Monthly Archives: May 2015

Best Summer Ever

By: Gloria Marie

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Happy Memorial Day! June, to me, is the beginning of summer. School is out, graduations, and summer vacations begin. How can you make this your best summer ever? If you live in colder climates, the next three months will fly by. With some planning, you can make the most of the next three months. Follow my steps below for your best summer ever.

1. Allow yourself 10 minutes of quiet time. Go to that special place in your home where you feel most at peace. Spend a few minutes just taking a few deep breaths.
2. Think back to your childhood and what summers were like. Where were you? What did you spend the summers doing? While growing up, I have very fond memories of spending the summer around our swimming pool. We would be outside all day long.
3. Next think back to a summer when you had a fantastic time. Get out your journal and begin writing your thoughts. Don’t spend a lot of time thinking about what you are writing, just let the thoughts flow.
4. Image the sun is shining. You are relaxed, happy and at peace with yourself. Next, write down ten things that would make this your best summer ever. If some of the items are simple, that is great. If your life is busy and you do not have many options, find small things you can do.
5. Some ideas: visit a restaurant you having been wanting to try, plan a dinner with friends, read a book, get out in nature, go for a massage, go rafting, visit family, and plan a vacation or a weekend away. Are your creative ideas flowing?
6. Now write three action steps that will move you closer to your best summer ever. Make these three action steps doable in the next week.

Dealing with Mercury Retrograde

By: Gloria Marie

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In astrology, Mercury is the planet of communication. Mercury goes retrograde or backwards three times per year. In a retrograde period the theory of thought is that all communication goes backward. This includes contracts, electronics, and data. We are now in a Mercury retrograde period from May 18 – June 11. Mercury retrograde periods never have bothered me. Just the other day, I was speaking with a friend that is an astrologer and she agreed that they do not bother her either.
Well, this Mercury retrograde certainly is here to teach me something. I had a technician over yesterday to add memory to my laptop. He said it would take about 40 minutes. Three hours later, I walked into the room he was in and my laptop was completely taken apart. When it was sort of put back together it would not turn on. It is completely ruined. Obviously, he felt bad and said he would have a new computer arrive the next day. He knows that a laptop is vital to my business. Well the laptop did not arrive on Friday, because of the flooding in Texas it could not be shipped out. It is scheduled for a Monday arrival.
Friday morning, I got up and thought I could use my iPad until my new computer arrived. Well, I had no Internet service. I called my provider, they sent someone out late in the day, but, he could not fix it. They need the “electronics” team because a major piece of outside equipment needs to be changed.
I stayed calm through all this and went with the flow. I spent the day cleaning my house and it looks great. I even did all the windowsills. Hopefully by Tuesday, everything will be back in order. I guess I am supposed to take a break from my computer.
My advice for this Mercury retrograde period.
1. Back up all data.
2. If you must buy any electronics including computer, check the fine print and the warranty.
3. If you sign any contracts, be extra diligent in reading them.
This too shall pass. I like to practice non-attachment, but, I will admit I am going to miss my old laptop.

Three Powerful Words

By: Gloria Marie

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An all-time favorite book of mine is “As a Man Thinketh” by James Allen. It was written in 1904 and is about 88 pages. I first read it in the 1970’s and continue to reread its timeless message year after year. He suggests three powerful words to help us control our thoughts.

As a being of power, intelligence, and love…you hold the key to every situation, and contain within yourself that transforming and regenerative agency by which you may make yourself what you will.
-James Allen

We do and can control our mind. Life is challenging, when we are going though transitions and changes it can be more difficult to control our thoughts and our minds. But, that is also the time for the most growth. Positive thoughts produce positive results. The key is to be vigilant about your thoughts because improved results may take time.

When the non-profit company that I worked for recently eliminated my position, it was time to reread this wonderful book. Here I was without work and no other means of support. I was given very little notice. It was and is a stressful time. However by controlling my thoughts and by remaining positive about my future, I am dealing with the stress. As James Allen suggests, when things get tuff, I say to myself, “Peace, be still!” and I know everything will work out. I do believe in Divine Order.

We do have the power, intelligence, and love to transform our lives; sometimes it is hidden and needs nurturing to expand. The key is to be patient with ourselves and every day make a little progress in controlling your thoughts. Small steps will in time, produce large results.

As James Allen says-
Keep your hand firmly upon the helm of thought. Self-control is strength: right thought is master; calmness is power.
Say to your heart, “Peace, be still!”

Remember those words to control your thoughts
PEACE, BE STILL!

Simply Ancient Grains

By: Gloria Marie

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Maria Speck’s cookbook will have you wanting to add ancient grains to your diet with the unique textures, ingredients, and flavors she uses in her exceptional recipes. She introduces a Two-Step Philosophy to streamline the cooking time and meal planning. The Two-Step Philosophy speeds up the cooking time of the grains by doing a little preparation at night.

“Simply Ancient Grains” has a wonderful chart that gives inspiration for picking the grains and meal planning. The recipes use a whole variety of grains including: kamut, wild rice, wheat berries, barley, and bulgur. This is a must have reference for grain lovers or anyone who would like to add more grains to their menus.

There are recipes for breakfast, for salads, for main dishes and even for desert. It is not a vegetarian cookbook, though there are many vegetarian recipes. The photos that accompany the recipes are beautiful.

Some of my personal favorite recipes are: fusilli with tahini yogurt sauce and nigella seeds, freekeh soup with spicy harissa shrimp and dates, and vegetarian wild rice paella with sweet potatoes, tart cherries and gorgonzola. The recipes are explained very well.

If you are bored of the same, old recipes and meals, pick up a copy of “Simply Ancient Grains” for new motivation.

I received this book from the Blogging for Books program in exchange for this review.

Create an Inspiration Notebook

By: Gloria Marie

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An inspiration notebook is filled with your dreams, desires, and things that make you feel joyful. The notebook helps everything stay organized and in one place for you to refer to anytime you want. How many times are you looking through magazine and find a photo that really speaks to you and you are not sure why? How many times have you read a quote that touched your heart, but, you were not sure where to save it? An inspiration notebook is the place! Create an inspiration notebook to keep all your treasures in one place.

An inspiration notebook differs from a vision board. A vision board is like a treasure map of where you would like your life to involve. It is a direction for your life in 4 suggested areas: career, relationships, spirituality, and health/wellness. Florence Scovel Shinn in her book, “The Game of Life” labels the four areas: love, health, perfect self-expression and Wealth. An inspiration notebook is filled with things that speak to your soul. It is a work of art that you create. You may begin to see patterns in what you love. Or you may find the inspiration to take that next big step in your life.

How to begin your Inspiration Notebook:

1. Buy a spiral bound artist drawing pad. I prefer one with paper that is 80 lb. weight. You will also need scissors, pens, markers and glue.
2. Make the first page your cover. Give your notebook a title and decorate that first page. Use watercolor paints, colored markers or maybe even stickers.
3. Look through magazines and find photos that you love. Cut them out and glue then in the notebook.
4. Other ideas for the notebook:
a. Write favorite quotes
b. Titles of books you have enjoyed
c. Titles of movies you loved
d. Greeting cards given to you
e. Postcards
f. Photos of you smiling and happy
5. These are just suggestions. Be creative. The idea is to have this as a lifelong project. The notebook does not have to be filled in any given timeframe.

Won’t it be nice to have all these special memoires in place?

May Breakfast Recipes

By: Gloria Marie

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This is the monthly recipe blog. I love to cook and love sharing some of my favorite recipes. This month I am choosing two breakfast recipes. There is really no rhyme or reason why I choose breakfast. Perhaps, because my son will be home from college soon.  He and I have a tradition on Sunday mornings. We enjoy a nice brunch together, sometimes, with Mimosas.  I love to experiment with different recipes. The May breakfast recipes are apple pancakes and beer bread. The beer bread is so easy to make and tastes just like English muffin bread. The apple pancakes are also simple to make and look really impressive.

I think Sundays are the perfect time for a leisurely breakfast, reading the paper and sipping coffee. Maybe you will want to start a traditions.

Beer Bread

3 cups self-rising flour

1/3 cup sugar

1 can beer

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Grease and flour a loaf pan.Put the ingredients into a bowl and mix together. Beat with an electric mixer a few minutes until well blended.  Bake at 350 degrees for 50 minutes.

 

Apple Pancakes

2 -3 apples

4 Tablespoons butter

4 eggs

¾ cup flour

¾ cup milk

2 Tablespoons sugar

2 Tablespoons cinnamon

Salt

Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Get 2 round cake pans. Put 2 Tablespoons of butter into each pan and melt the butter in the oven.  Remove pans. Peel and slice the apples. Put the slices in the bottom of the heated pans. With an electric mix, beat the eggs, flour, salt and milk together.  Pour the mixture over the apples, splitting the mixture between the two pans. Mix together the sugar and cinnamon. Sprinkle over the apple mixture. Bake 20 -25 minutes .Can be served with or without syrup.

Hope you enjoy these recipes. Do you have any favorite breakfast recipes?

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New Moon Ritual

By: Gloria Marie

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On May 18 there is a new moon. New moons are times for new beginnings and fresh starts. New moons are turning points and a great time for manifestations. A new moon ritual helps you set your intentions for the next six months. Many different cultures and people have followed rituals for centuries. Think of the many rituals you have in your life today. Do you follow rituals at your place of worship, for birthday celebrations or for weddings?

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Rituals should fun, simple and authentic. Follow the steps below to perform your own new moon ritual.

1. Gather the following supplies: a candle, a stick of incense, matches, paper, pen, a journal, and soothing music. You can also collect any stones or crystals that have meaning for you.
2. Find a place in your home that you feel is sacred or that you feel peaceful.
3. Light a candle, light the incense and put on some soothing music.
4. Sit down and take a few deep breaths. Breathe beautiful white light into your heart area.
5. Say a prayer for inner guidance and clarity.
6. When you feel you are present and your mind is clear. Write down on the paper what you would like to bring into your life. What would you like to “grow”? To manifest? Try to make sure your intentions are truly what you believe you can attract, but, dream big.
7. When you are finished writing, at the bottom of your paper write, “And it is so.”  Sign your name and put the date.
8. Take a moment to say a prayer.
9. Write any thoughts or inspirations you have in your journal.
10. Take the paper and either burn it and blow the ashes in the wind outdoors or bury it in the garden to allow your intentions to “grow”.

Be flexible with the way the Universe will manifest your intentions.

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Divorce the Divorce

By: Gloria Marie

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Divorce the Divorce: a 52 Step Journey to Unlimited Happiness

Next week I will be offering a FREE download on Amazon for a few days. Look back for the details.

My eBook, “Divorce the Divorce; a 52 Step Journey to Unlimited Happiness will be released on Amazon on Sunday, May 17.

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Below is an excerpt from the book.

Confidence is something we all struggle with at some points in our lives. Transitions in life can rattle our confidence. Change from the loss of friendships, job insecurity, financial struggles, and divorce can all undermine our confidence. You may experience feelings of self-doubt. One day you may wake up and think, “What happened to that former gutsy, courageous me?” Don’t worry, we can get her back. You can work through this fear and build your confidence. By concentrating on just one area in your life, it will carry over into other areas.

On my birthday several years ago. I decided to take a mountain climbing course. My son climbed, and I admired the beautiful vistas in his photos. I wanted to experience that beauty first hand. At this time, my confidence was at an all-time low; I lived in fear most of the time. Because I have a fear of heights, I thought this would be a fantastic confidence booster, and it was. It was a very long day. I was scared; I froze on the granite mountain slab, and started crying. But I did not give up and completed the class, ending the day with a repel off the mountain. I had a shift that day and realized that I did have the inner strength to conquer my fears and move forward bravely. This requires stepping out of your comfort zone as I did, but with small steps you can move toward having the courage to create the life you want.

Activity

Pick at least one of these activities to do this week. Challenge yourself.

1. Take a risk – It can be something small to start with. You do not have to climb a mountain or jump out of a plane to take a risk. I had one client that wanted to start dating and was not sure how to begin. For one of his assignments, I had him ask someone out for coffee. Very simple. I told him to go with no expectations other than to enjoy meeting someone new. That is it! This week, pick one small risk to take.

2.Do not seek approval from others – You do not have to have everyone “like” you or “approve” of your behavior. We are all unique human beings. How boring our world would be if we were all similar. If you are uncomfortable with this, spend some time sitting quietly to access your inner wisdom. Light a candle, sit in your favorite chair, and breathe deeply to access your inner knowing. Try to make one decision this week without asking anyone’s opinion; make the decision all on your own.

3.Learn something new – Challenge yourself to learn something new or improve a current skill you have already developed. Maybe it is to take tennis or golf lessons? Learn to knit or sew. You Tube has many videos that can help you enhance these skills.

4. Exercise – This is so important to do at least several days a week. During really stressful times, exercising on a daily basis is almost vital. Of course, check with your Doctor to find an exercise program that is appropriate for you. Exercise will help you look better and feel better. Wedmd.com says that exercise helps the body release the chemicals called endorphins. They trigger a positive feeling in the body. Exercise has proven to reduce stress, ward off anxiety, boast self-esteem, and improve sleep. At the very least, go for a short walk.

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Divorce the Divorce

By: Gloria Marie

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Divorce the Divorce: a 52 Step Journey to Unlimited Happiness

My eBook, “Divorce the Divorce; a 52 Step Journey to Unlimited Happiness will be released on Amazon on Sunday, May 17.

Next week I will be offering a FREE download on Amazon for a few days.  Look back for the details.  Below is an excerpt from the book.

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 Learn to love you: the incredible, amazing human being that you are. It is time to stop the negative self-talk and negative thinking. It is time to treat yourself with the same love and respect that you give others. An analogy for this is the oxygen masks on airplanes. We have all heard that speech many times. “If you are traveling with young children, put the mask on yourself first before you place the mask over the child’s face.” You must learn to love yourself before you can give unconditional love to another. This involves taking the time and energy to do special things for yourself and also to be aware of your thoughts.

We become what we think about. Positive, loving thoughts will attract positive loving things into your life, just like a magnet attracts metal. When we go through a divorce or through other life changes, it is easy to go to a very dark, sad place. It happens little by little and then one day, it seems that there is no joy or happiness in your life. If you are willing to change your thoughts, you can change your life.

Learning to love yourself is a miracle cure. How many times a day do you treat yourself without love? Do any of the following resonate with you?

I have negative thoughts.

I feel unlovable.

I live my life fearful of the future.

I compare myself to others.

I settle for less – in relationships and in salaries.

I criticize myself.

I feel I am not enough.

Make the decision today to start loving yourself. Change your thoughts. Instead of saying” I am not enough,” say “I love myself exactly as I am.” Instead of “I am fearful of the future,” say, “I place my trust in God.” By becoming aware of your thoughts, you can begin changing them. It takes time and practice. That tape in your head has been with you a long time. But with a commitment to change, you can. Then gradually you will see things falling into place; you will have more joy and happiness in your life. Fear will be replaced by faith. There is no cost to do this, so, why not try it for the next week.

Activity

  1. Do something special for yourself this week. Maybe it is taking the time for a long bath, reading a favorite book, watching a movie, or maybe it is just relaxing on the couch.
  2. Pick one day this week to become aware of your thoughts. Keep a notebook or paper next to you throughout the day. When a negative thought arises, write it down. At the end of the day re-write those thoughts in positive terms. Write your “new” thoughts on an index card. Repeat them morning, noon, and night for the rest of the week.

Journal

Name some other “special” things you can do for yourself.

Did repeating the positive thoughts make a difference in your life this week? How did it make you feel?

What can you do to be aware of your thoughts in the future?

Mid-Week Delight

Sweep your front porch. If you do not have a front porch,

clean your entrance way and doorway.

 This is a cleansing ritual that helps to move around energy.

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Crystals and Gemstones for Romance

By: Gloria Marie

Crystals and gemstones for romance are rose quartz, rhodochrosite, and moonstone. Rose quartz is the most common crystal used for romance. According to legend, Eros, the Greek God of love, brought rose quartz to the earth in the hope that its gorgeous color would arose love and desire. Since the Middle Ages, rose quartz has been considered a love charm.

Rose Quartz stimulates circulation and thus increases sexuality. It is considered helpful in affairs of the heart and the heart chakra. It is found naturally as a piece of quartz.

Consider buying a rose quartz. It comes in all sizes and price ranges. I keep a small rose Quartz crystal in my bedroom, another in my living room and I wear a rose quartz bracelet. Its beautiful pink translucent color reminds me of romance.

Rhodochrosite symbolizes openness. It is said to awaken all-embracing love that is not limited to one person. Native Americans used to offer the stone as a token of love. The Incas called it “Inca rose.” Psychologically rhodochrosite helps the wearer to achieve self-knowledge and reduce stress.

Rhodochrosite represents love and compassion. It is a wonderful crystal to work with to give and receive love. It also stimulates feeling and promotes intuition.

It can be used as a polished stone for laying on the body or cut as jewelry. It is colored bright red to pink or pink with partial white stripes. The larger crystals come from Peru and Colorado.

Moonstone has always been the stone of love and lovers. It is a very powerful healing stone for women. It symbolizes love and tenderness to lovers and for passion in romance. Legend has it that it is especially powerful when used on a full moon. It is egg-shell colored, yellowish, bluish or blue.

Their properties for love, may be all legend, but, I think it is worth a try!