury retrograde, it was not an ideal time to buy a new computer, but, I needed it for work. My new computer got a virus immediately that took tech support three days to remove.

Mercury retrograde is a time of redo, reassess or revisit. You may hear from friends or partners from your past. That is what happened to me!

A former business partner contacted me. I had not heard from him in over 6 months. Hearing from him made me evaluate our relationship and look at it in a new light. Without blame or fault, I knew I could not go into a relationship with this person again. It was not good for me to be around this person again. I needed to release the relationship once and for all.

How did I do that? I spent time in prayer and meditation. Then, I journaled my feelings and thoughts. This was over several days and I felt at peace. I was forced to “reevaluate” the situation and clean it up for good.

I had another situation with my former husband that needed “redoing”, well this Mercury retrograde brought the opportunity for me to face it head on, not an easy thing to do. But, again, I took charge of the situation, handled it and now my relationship with him is in a different light.

This was a very unusual retrograde period for me, but, I feel very blessed and empowered to move on!

Are YOU on a Threshold to a New Beginning?

By: Gloria Marie

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Are you feeling a little discontent with some part of your life? Our lives are not static. They are constantly changing and evolving. What might have worked for you last year is no longer working. You ma ybe longing for more. Are you on a threshold to a new beginning?

We can break down our lives into four basic areas: love, health, perfect self-expression/career and prosperity.

Love – family, friends, relationship. This also includes self-love.
Health – better health, better eating habits, diet, exercise.
Prosperity – abundance, material wealth.
Perfect self-expression/career – find your calling, not just a job.

Activity to help define where you would like change.

1. If you look at this list above, think or write one descriptive word or emotion that describes how you feel about that area.
2. Next, write a sentence about what you feel.
3. Now, rank your satisfaction in each of the areas. On a scale of 1 – 10. 10 being very satisfied and content.

Does anything stand out to you? Did this exercise help clarify what are of your life you would like to change?

Start today to take action steps to change the area that was revealed by the above exercise. You can start with small steps. When I have done changes in my own life, I feel I wanted to go to New York, but, went through Dallas and Chicago to get there from Florida.

Take your time, but, BEGIN!

Excerpt from “The Little Paris Bookshop” by Nina George

“Do you know that there’s a halfway world between each ending and each new beginning? It’s called the hurting time. It’s a bog: it’s where your dreams and worries and forgotten plans gather. Your steps are heavier during that time. Don’t underestimate the transition between farewell and new departure. Give yourself the time you need. Some thresholds are too wide to be taken in one stride.”

10 Ways to Save Money

By: Gloria Marie

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After my divorce, I had to come up with ways to spend less and save money. I no longer lived in a two income household. So, I came up with 10 ways to save money. If it seems too overwhelming to enact these all at once, try a few at a time. Some may be harder to put in place: giving up that spa facial may be difficult or giving up the morning coffee stop. This week make it a point to try at least some of these tips.

1. Limit the number of times you eat out. Instead, have friends over for a pot luck meal. You can exchange recipes. This can be fun and it is low cost. Maybe even watch a movie or play a card game.
2. Practice a 30 day wait on unnecessary purchases. A 30-day wait will stop impulse buys and help you purchase only what you need.
3. Try generic brands of your favorite beauty products and foods.
4. Brown bag your lunch. Add up the cost of eating out for lunch every day, it is probably quite costly. Plan your lunches on Sunday.
5. Develop your grocery list and meals around the weekly grocery flyer specials.
6. Go to the library for books, CD’s and movies. It is free or low cost for rentals.
7. Drop the gym membership. Opt for free You Tube exercise videos or free exercise apps.
8. Clean your closets to make extra money. Sell things you no longer need or want on eBay, Craigslist, or have a garage sale.
9. Make your own cup of coffee in the morning instead of stopping at the local coffee shop.
10. Cut spa costs- buy the products and give yourself a facial, manicure and pedicure at home.

Do you have any money saving tips?

Turn I Can’t Into I Can

By: Gloria Marie

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Our words are powerful. The words we put out in the Universe are embedded in our subconscious mind. And you know what? Our subconscious mind does what we tell it. What have you told your mind today?  Let’s turn I can’t into I can!

Try this little experiment today. Look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I can’t___________ (fill in the blank).” Next say, “I can_____________ (fill in the blank).” Did you notice your body language? More than likely your shoulders caved in a little bit when you said, “I can’t.” You voice may have been a little softer. Try it again and fill in the blanks with some other words.

Guess what, when you are shopping and say, “I can’t afford that.” You will be absolutely correct. Your subconscious mind will take your command. This sounds so simple, to just change our words. It is simple, but, takes practice.

Next time you are shopping and see something that you really like, but, feel you cannot afford, instead of saying, “I can’t afford it.”, try saying, “I love that purse and it is mine. And Infinite Intelligence will see that I receive it.”

When you use the words, “I can’t”, it is important to reverse it immediately. With practice, you will be amazed at the differences in your life.

When I started doing this, in a very short time, I saw changes in my life. This technique will help you transition from a feeling of lack and fear to a feeling of faith. It also helps to visualize the result of the, “I can!”

Using the example of the purse, actually visualize yourself carrying the purse. What are you wearing? Where are you going? How do you feel?

Start today and become aware of when you say, “I can’t”. Start with just one area in your life. It might help to actually write down alternative, “I can” sentences. You will see changes in your life.