Monthly Archives: December 2014

New Year’s Eve Rituals

By: Gloria Marie

Tonight we ring in the year 2015. I have a ritual that I like to do on New Year’s Eve or New Year’s Day.  I wrote about it in my blog on 12/28/14. Black eye peas for good luck are usually served at my house on New Year’s Day along with watching plenty of football games.  It is interesting to read about what people around the world do for New Year’s Eve rituals.  Maybe this year, you want to incorporate one of these in the day?

I do not make New Year’s resolutions, but, I do reflect on the past year.  There is nothing I change about it, however, there may be something I could learn. Maybe I had to face some fears, so I would ask myself, “What did that situation teach me?”  And then let it go!!! Tomorrow is an exciting day, January 1, 2015. Think of it as a clean slate or as a new beginning. What is it you want to do in 2015 to make it the best year ever?  You can do it.  You are unlimited in your ability to create the incredible life you want.  Have courage and follow those dreams.  Maybe try one of these rituals, it could not hurt.

Spain – They eat 12 grapes at midnight. Each grape signifies good luck for each month of the coming year.

Japan – Buddhist temples ring their bells 108 times.

Ireland – Women who hope to find a husband in the coming year, place mistletoe under their pillows.

Italy – The men and women wear red underwear to bring good luck.

English – The open the back door at midnight to let go of the old year.

Philippines – They believe round shapes represent coins and prosperity. So, a bowl of round fruit is placed on the dinner table.

These are other rituals:

  1. 1. Eat black eye peas on New Year’s Day for good luck and prosperity in the New Year.
  2. At midnight, have money in your pocket for prosperity in the New Year.
  3. Bless your home on New Year’s Day with sage or holy water.
  4. Pay careful attention to the first person to set foot in your house on New Year’s Day.

Do you have a New Year’s Eve ritual to share?



Let Go of 2014 and Manifest 2015

By: Gloria Marie

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This week, we ring in 2015 and this is the last Sensational Sunday exercise for the year.  Do you feel like the past year went quickly? It seems like almost yesterday that I was packing up my son’s things after the holiday for him to return to college. What I love about a new year is that it is almost like a clean slate. It is time to let go of 2014 and manifest 2015. I have this great exercise to help you do that. Would you like 2015 to be your best year ever? You can make it the best ever! Follow your dreams in 2015, do not give up. Start the year with clear intentions. Spend a few minutes on the 4 steps below.

Try these 4 steps to ring in the New Year!

1. On New Year’s Eve, get out your journal and spend some time reviewing 2014. Sit in a quiet spot and reflect on the past year without judgment. Try answering some of these questions;
a. What was the most significant thing that happened in your life in 2014?
b. List one joy and one sorrow that you experienced this year.
c. What is the greatest thing you learned this year?
d. What are you thankful for this year?
2. Next, list what you want to leave behind in 2014. What is getting in the way of living the life you want? If you could change one thing about your life, what would it be?
3. Light a candle and say a prayer of gratitude for 2014. Have the feeling of gratitude permeate your whole being. Now, leave 2014 behind.
4. On New Year’s Day make a list of what you would like to manifest in 2015. Be very clear with your intentions. Write them in a positive form and believe the Universe will help you.
At the top of your list write, “This or something better will manifest in 2015!” Say that out loud and believe it in your soul.

Happy New Year! What would you like to manifest in 2015?

Discourse on Good Will

By: Gloria Marie

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could keep the holiday feelings and sentiments alive all year? I do believe it is possible.  How wonderful it would be, to be filled with joy and peace all year? Let’s take this a step further and wouldn’t it be wonderful if all beings were filled with joy and peace all year?  This joy and peace begins with you.  During this holiday season try some of the tips in my blog.  Strive to carry out these feeling throughout the year. As I spend time with my family during the holidays, I am going to focus on my feelings of love and try to keep that thread throughout the year.  The Discourse on Good Will is one of my favorite passages.

Discourse on Good Will

May all beings be filled with joy and peace.

May all beings everywhere,

The strong and the weak,

The great and the small,

The mean and the powerful,

The short and the long.

The subtle and the gross:


May all beings everywhere,

Seen and unseen,

Dwelling far or nearby,

Being or waiting to become:

May all be filled with lasting joy.


Let no one deceive another,

Let no one anywhere despise another,

Let no one out of anger or resentment

Wish suffering on anyone at all.


Just as a mother with her own life

Protects her child, her only child, from harm,

So within yourself let grow

A boundless love for all creatures.


Let your love flow outward through the universe,

To its height, its depth, its broad extent,

A limitless love, without hatred or enmity.


Then, as you stand or walk,

Sit or lie down,

As long as you are awake,

Strive for this with a one-pointed mind;

Your life will bring heaven to earth.

-The Sutta Nipata

May you be filled with joy, peace and love during this magical time of year.

5 Ways to Deal with Holiday Stress

By: Gloria Marie

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This is an easy time of year to overburden ourselves.  I was thinking about all the additional things I was putting in my schedule: holiday parties, baking, decorating, gift purchases and holiday dinners.  This list, of course, is in addition to my everyday obligations with work and my home life. I decided in order to really enjoy the holidays and spend time with my family, I would only schedule things that really mattered to me and I would not worry if the holidays weren’t perfect.  When my holiday decorations came down from the attic, I looked at all the boxes and decided that is was not important to put out every decoration and that it was ok that my outside bushes did not have lights. I decided to take some time for myself with the 5 ways to deal with holiday stress listed below.

5 Ways to Deal with Holiday Stress

  1.  Breathe. Does this sound too simple? It is simple, but, it works.  Stand up with your feet flat on the floor.  Place you hand on your stomach, take 5 deep breaths, and feel your stomach go in and out while you breathe.
  2. Develop a spiritual practice. Throughout the holiday season, try to spend at least 5 minutes every day in a spiritual practice. Try meditation, prayer, inspirational reading, or some time in silence. The important point it to practice it consistently.
  3. Humor. A good laugh does our soul good.  Watch a funny movie, read cartoons or read a humorous book.
  4. Exercise. There are many studies that show that exercise reduces stress and helps you sleep better.  At the very least, go for a walk.
  5. Gratitude is very powerful. Make a list of 10 things you are grateful for. Try to stop and do this whenever you feel stressful.

Which of these did you try?

6 Ways to Stay Joyful

By: Gloria Marie

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What was the first thing you did when you woke up this morning? Maybe said a prayer for having another day on this magnificent earth? Did you feel joyful and excited about your day? Finding joy and living a joy-filled life allows you to shine.  Joy is a true internal feeling that is not affected by life’s up and downs.  It differs from happiness which is more external.  You won the lottery, you feel happiness. This is not to say that you will always be joyful, but, by cultivating joy, you will be joyful more frequently. Here are my six ways to stay joyful.

I practice these steps, not every day, but, most days.  If I am going through a more challenging period in my life, I make it a habit to integrate these actions in my life.  Let your soul shine through with joy, it will help everyone around you feel better.

6 Ways to Stay Joyful

  1. Be grateful. A practice that includes gratitude allows you to dwell on the positive aspects in your life. No matter how difficult a period you are going through, there is always something to be grateful for.  Do you say a silent prayer before a meal? Or maybe start a Gratitude journal.
  2. Do something creative. Learn something new. When you are doing a creative project, you unblock energy and that energy can now flow in better ways. When you are doing the creative project; pay attention to the process. Immerse yourself in it.
  3. Find your passion. Pursue something that you care deeply about. Even taking small steps toward your passion will bring you joy.  What does your ideal day look like?  Read my blog on 10 Questions to Find Your Passion.
  4. Be of service to others. Take the focus off your ego-centered self and bring happiness to another person. Think of the countless ways you can be of service.
  5.  Exercise. The Mayo Clinic says, “Exercise in almost any form can act as a stress reliever. Being active can boost your feel good endorphins and distract you from daily worries”. You do not have to train for a marathon.  Just do some exercise that you enjoy.
  6. Listen to your intuition. In silence, you deep gut feelings are very reliable. Learn to be aware of them.

What do you do to bring more joy into your life?

6 Questions to Improve Your Self-Esteem

By: Gloria Marie

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Self-esteem is a reflection of how you think and feel about yourself. My coach says, “Self-esteem is an inside job”. I love that statement. Because it is an inside job we have the ability to change the way we feel about ourselves by examining our belief systems. When life throws us a curve that is when we may feel unhappy and we start judging ourselves harshly. That is the exact moment when we need to boost our self-esteem and confidence. Spend some time answering the “6 Questions to Improve Your Self-Esteem” and the next time you start judging yourself, take your worksheet out to improve your attitude. Remember it is an inside job and you have control over it! Make this a Sensational Sunday and do the exercise below!

One of my “stories” came from my second grade teacher. Boy, I sure held onto this one a long time. She wrote in my report card that I was overly sensitive. For many years, I looked at that as a negative and that was simply a belief. I am sensitive and that is wonderful. My sensitivity allows me to be creative and allows me to trust my intuition. I changed the message

6 Questions to Improve Your Self-Esteem

1. Write the beliefs you learned about yourself when you were young from your:
a. Mother
b. Father
c. Friends
d. Teacher
2. Which of these messages continue to dominate your thoughts today?
3. Which messages support and which messages detract from your confidence and happiness?
4. Are these messages truth or simply a belief?
5. Which messages do you want to change to improve your self-esteem?
6. Write the new thoughts you choose to believe to support your positive self-esteem.

Did you discover some interesting “stories” that you have held onto since childhood? Start today to redo that story with your positive new thoughts. Let those “stories” go. Next time you are feeling down, pull out this sheet and read it. Change takes time and practice. Be gentle with yourself, but, be vigilant about changing those thoughts.

What is your positive new thought?

What to Wear on a Date?

By: Gloria Marie

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“I think that young men and women are so caught by the way they see themselves. Now mind you, when a larger society sees them as unattractive, as threats, as too black or too white or too poor or too fat or too thin or too asexual, that’s rough. But you can overcome that. The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.”

-Maya Angelou

When I got divorced, the thought of dating was quite daunting. It had been almost 35 plus years since I had been on a first date.   I had no idea what to wear on a  date. I was a women in her 50’s. My only experience was from was dating in my 20’s and that would not provide me with any relevant information.  Divorce changes everything, including how you dress!

My suggestions:

  1. Dress for your age. Do not try to look like a 20 year old.
  2. Dress for the body you have, not the body you want. Make sure your clothes fit properly: not too large and not like you were poured into them.
  3. Beware of wearing too much black. A few years after my divorce, I looked at my closet, it contain mostly black clothes. I must have been in a state of mourning and wore clothes that you would wear to a funeral.  For your dating outfits, wear color. Colors that make you feel good and that look great on you.
  4. Show some skin, but, not too much. You do not want to look desperate or overly sexy. Maybe show your legs or your shoulders.
  5. Do not wear really high heels. Wear shoes that you can comfortably walk in.
  6. Wear some accessories, but, do not over do them either. Try wearing earrings and a necklace or earrings and a bracelet.

The most important point is to pick your outfit and then spend the evening concentrating on your date.  Will there be date number 2?







Clearing Your Throat Chakra

By: Gloria Marie

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Chakra’s are outlets in the human body that are centers of “life forces” and vital energy. We have seven main chakras that are aligned along the spinal column. Each chakra is associated with our physical health and also our emotional and mental health. The throat chakra is located at the base of the neck and it is the fifth chakra. It commonly gets out of balance. I will give you six techniques for clearing your throat chakra.
My throat chakra frequently gets out of balance. My first indication of this is repeatedly clearing my throat. I usually think, ok, what am I not expressing or what am I afraid to say. While dating, if there was someone I did not care to see again, I would notice my throat would feel constricted because I was hesitate about stating my true feelings. You may also notice this in a work situation. Try to become aware if you clear your throat before you have something uncomfortable to say to your boss or a co-worker.
Besides clearing your throat, some other indications of a blocked throat charka are: a sore throat, getting choked up, hearing problems, and a neck ache. When your throat chakra is open and balanced you speak your thoughts clearly. It represents communication and personal expression.
6 Ways to Clear the Throat Chakra
1. Singing or humming. You might be saying: I cannot sing. That should tell you something. To clear my throat chakra, I stand up straight and sing loudly and strongly. I pretend I am singing to the house across the street. Of course, my windows are shut when I do this! It does not matter what you sing, even a series of sounds will suffice.
2. Rub the essential oils chamomile or myrrh on your neck. Remember to dilute the essential oils before you apply them to your skin.
3. The throat chakra is associated with the color blue. Wear something blue, maybe, a blue scarf around your neck.
4. Wear blue jewelry, especially a blue necklace.
5. Carry or wear blue crystals: turquoise, lapis, aquamarine, and sapphire.
6. Say affirmations. This one is from “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay. “It is okay to make noise. I express myself freely and joyously. I speak up for myself with ease.”

Which of these techniques worked for you? Can you suggest some others?

Key to Happiness

By: Gloria Marie


Forgiveness is the key to happiness. Resentment, anger, and grief over past relationships hold a tremendous amount of energy. It is important to release the negative energy in order for more positive relationships to flow into your life. It is almost like creating a “space” for something or someone new to enter. Below I describe one technique I use to forgive and move on. This exercise can work not only for romantic relationships, it can work for any relationship that needs healing and closure.

There was one man I dated for several months. I felt the relationship was a convenience instead of a priority. The relationship did not progress. Every date was like the “first” date, no more no less. I used this exercise to get the courage to end the relationship and to move on.

In order to release myself and my energy from a relationship, I would write a letter to them. Sometimes it was just one letter other times six or seven. No one would ever see the letters. When I felt I wrote all I need to, I would follow the steps I list below. It provided closure and healing.

This is a powerful exercise.
1. Get a piece of paper and a pen. Sit in a comfortable chair in a quiet space. Take a few deep breaths. Write a letter to the person you need to forgive or the person you need to let go of. Take your time. Write your feelings about them; how they hurt you, how that felt, how you may have done things differently. There is no rule as to how long the letter has to be, keep writing until you have nothing else to say to them. When you feel you have written enough, at the bottom of the letter wish them well and sign your name.

2. Tear the letter up into small pieces and then do one of the following: a) Put them in a pan and burn them. Obviously, be very careful with this step. As you watch them burn say a prayer for the person the letter is addressed or at least wish them happiness b) Bury the pieces of paper in the ground. As you cover them with dirt, say a prayer for the person the letter is addressed to.

3. Repeat this as often as needed, until you feel you have forgiven and released the person. You know you have released this person’s energy when you no longer feel any strong emotion when you think of them.

How many letters did your forgiveness take?