Monthly Archives: September 2015

Try This Simple Morning Routine

By: Gloria Marie

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With a little organization and a morning routine, you can get your day off to a fantastic start. Since I work at home, it is very easy to get distracted. Without some organization, I could waste away most of the morning. Try this simple morning routine that I practice and see if it makes a difference in your day.

For me, social media can be a huge distraction. I log on to one site and before I know it 20 minutes have past. Or, how about the morning talks shows. I will tell myself that I will only watch for a few minutes and before I know it, my coffee is finished and more time past than I wanted.

To avoid wasting away the morning, I do this simple routine.

1. Plan Your Day the Night Before. I spend a few minutes at night writing down what I would like to accomplish the next day. My list usually includes both work items and personal items. This way, when I go into my office in the morning, I can start focusing immediately.
2. Meditate Even a few minutes of meditation will calm your mind. It is a great way to begin your day. Many studies have been done on the physical and mental benefits of meditation.
3. Eat Breakfast – Breakfast is easy to skip. You may be running late and think a cup of coffee would suffice. Our bodies need fuel. You wouldn’t be able to get to work without gas in your car. Again, try to plan the night before. A protein shake takes only a few seconds to make.
4. Exercise – If I do not have the time to go to the gym, I put on a 15-minute exercise app. Exercise will help your mental attitude and boost your energy.

Try these four simple steps and see what a difference it can make in your day.

2 Breathing Techniques to Release Tension

By: Gloria Marie

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Breathing exercises are effective to release stress. Usually, we take our breathing for granted, but, with practice on these techniques, you will have a great tool to use. Try these 2 breathing techniques to release tension.

First, I want you to lie on the floor and put one hand on your chest and one hand on your abdomen. Take a deep breath in and then breathe out. Did the hand on your abdomen rise and expand the most? If not, you are doing shallow breathing. To use breathing effectively, you need to practice abdominal breathing.

Practice abdominal breathing for a few minutes. Imagine that your abdomen is a balloon and that as you inhale you are filling it up with air. Keep your hands on your chest and abdomen to see where the expansion is. Now that you can do deep breathing, practice the following techniques.
Breathing for Letting Go of Tension
1. Inhale and say to yourself, “Breath in.”
2. Hold your breath a moment before you exhale.
3. Exhale slowly and deeply as you say to yourself, “Relax.”
4. As you hold your breath for a moment, notice any parts of your body that you are holding tension. When you exhale, feel the tension leave your body.
5. Practice this for five to twenty minutes at a time.
6. Practice it in non-stressful situations a few times a day. When you are comfortable with the technique, practice it in stressful situations.

Breathe Training
1. Exhale first. Do this at the first sign of the “What ifs” or panic. This is to open up your lungs so you will have room for a good deep breath.
2. When you are first practicing this, lie on your back with one hand on your abdomen and the other on your chest. Exhale first, and then breathe in through your nose counting, “one….two….three.” Pause a second and then breathe out though your mouth counting, “one…two…three…four.” Make sure your exhalation is longer than your inhalation.
3. If you mind wanders, try to keep it on the breath.

Book Review “Triggers”

By: Gloria Marie

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“Triggers” is a must read for all coaches, yet, it is clear enough for anybody looking to change their lives. It provides practical tools to implement change. Marshall Goldsmith, an executive coach, uses examples from his clients to illustrate the points he is making. This book will help you find what your “triggers” are and by identifying them, transformation can begin. He has a fantastic chart to keep track of your goals on a daily basis. The chart also includes six engaging questions, which he believes we need to ask ourselves every day. One of the engaging questions is, “Did I do my best to be happy today?” “Triggers” is packed with powerful information for anyone ready to change some behaviors.

I received this book from Blogging for Books in order to write this review.

Make Today a Day to Practice Kindness

By: Gloria Marie

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We all have a story. We all are dealing with a lot in our day to day lives. Do you remember the last time someone did something kind for you? Did it make your day? It probably has put a smile on your face just thinking about it. Why not make today a day to practice kindness? Check out my ideas below.

1. Smile at a stranger. – While you are waiting in a grocery store line instead of standing there impatiently, smile at someone. It might be the only smile they get that day. It will change your energy and you may be surprised at the effect all around you.
2. Giveaway thanks. – Make a call to someone to thank them for something they did for you. It does not have to be something recent. Surprise them, that you still remember the kindness they showed you.
3. Give someone your time. – We lead busy lives and our time is precious. But, think of someone who would love to get a phone call from you or someone that you could visit. It might be an elderly neighbor that does not get many visitors.
4. Tell someone you love them. – When was the last time you told your partner, your children, your siblings or your close friends that you love them? Well, make today the day! They will love hearing from you, but, I can guarantee will feel great.
5. Give someone an unexpected gift. – It does not have to be anything expensive, stay within your means. Use your creative mind to think of something. I once read a story about a young girl at a bank counter making her car payment. The elderly women behind her, heard the girl say that she had only one more car payment after this. After the girl left, the elderly women made the last payment unanimously.

Today, I urge you to practice kindness.

Autumn Harvest and Time for Reflection

By: Gloria Marie

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It seems like I just wrote a blog about making the most of your summer and now autumn is here. Autumn is harvest time and a time for reflection. A time of transition. What would you like to harvest in the final few months of this year? It is a good time to step back and look back on the year so far. Are there some goals you would like to accomplish before 2105 is over?

Fall bring many changes. School begins and for many it may be a whole new experience; starting college or starting high school. Fall is a time when animals prepare for winter. They look for shelter or leave for warmer places. A new television season begins.

I find fall a beautiful time of year. The changing leaves are breathtaking with vivid colors. I remember one fall being in Wyoming and listening to the elk bugling during their mating season. The hiking trails were stripped of berries as the bears were preparing for hibernation. Warm days and cool evenings.

What would you like to harvest this fall?

Is there someone you need to forgive?
Do you want to start that exercise routine?
How about taking the time to read the book that has been on your coffee table all summer?
Is there someplace you would like to visit?
Did you become an empty nester and want something to fill that void?
Do you want to manifest more abundance?
Is it time to try online dating?

Embrace this new season. Make some memories. Just as animals gather during the fall to prepare for winter, what do you need to gather for the winter season? With the busy summer season over, fall can be a great time to go inward and reflect.

On the fall equinox, consider spending some time in reflection. In your reflection time, make a list of the blessings and joys you have received so far this year!

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3 Steps to Help Find Your Soul’s Desire

By: Gloria Marie

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Passion blockers can hinder the process of discovery. Passion blockers include; anger, regret, blame, guilt, and low self-esteem. Try these 3 steps to help you find your soul’s desire.

How do you begin to listen to your soul’s desire and find your passion? Begin by trying the steps below. Look at this as an adventure and be patient with yourself.

1. Spend time doing something you find calming. A quiet mind will help the answers come more quickly. Try meditating, going for a walk in nature, going for a bike ride, listening to soothing music, or just simply sitting and breathing.
2. When you feel relaxed, get a journal and begin to answer the questions listed below. Do not spend time analyzing your answers, just begin to write. Answer the questions over a course of a week or two. Spend time daydreaming. Visualize what your life would be like if you followed your passion.
3. When you have found something that you are passionate about, take some concrete steps to make it happen. You may not be able to quit your current job, but, this should not prevent you from doing something you enjoy.

Questions
1. What activity would you engage in even if you never made money doing it?
2. If money were no object what would you spend your life doing? Why?
3. When you dream, what do you dream about?
4. What activities make you feel like your heart is about to burst?
5. Do you greet each day with excitement and gratitude? If not, what is preventing you from this?

5 Ways to Practice Mindfulness

By: Gloria Marie

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Being mindful allows us to be fully present. When we are fully present, we are truly alive. Worrying about the past or being fearful of the future does not exist when we are living in the present. Try one of these 5 ways to practice mindfulness.

The other morning it was so beautiful outside. I went into my back yard and began pulling weeds out of the grass. Before I knew it, an hour had past. You are probably thinking, her grass must be a mess. It is summer in Florida and weeds are plentiful this time of year.

In that hour, I did not think about what else I needed to do, I just pulled weeds and listened to the birds singing. When I came in and washed my hands, I thought to myself, “That was a mindful activity.” I was fully present and grounded in the moment.

Many times when we think of being mindful, we may think we need to meditate or go off in a cave somewhere. I think meditation is great, but, we can do other things and create the same type of being fully present.

‘Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.
-Jon Kabat-Zinn

5 Ways to Practice Mindfulness

1. Walking- Go for a walk without listening to music. If you mind is racing, try to recite a prayer silently. Become fully aware of the smells, sounds, temperature and the sky.
2. In your office – Sit back in your chair. Become aware of how your body feels against the chair. Are there some areas that you feel more tension? Now take some deep breaths. Breathe in through your nose and out of your mouth. When you breathe in, silently say to yourself, “Breathe in.” When you breathe out say, “Relax.” Try this for about 2 minutes.
3. Coloring – Adult coloring books are best sellers these days. Get a coloring book of mandalas and spend ten minutes mindfully coloring.
4. Journaling – Begin with an open-ended question like, “What am I feeling now?” Then without judgment, start writing for three to five minutes.
5. Weeding – This one I highly recommend.

Start to become aware of the different way you can incorporate mindfulness into your day.

3 Words That Will Calm Your Mind

By: Gloria Marie

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Life is challenging and when we are going through transitions and changes it can be more difficult to control our thoughts and our minds. But, that is also the time for the most growth. Positive thoughts produce positive results. The key is to be vigilant about your thoughts because improved results may take time. There are 3 words that will calm your mind that I often use.

This sounds so simple and it is simple. Stop reading right now and become aware of your thoughts. Are you thinking about what you need to pick up at the store later? Or are you thinking about a friend that you need to call? And probably all those thoughts going on while you are reading an article about controlling your thoughts and calming your mind.

The three words that will calm your mind – PEACE BE STILL!

Recently, I had just bought a trunk full of grocery. I started driving out of the parking place. I heard and felt, thud, thud, thud. I pulled back into the parking space and saw I had a flat tire. Not the end of the world but, an inconvenience, especially with all the grocery. So, I took a deep breath and said, “Peace Be Still.” I instantly felt calm and was able to deal with the situation without frustration or anger.

As a being of power, intelligence, and love…you hold the key to every situation, and contain within yourself that transforming and regenerative agency by which you may make yourself what you will.
-James Allen

We do have the power, intelligence, and love to transform our lives; sometimes it is hidden and needs nurturing to expand. The key is to be patient with ourselves and every day make a little progress in controlling your thoughts. Small steps will in time, produce large results.

Keep your hand firmly upon the helm of thought. Self-control is strength:
right thought is master; calmness is power.
Say to your heart, “Peace, be still!”
-James Allen

De-Clutter Your Past to Manifest Your Future

By: Gloria Marie

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Sometimes we have to look at the stories from our past in order to manifest in the present. We may need to examine limiting thoughts before we feel deserving of abundance and happiness. If this sounds true for you, maybe you need to de-clutter your past to manifest your future.

One area that I personally had trouble with was manifesting prosperity. I would do all the affirmations, visualize, but, still felt blocked. So I decided I needed to look at and let go of the limiting beliefs and stories from my childhood.
I grew up in a middle-class family. We always had food on the table, clothes to wear, and great times. However, my parents always worried about money. My Mom, especially, felt there was never enough. Both of them grew up in the Great Depression, so, this viewpoint was quite understandable. We were told that you had to work hard and save.
This was definitely a story from my past that needed cleaning up. It still affected me by a fear of not having enough money. These are thoughts and I can change my thoughts and face this fear.
Do you have any limiting beliefs about money from your youth?

Do any of these resonate with you?
Money does not grow on trees.
You have to work hard for your money.

To release and de-clutter from your past, try journaling with these statements as a guide:
1. When I was young a common saying in my family was
2. That still affects me today by
3. My family often worried about
4. Today this is reflected in my life.

After you journal, spend time getting in touch with those fears and feelings. Work on releasing your fears. Affirmations are a great way to re-do those thoughts and limiting beliefs. You can do this!

4 Steps to Train Your Words for Manifesting

By: Gloria Marie

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Choose your words carefully. You might be thinking, right, of course I choose my words carefully. Today though, try to become more present and aware of the words you choose. Sometimes, we get into habits and our words conflict with what we want to manifest. Try these four steps to train your words for manifesting.

My theory is:

AWARENESS    →    CHANGE

Words are words and we have the power to change them. First, train yourself to become aware of them.

I have a client that wants to manifest more abundance. I will hear her say, “I cannot afford that.” A better sentence might be, “I choose not to purchase that.” or “I am now manifesting cash flow to meet my needs and desires.” If you catch yourself doing this, next time, stop and declare a more positive statement.

Criticizing others is another area to watch. This is especially tempting in a group situation. Remember that what you say about others, comes back to you like a boomerang. An example, “Susie has gained so much weight.” Instead try, “Did you notice what a great new haircut Susie has?” Change the subject so, you do not engage in the criticism.

Try this exercise this week:

1. Get a journal or notebook and mark the following columns:

LIMITING STATEMENT        

 SITUATION                  

 MORE POSITIVE STATEMENT

2. When you catch yourself saying an “I can’t” statement or a criticism statement, just jot it down.

3. At night, review your list. Add what situation you were in when you said that statement. Are there any patterns?

4. Next, write a more positive statement you can say the next time. Though awareness comes change.

Our thoughts manifest in our lives. Choose positive, loving thoughts. Think of it like a garden. Would you rather plant flowers or weeds? These week, pull those weeds and replace them with flowers.