Monthly Archives: November 2014

10 Ways to Ground Yourself

By: Gloria Marie

It is important to ground yourself on a regular basis, especially if you are on a spiritual path. We live and walk on this beautiful, magnificent earth and it is vital to stay balanced in our spiritual, emotional and physical body. By being balanced, centered, and aligned we become fully present in the moment. The “what-if” about the future become less dominant. Have you ever driven somewhere and you do not remember how you got to your destination? That is an example of being not grounded. Today, I will suggest 10 ways to ground yourself and I encourage you to try several this week.

The driving example I used above happens to me. I will leave my house go to a meeting and realize I do not remember how I got there. When that happens, I stop, and do one of the techniques below. I also find them helpful when I am working on a project, especially ones that involves creativity. I will stop, leave my desk and ground myself. It really gives a fresh start.

Other signs that you may not be grounded:
• Day dreaming
• Dizzy
• Forgetful
• Spacey
• Scattered
• Trouble focusing on a task

10 Ways to Ground Yourself
1. Eat something that is from the earth: potato, carrot, parsnip, beets.
2. Walk barefoot on grass. I try to do this every day.
3. Do gardening. Try to not wear gloves, so, you can feel the dirt. If you live in a cold climate, plant a small herb garden on a window sill.
4. Visualize a rod going down your back and all the way to the center of the earth.
5. Be aware of smells, sounds, and temperatures.
6. Visualize a tree with large roots that go to the center of the earth. Picture yourself next to the tree.
7. Spend some time in nature.
8. Bake bread. While kneading the dough by hand, concentrate on the texture and smell of the dough.
9. Wear red or eat red foods to clear your root chakra.
10. Use the essential oils Patchouli and Cedarwood.

Which of these techniques worked for you?

Happy Thanksgiving

By: Gloria Marie

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Happy Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving to me represents the beginning of the holiday season.  A time to be grateful, times spent with family and friends, and, from my Italian heritage, time for lots of good food.  Our family always gathers together on Thanksgiving.  The last several years, my sister and I split the cooking duties.  We each make some of the traditional family recipes.  I shared one of our favorite sweet potato recipes in a previous blog.  You can access it here…

Thanksgiving is a wonderful day to take out your journal and spend some reflecting on what you are grateful for today.  Think back over the past year and write down some obvious things to be grateful for, then dig deeper to discover what may not be as apparent.

One of our traditions is reading the prayer below. It was written by Chief Yellow Lark.  He was a nineteenth century medicine man of the Lakota Sioux.

Let Me Walk in Beauty

O Great Spirit,

whose voice I hear in the winds

and whose breath gives life to all the world,

hear me.

I am small and weak.

I need your strength and wisdom.

 

Let me walk in beauty

and let my eyes ever behold the red and purple sunset.

Make my hands respect the things you have made

and my ears grow sharp to hear you voice.

 

Make me wise so that I may understand the things

you have taught my people.

Let me learn the lessons you have hidden

in every leaf and rock.

I seek strength not to be greater than my brother or sister

but to fight my greatest enemy, myself.

Make me always ready

to come to you with clean hands and straight eyes

So when life fades as the fading sunset

my spirit may come to you without shame.

 

I wish you a very Happy Thanksgiving that is filled with love and gratitude.

4 Steps to Create Your Vision

By: Gloria Marie

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We all want to have happy, successful lives. But, what does your happy, successful life look like? A large step to create the life you want is to clearly identify what that looks like.  We need to create a vision and a strong personal foundation in order to move toward our ideal life. While defining the vision, it is essential to eliminate thoughts of insecurity and inadequacy.  Strong faith in ourselves goes a long way to help build an ideal life.  This blog will suggest 4 steps to create your vision.

Whenever I would change careers, which over the course of my life happened many times, I would sit down and clearly identify the steps necessary for a change.  Sometimes, it was rather daunting and almost overwhelming.  That is when feelings of fear instead of faith would enter my mind.  But, I found with clearly a defined vision and concrete steps to accomplish the career change, faith in myself would eliminate the fear. I would read over my vision and this would help prevent obstacles from forming in my mind.  My focus would be on moving forward with confidence.

4 Steps to Create your Strong Personal Foundation

  1. Ask yourself the following questions:
    1. What does your ideal day consist of?
    2. What does you ideal income provide you with?
    3. In 5 years, what will you have accomplished?
  2. Write a clear and concise paragraph of your ideal life based on the answers to the above questions. Every sentence should be phrased in the present tense and contain only positive words.
  3. Review it and read it out loud 3 times a day for the next 30 days.
  4. Have a mental picture of yourself in your happy, successful life. Whenever fear sets in, create this picture in your mind and do not let it fade!

What does your happy, successful life look like?

 

 

Thanksgiving Recipe

By: Gloria Marie

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Thanksgiving is a time for gratitude. For me, it is a time family gets together to prepare, share and enjoy a wonderful feast. I love to cook and I try to combine new recipes with some tried and true ones. Our family has some thanksgiving recipes that have become traditions. My Mom would always make her special green beans and her 7 layer salad. My boys love my sweet potato recipe. A Thanksgiving meal would not be complete without it. Today, I am going to share this recipe. Do not count calories when you make this. Happy Cooking!

Sweet Potato Classic

5 large sweet potatoes ¼ cup white sugar
¼ teaspoon salt 2 tablespoons heavy cream
¼ cup butter ¼ cup, butter, softened
2 eggs 3 tablespoons all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon vanilla extract ¾ cup packed light brown sugar
½ teaspoon ground cinnamon ½ cup chopped pecans

Directions
1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Lightly grease a 9 x 13 inch baking pan. Depending on the size of the sweet potatoes, sometimes I use a smaller pan.
2. Bake sweet potatoes 35 minutes in the oven, or until they begin to soften. Cool slightly, peel and mush.
3. In a large bowl. Mix the mashed sweet potatoes, salt, butter, eggs, vanilla extract, cinnamon, sugar, and heavy cream. I add the eggs one at a time. If the mixture seems too runny, I only add 1 egg. Transfer to the prepared baking dish.
4. In a medium bowl, combine the butter, flour, brown sugar and chopped pecans. Mix until it is the consistency of course meal. Sprinkle this over the sweet potato mixture.
5. Bake 30 minutes in the preheated oven, until the topping is crisp and lightly browned.

This tastes great the next day reheated, too.

What our some of your favorite Thanksgiving dishes and traditions?

15 Ways to Save Money

By: Gloria Marie

 

After my divorce, I had to come up with ways to spend less and save money. I no longer lived in a two income household. So, I came up with 15 ways to save money. If it seems too overwhelming to enact these all at once, try a few at a time. Some may be harder to put in place: giving up that spa facial may be difficult or giving up the morning coffee stop. This week make it a point to try at least 3 of these tips.

1. Limit the number of times you eat out. Instead, have friends over for a pot luck meal. You can exchange recipes. This can be fun and it is low-cost. Maybe even watch a movie or play a card game.
2. Call you credit card company to ask for a lower interest rate.
3. Practice a 30 day wait on unnecessary purchases. A 30 day wait will stop impulse buys and help you purchase only what you need.
4. Disconnect your land line. Switch to using your mobile phone.
5. Switch bank accounts to get free checking. Shop around for better rates.
6. Turn lights, computer, and other appliances off when you are not at home.
7. Try generic brands of your favorite beauty products and foods.
8. Brown bag your lunch. Add up the cost of eating out for lunch every day, it is probably quite costly. Plan your lunches on Sunday.
9. Develop your grocery list and meals around the weekly grocery flyer specials.
10. Go to the library for books, CD’s and movies. It is free or low-cost for rentals.
11. Drop the gym membership. Opt for free You Tube exercise videos or free exercise apps.
12. Clean your closets to make extra money. Sell things you no longer need or want on eBay, Craigslist, or have a garage sale.
13. Disconnect your cable and sign up for Netflix or Hulu Plus instead.
14. Make your own cup of coffee in the morning instead of stopping at the local coffee shop.
15. Cut spa costs- buy the products and give yourself a facial, manicure and pedicure at home.

Did you try any of these? Which ones worked for you?

Green Healing Crystals

By: Gloria Marie

 

Crystals are minerals formed underground from hot magma, of which the earth is composed. A crystal’s appearance depends upon the natural characteristics of its type and the conditions in which it grows. The most striking quality is their color. Crystals have the power to hold energy and have varying healing effects. Today I want to discuss several green healing crystals.

Crystals come in all sizes and can be used in various ways. Crystals, depending on their use, can be placed in your pocket, on your desk, or beside your bed at night. When choosing crystals, use your intuition to find the one that is right for you. The same goes for where to place your crystals, follow your heart to decide the best place for your crystals.

Emerald
The green emerald symbolizes hope and development. It can be used to stabilize vision and is effective against headaches. It promotes mental growth, farsightedness, and perceptiveness. It is associated with the heart chakra. An emerald is considered the stone of loyalty and successful love and helps to bring harmony to all areas of one’s life.

Green Tourmaline
It symbolizes wealth, friendship and love. Green tourmaline regulates blood pressure and can strengthen the heart muscle and nervous system. It is good for creativity and for opening the heart chakra.

Chrysoprase
Chrysoprase has a calming influence on the tired and can help create a harmonious effect on both body and mind. It symbolizes clarity of thought. It can lead you to new intellectual approaches.

Jade
Jade symbolizes renewal. It is considered a lucky stone and is frequently worn as an amulet. It inspires and induces ambition toward the accomplishment of objectives.

Malachite
Malachite promotes growth and builds up strength. Its properties help release suppressed emotions and facilitate insight. It is an ideal meditation stone.

Have you used any of these crystals?

Dating and Being Stood Up

By: Gloria Marie

 

“Love is a state of Being.  Your love is not outside; it is deep within you.  You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you. It is not dependent on some other body, some external form.”

-Eckhart Tolle

These wise words from Eckhart Tolle are important to remember while in the dating process.  We all want love and companionship from other human being, but, love is deep within us.  Sometimes it may be hidden, but, it cannot be taken away from us. Dating will have its ups and its downs; just like life.  When you are stood up for the first time, it can hurt.  You may try to internalize the experience. You may try to relive the last time you spoke. Stop all the chatter in your mind and grow from yet another dating experience.  This is how I deal with dating and being stood up.

There was a man I met on an online dating site.  We went out for about 5 dates and had good times.  He asked me out for New Year’s Eve and I thought, “Great!”   It had been several years; yes several, since I had a date for New Year’s Eve.   December 30 he texted me and asked what I was doing the next evening.  I responded, “Going out with you, I thought we had plans.”  Well, that night, the next day and the next evening: no call and no text message.  I choose not to call him and I never heard from him again.

Of course, my mind initially created so many scenarios and finally, I decided, it did not matter what the circumstances were. All that mattered was my reaction to them.  I could have gotten angry. Anger could be a very logical response.  But, who would my anger hurt the most?  Me! Instead, every time I would feel hurt or anger, I would say, “I wish him much happiness”.  I continued to repeat this until the hurt and anger were gone.  I do hope he is happy and I do know for sure, he would not be for me!

Next time someone hurts you, wish them the best.  And remember as Eckhart Tolle says, “Love is deep within you and cannot leave you.”

 

Have you ever been stood up?  How did you react?

 

 

 

Techniques to Ground Yourself

By: Gloria Marie

Try these simple techniques to ground yourself and become more present in the moment. These techniques can help you feel less scattered and more focused.

Kind Meditation

By: Gloria Marie

Some days, I find it a little more difficult to meditate. On those days, I prefer to use a guided meditation. One of my favorite mediation apps is Buddify2.  It is easy to navigate and has a wonderful variety of meditations to choose from.  They have meditations for feeling stressed, going to sleep, in nature and many, many more.  They meditations also vary in length.  I love the “Kind” meditation.

Today there was a lunar eclipse.  As a cancer, lunar phases seem to affect me. This lunar eclipse made me feel anxious, so, I thought I needed to take the emphasis off of “me” and put my energy into others. I needed to get out of my own head and connect with others.  So, I chose the Buddify 2 “Kind” meditation.  This is my version of the “Kind” Meditation.

The steps for the Meditation:

  1. Take a few minutes to sit still and take a few deep breaths.
  2. Think about someone you love or have affection for. The first person that comes to mind, is probably the one you want to direct your energy to. Silently repeat the following phrase while visualizing this person in your mind. “I wish you love and happiness”. Repeat this phrase silently for a few minutes.  Then, picture your heart surrounded by beautiful pink light. Visualize this light growing and growing. Surround the person you are thinking about with this beautiful pink light, from your heart to theirs.
  3. Choose a second person that you love or have affection for. Repeat the above. Silently repeating,” I wish you love and happiness”.  Then visualize the beautiful pink light from your heart to theirs.
  4. Now repeat the above on yourself. Silently repeat, “I wish you love and happiness”. Then visualize your entire body surrounded with pink light.
  5. Take a few deep breaths and slowly open your eyes.

Did you feel more relaxed?

Stress Identification Tools

By: Gloria Marie

 

 

Stress is a part of life.  If you are breathing, the chances are pretty great that there is some degree of stress in your life. If you become aware of the stress points in your life, it will help you to better deal with them. By learning to be aware of what causes you stress, you can develop ways to help eliminate it.  Today we will discuss some stress identification tools.

Through the past several years, I have learned to relieve stress and anxiety by consciously becoming aware of it. Instead of hoping it did not exist or ignoring it, I actually paid attention to it. I realized that stress could be a good teacher for me. By dealing with the tasks, people or events that caused me stress in my day to day life, I would be better able to deal with the really, really large stressful events that life does bring.

Seeing my former husband’s name appear in the caller ID on my cell phone caused me stress.  Doesn’t that sound silly?  A trivial thing, but, it give me a feeling of panic and distress in my solar plexus. I was probably associating it with the nasty times during the divorce.  I learned to identify this and eliminate it by taking a few deep breaths and thinking of our wonderful sons.

Exercise: Stress Identification Tools

  1. Write down as many things (people, tasks, and future events) that currently cause you stress.
  2. Complete the sentences below:
    1. I feel stressed when
    2. I worry when
    3. I wish I had more help with
  3. Now make a 3 column table. At the top of the columns write: Stressor, Follow up Action, Helpful Resources. Using what you identified in step 1 and 2, fill in the columns. For Example, Stressor-My former husband’s caller ID in my cell phone. Follow up Action-Deep Breaths, Vision of my sons.  Helpful Resources-Affirmations.

What stressors did you identify?  Let me know?