Monthly Archives: July 2014

Tip 19 More Dating Tips

By: Gloria Marie

 

More Dating Tips

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There have been several of my blogs on dating tips.  It just seems, every time I go out, I learn something new about dating. Sometimes, it is something good I learn and sometimes, it is something I do not care to repeat.  Listed below are today’s dating words of wisdom:

1. Singles in America did research for Match.com and found that 35% of men and 27% of women pay on the first date.  What should you do?  Do whatever you are comfortable doing. If I am meeting someone for the first time, I do not expect them to pay for my dinner. Nor do I want to schedule a dinner for a first meeting; it is too long of a timeframe.

2. When I initially went on a new on-line site, there was quite a bit of activity and quite a few dates. It got confusing remembering what I wore on what date.  To solve this dilemma, I created a first date “uniform”.  Every first date or first meeting I wore the same top and slacks.  It was an outfit I felt comfortable in and it saved time not looking through my closet for “what to wear”.  The added bonus is that you can spend that extra time fixing your hair or applying makeup.

3. If you progress to more than a first date and you are seeing several men, take photos of your outfits.  This is an easy way to remember.

4. There are multiple on-line dating sites.  If you did not have luck with one site, do not give up, try another one.  They are all unique and that special someone may be on a different site.

5. Singles in America reported that single men are five times more likely to find sex on the first date appropriate.  My suggestion, do not have sex on the first date.  Most matchmaking services have rules about no sex on the first date.  However, we all make mistakes!

In the archives under “dating” you will find more tips!

Aromatherapy for Relaxation

By: Gloria Marie

Sensational Sunday   Aromatherapy for Relaxation

 Every Sunday the Single, Happy, and Strong Blog will have an exercise for you to do.  This is a wonderful way to start a new week; to reflect, grow, and begin a shift in your life.  This week we are going to discuss aromatherapy for relaxing and which specific essential oils work great.  My blog on July 20 listed various aromatherapy techniques.

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Aromatherapy is, as the name suggests, a therapy that uses aromas. These aromas are produced from plants, trees, and herbs. Aromatherapy oils have the ability to affect our moods and fill a whole room with their fragrance.  The oils can be smelled, put in a simple burner, or applied to the skin. There is also an electric aromatherapy vaporizer that uses water with the oils.  Today we will discuss some oils that are good for relaxation.

First, a warning about using the oils.  The essential oils should not be applied directly to the skin undiluted.  True essential oils are undiluted and come in small dark blue or brown bottles.

Oils for Relaxing

1. Clary Sage – It is extremely euphoric and is very good as an antidepressant. It is also good mixed into a bath

2. Jasmine – Jasmine is one of the most powerful of the antidepressant oils. It has a sweet floral fragrance. It also has aphrodisiac and sedative properties.  It should be used in moderation.

3. Lavender – If you had to choose just one essential oil, choose lavender. It is versatile oil and is derived from the flowers of the herb.  Lavender has strong calming qualities and is effective for tension, depression, and insomnia.  Put a drop of lavender oil on your pillow at night.

4. Rose – The scent is very feminine. It is strongly antidepressant and has aphrodisiac properties… Try adding a few drops to your bath water

5. Sandalwood – This is a warm, sweet, woody essence that comes from the sandalwood tree. It has a calming, antidepressant effect and is also has aphrodisiac proprieties.

6. Lemon – It is refreshing, cleansing oil.  It can help with depression and fatigue. The oil comes from the peel of the fruit.

Which of these essential oils appeal to you?

Totem Animals

By: Gloria Marie

Totem Animals

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According to Native American tradition, each person is connected with nine animals that will accompany him on his path through life and enhance his talents and abilities. Each animal represents some wisdom. Different animals may come into our lives to help and guide us. Have you noticed a repeated occurrence of an animal in your life?  Maybe it is butterfly? Or ants? Below are a few of the animal totems and their meanings.  Observe over the next few weeks and see if you have an animal appear on a regular basis.

Butterfly

The butterfly symbolizes transformation into something higher. It teaches us to make conscious changes to our lives, create new conditions and make dreams come true.

Dragonfly

The dragonfly represents the tricking of the senses and change. It teaches that nothing is quite the way it seems, and that it is therefore necessary not to allow our senses to be tricked. It you wish to make changes, call to the energy of the dragonfly.

Spider

The spider teaches that each being is responsible for its own plan of life. We weave the web of our own destiny.  It also represents creativity.

Ant

The ant teaches that you will have everything you need and will receive it when you need it most. It is the symbol of basic trust.

Frog

The frog is the messenger announcing the start of a new life. This includes freeing yourself from circumstances in your life that are unpleasant and a burden. It is important to create a space for a new life.

Squirrel

The squirrel is a hint to prepare for the future, gather your strength and brace yourself for significant changes.

Snake

The snake symbolizes change in the cycle of birth, life, death, and rebirth.  It is a sign of change.

Have you notice a re-occurrence of any animals?

Aromatherapy Techniques

By: Gloria Marie

Sensational Sunday Aromatherapy Techniques

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Essential oils can be used on many levels: physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual.   It is important to remember to dilute the oils before use. Essential oils should not be taken orally and should not be applied undiluted to the skin. When buying oils, look for oils that are undiluted and in small dark bottles.  If an oil is marked “scented with essential oils” that is not the pure oil.  There are several popular aromatherapy techniques which I have listed below.

Essential Oils work on the body in two principal ways: absorption through the skin and inhalation through the olfactory system.  There are many ways to use the oils.

1. Massage- This is probably the best know method. The oils are blended with carrier oil. Some examples of carrier oils are: almond, grape seed, peach or apricot oil.

2. Baths – Put a few drops in your bath and swish the water around to mix the oil in.

3. On Pillows and Tissues – This is probably the easiest use of the oils. A few drops of lavender on your pillow at night can give you a restful sleep.

4. Vaporization – You can buy special aromatherapy burners and vaporizers.  I really like the vaporizers.  You put a little water and 6 – 7- drops of an essential oil. The mist fills the air with the aromatic smell.  Depending on my mood, I frequently change which oil I use it.

5. Light Bulb Rings – You add a few drops of oil to the ring and place in on a light bulb.

It is important to not expose your oils to sunlight or air.  Keep them tightly closed and store in a cool, dry place.  Your refrigerator would be a great place to store the bottles.  Some companies sell wooden boxes to store the oils in. Always buy essential oils in dark glass bottle, never in plastic.

Next week, I will discuss some specific oils and their uses.

 

What is your favorite technique to use essential oils?

Use Powerful Positive Words

By: Gloria Marie

Use Powerful Positive Words

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Words are powerful and carry energy. When we say something out loud, we are putting it in the Universe.  What types of things do you want to put out there?  Positive and loving?  Or negative and mean? If you are going through a transition and want a happier, peaceful life, the chances are probably pretty good that you want to be more positive and loving. Masaru Emoto did fascinating research on the effects words had on water crystals. Using powerful, positive words will change your energy.

This blog was previously posted, but, I feel it is an important message that can be repeated.  In addition, I recently was at an art gallery that displayed Emoto’s amazing photos.

 

The Hidden Messages in Water by Masaru Emoto is a fascinating book on the power of positive thoughts. Dr. Emoto, a Japanese scientist, used high speed photography to photograph frozen water.  When photographing water that was exposed to the words, love and gratitude, magnificent crystals in snowflake patterns appeared. In some experiments, he wrapped a piece of paper with the words, love and gratitude, and beautiful crystals appeared in the water.  The words, thank you, also formed spectacular crystal patterns.

 

Dr. Emoto also photographed water using the words; You fool, You make me sick, I will kill you.  In these instances, no crystals formed.  The colors in these photographs are dull and almost muddy looking.

 

Our bodies are made up of up to 60% water.  About 70% of the Earth’s surface is water-covered. Just think of the implications of Dr. Emoto’s revolutionary experiments.  By the power of our words, thoughts, and feelings, we can change the peace within ourselves and the peace in the world.  The words, love and gratitude, were so powerful and produced amazing crystals in the frozen water.

 

Start today; become aware of your word choices.  Begin incorporating the words love and gratitude into your life.  Use these words when you speak to your children, your family.  Write a thank you note of gratitude to someone. “Feel” these words when you wake up in the morning and when you go to sleep at night.

 

How did you incorporate the words love and gratitude into your life?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Manifesting Your Dreams

By: Gloria Marie

Sensational Sunday  Manifesting Your Dreams

Every Sunday the Single, Happy, and Strong Blog will have an exercise for you to do.  This is a wonderful way to start a new week; to reflect, grow, and begin a shift in your life. This week we will do an exercise to help you manifest changed in your life. We will use a journal for manifesting your dreams.

 

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Researchers have found that writing about emotions and stress can boost immune function.  Studies have been done at both University of Texas at Austin and Syracuse University.  Being single or divorced certainly can increase stress and can be very emotional at times. Journaling is a very convenient, easy way to express emotions and feelings.  There is not much required: a journal or blank notebook and a pen. Journaling is portable; you can take a small journal with you to record thoughts or insights during your day.

Today’s Exercise

Sit is a quiet place where you will not be distributed.  You may want to light a candle.  Silently ask yourself the following question:

“What do I desire?”

Spend a few minutes just being: quietly sitting. Do not judge any thoughts that come up and do not try to find the answer.  Just be. By silently asking the question, you have put it out in the Universe and asked the deepest part of you.

After a few minutes, take out your journal and being writing.  Just write, let your pen flow.  Do not judge what you write.  Take a deep breath and continue writing. There are no rules as to the length or the time you spend.

After you are finished writing, take a deep breath, read over what you wrote. Then complete the following sentence:

“I am manifesting………”

This is a powerful exercise to bring your desires into your life.  Is it a new job, more income, a boyfriend, more friends?   Write your “I am manifesting” statement in your journal before you go to sleep.  Our thoughts manifest.  Start manifesting positive changes in your life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

5 Minutes? 5 Ways to Spend It!

By: Gloria Marie

5 Minutes?  5 Ways to Spend It!

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Every moment of our day is precious. But, how many times do you waste precious minutes?  It is usually not the hours we waste away; it is the small increments of time.  Maybe you need to leave for an appointment, you are all ready, and you have 5 minutes to spare.  Or, your favorite show will be on in 5 minutes.  Or, you put dinner on the stove and you have a few more minutes until it is ready. Well listed below are 5 ways to spend those 5 minutes.

 5 Ways to Spend 5 Minutes

1.Clean out a drawer.  It could be your, “junk” drawer, your sock drawer, or your kitchen utensil drawer.  It really does not matter, just pick one.  Organizing is much easier with small steps.  If you take it at 5 minutes at a time, before long, most of your drawers will be cleaned and organized.

2.Go through that stack of magazines.  Chances are if you have magazines older than 3 months, you will not read them.  Sort them and recycle the older ones.

3.Call someone to say hello.  Keep a list of people you would like to speak to but, just never seem to find the time.  Perhaps it is an elderly person that does not get out of the house much, just think how a call to say hello will brighten their day.

4.Write an affirmation.  Get out a pen and a sheet of paper.  Spend 5 minutes writing an affirmation that speaks to your heart.   How do you feel after spending 5 minutes this way?

  • Some examples:

I am enough.
I am loving and deserve to be loved.
I am grateful for this day and all the blessing that it brings.
I am creative and my creative thoughts flow freely.
I am surrounded with abundance.

5.  Sit in silence.  Concentrate on your breath or sit quietly in prayer.

 

How did you spend your 5 minutes?

Be Happy Today

By: Gloria Marie

Sensational Sunday   Be Happy Today

Every Sunday the Single, Happy, and Strong Blog will have an exercise for you to do.  This is a wonderful way to start a new week; to reflect, grow, and begin a shift in your life.  This week we are going to be happy and practice some techniques that allow you to change your mood.

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You have a choice whether or not to be happy today.  Things may go wrong for you.  Your car may run out of gas.  Someone may say something unkind to you. You may receive a bill that was unexpected.  Life is not meant to be perfect. But, you can control whether you feel happy.  This is a deep happiness that remains evan when life brings problems.

 

This happiness is being grateful when you wake up to a new day.  Happiness allows your energy to flow.  When you are unhappy, do you feel tightness in your chest?  Maybe around your heart area?  This is the constriction of your energy and that may be the first sign to stop and allow your energy to flow.  You can make a conscious decision to remain happy.  The more you relax and are aware of the flow of energy, the more you can change it.

Today, make the decision to be happy.  We are meant to enjoy life.  Tell yourself that no matter what happens, you will not close your energy.  If you begin to fell the tightness: meditate, do affirmations or whatever will get you out of that space.

Some days and some events are harder to deal with and will require more work on your part.  If you are having trouble feeling happy, try one of the suggestions below. Change your energy; the more you are aware of it the quicker you will be able to change.

Try One of These Techniques:

  1. Go for a short walk.
  2. Pray.
  3. Meditate.
  4. Sit down and take 5 deep breaths. Concentrate on the breath going in and out.
  5. Affirmations – write several down and say them out loud.
  6. Read an inspirational quote or book.
  7. Spend a few minutes thinking about what brings you joy.
  8. Close your eyes and visualize a location that brings you peace and happiness.
  9. Watch an inspiring video on uTube.
  10. Walk outside and be grateful for this incredible world we live in.

Have you made the commitment to be happy?

Dealing with Stress

By: Gloria Marie

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“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be”

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

 No matter how much we try to lead a harmonious life, we will experience stress. We do not live in a vacuum and life was never meant to be perfect.  When you feel on edge, try to adopt an attitude of acceptance.  Denying that you are feeling stressful or trying to suppress it, will only cause more stress.

Next time you feel stressful, try to sit quietly and notice what you are feeling.  Accept the experience and the anxiety. Where do you feel the tension?  Is it in a particular part of your body? Where do you feel the anxiety?  What made you irritated?  Do you feel tension in your shoulder?  Is your breathing shallow and fast? Try not to suppress the feelings, say yes to them. Let them progress naturally.  Take some deep breaths and continue exploring what you are feeling until they are gone or reduced.

Next time you feel stressful try the following:

1. Sit quietly and take a few deep breaths.

2. Try to accept the experience. Ask yourself the questions listed above.

3. Continue to explore the tension in your body.

4. Continue to take deep breaths.

5. When you feel the anxiety has diminished begin to think of the most beautiful and peaceful scenes you have ever experienced.  For example: a mountain stream flowing over rocks and boulders, a beautiful sunset on the ocean, the pristine silence and beauty after snowfall, a full moon, or morning fog in a forest. Spend a few moments taking a few deep breaths and letting that imagine stay in your mind.

6. What word describes the image: peaceful, serene, and magnificent?  Repeat the word out loud several times.

What was the beautiful scene you imagined?