Monthly Archives: June 2014

Create a Vision Board

By: Gloria Marie

 

Sensational Sunday

Every Sunday the Single, Happy, and Strong Blog will have an exercise for you to do.  This is a wonderful way to start a new week; to reflect, grow, and begin a shift in your life. Today on Sensational Sunday we will discuss how to create a vision board for manifesting changes into your life.

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“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined”

-Henry David Thoreau

 A Vision Board is a collage of photos, quotes, and images of your goals and aspirations.   It is a very powerful visualization tool.  It is kept in a place where you can see it every day and serves as a reminder of your hopes and dreams.  The Vision Board works with the Law of Attraction: what you think about and visualize will be drawn into your life.  You may put photos of people that inspire you.  It represents what you want to be or what you want in your life.  The Vision Board will provide clarity to your dreams and goals.

Materials Needed:

1. A Poster board.  I prefer to have a foam type board, so, it is easy to display.  The size should be at least 24” by 14”.  There are no rules on the size of the board, whatever appeals to you works.

2. Scissors and glue.

3. Magazines and/or photos from the Internet and quotes.

4. A photo of yourself looking happy and content.

 Instructions:

  1. Put the photo of yourself in the center of the board.

2. Imagine the board divided into 4 sections.  The top left section is for “relationships”. The top right section is for “career”.  The bottom right section is for “health and wellness”. The bottom left section is for “personal growth and/or spirituality”.

3. Find images, photos, quotes to put into each of the sections.  Remember these are your dreams and desires. Do not think too much while looking for the photos, create! Go with your feelings and do not worry if it is not realistic.

4. When it is complete, put it where you can see it every day. Maybe take a photo of it and put it on your phone.

5. Be patient for the results.

What action step could you take today to get closer to your dreams?

 

 

 

 

 

The Impermanence of Life

By: Gloria Marie

The Impermanence of Life

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Life is impermanent.  This can be hard to accept.  We want the good times to go on and on and we want to avoid the difficult days.  Divorce, illness, unemployment, and financial loss, that shouldn’t happen to ME.  Those challenging aspects of life should happen to other people, not ME (with a capital M and E).  Every experience in our lives gives us a chance to grow.  Staying strong and having courage through strife will empower you.

The poem below is written by Rumi and is from the book, “The Essential Rumi” translations by Coleman Barks.  Rumi (c. 1207-1273) was a poet and mystical genius of the Sufi tradition within Islam and has been called “the greatest mystical poet of any age”.  “The Guest House” so beautifully states for us to welcome each day and be grateful for what each day brings. Each person that comes into our lives has been sent as a guide from beyond.  Print this poem and put it someone where you can refer to it and remember to embrace life each day and accept and learn from each “visitor”.

 

The Guest House

 This being human is a guest house.

Every morning a new arrival.

 A joy, a depression, a meanness,

some momentary awareness comes

as an unexpected visitor.

 Welcome and entertain them all!

Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,

who violently sweep your house

empty of its furniture,

still, treat each guest honorably.

He may be clearing you out

for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,

meet them at the door laughing,

and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,

because each has been sent

as a guide from beyond.

 –Rumi

Do you have any other favorite poems of Rumi? Let me know what they are!

 

Setting Personal Boundaries

By: Gloria Marie

 

Sensational Sunday

Every Sunday the Single, Happy, and Strong Blog will have an exercise for you to do.  This is a wonderful way to start a new week; to reflect, grow, and begin a shift in your life. Today on Sensational Sunday we will discuss setting personal boundaries.

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Setting boundaries can be difficult in some areas of our lives.  You may have no trouble with boundaries at work or with your children.  How about boundaries with your family members or with friends?   Or most important; boundaries with yourself? It is essential to be aware of and establish personal boundaries with ourselves, only then can we set boundaries with others.  I equate it to the oxygen mask on planes.  The flight attendant says, “Place the mask over your face before placing the mask with any children you are traveling with”.

If we begin with ourselves then, it will be easier to establish other boundaries in our lives.  By doing this you will empower yourself and become more confident. This will give you self fulfillment and then you can freely give of yourself to others: your children, your family, and your friends.  It is like putting gas in the tank of your car.  If there is no gas, the car stops.  If “your tank” is empty, it is hard to lead a happy, peaceful life.

Sometimes we feel guilty for doing things for ourselves or taking time for ourselves. There are all the “shoulda’” and “have to dos”.  We get stuck in routines at work and at home.  We go on auto pilot and before we know it, we are exhausted and drained.

This weeks exercise it to create a “Boundary” for you.

 1. Pick something that you enjoy doing: meditating, playing music, exercising, or reading. Have it something you look forward to doing, not something that is guilt driven.

2. Schedule this activity for 30 minutes to 1 hour each day for the next week.  Put it into your calendar.

3. If you have children or roommates, put a “Do Not Disturb” sign on your door.  This is your special time to renew and refresh your soul.

By empowering yourself to do this, it will carry over into other parts of your life.

What did your put into your schedule?

 

 

 

Dating Tips

By: Gloria Marie

 Tip # 18 More Dating Tips

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 If you are recently divorced or separated, be patient with yourself and with dating.  Please remember, it is ok to make mistakes.  This is new territory- you have not had a rehearsal for this. You will make dating mistakes: going out with a person not right for you, saying the wrong thing, and wearing the wrong outfit are some examples.  It is also possible that you will be intimate with someone and then sorry you were. You are human; do not be hard on yourself. Be safe, but, realize there will be missteps.

3 More Dating Tips:

  1. Texting.  There are some men that copy and paste the same texts to multiple women. If the texts are general, “What are you doing tonight?” and last minute, be cautious.  Do not text back and see it he sends another text.  If not, sorry, but, someone else answered his text and he has moved on.  Or text back, “I would love to get together sometime, why don’t you call me tomorrow.”
  2. When meeting someone for the first time from an on-line site, keep the date short.  If I am meeting someone for a drink at 5:00 or 6:00, I do not plan to have dinner with them.  After we talk for about an hour, I usually say, “This has been great and I enjoyed meeting you, but, I promised to meet some friends for dinner”.   If you enjoy each other’s company plan to meet again.  Of course, do not be too rigid in dating.  Sometimes, you may meet someone and want to spend the entire evening with them.  In that case, go for it!
  3. Singles in America research found that 60% of people check their phone at least once on a date.  Turn off your phone or put it on silence.  The person you are meeting deserves your full attention and vise versa you deserve their full attention too!

Where is your favorite place to meet on a first date?

Sensational Sunday Clean Environment

By: Gloria Marie

 

Sensational Sunday

Every Sunday the Single, Happy, and Strong Blog will have an exercise for you to do.  This is a wonderful way to start a new week; to reflect, grow, and begin a shift in your life.  This week we are going to clean, clear and toss.  A clean environment with help you have a clean mind to move ahead with your life.

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Clean Environment Clean Mind

 We all have some areas in our homes that could use some clearing and tossing.  If you look at your whole house, it could be overwhelming, so, choose one room or one area.  One area might be your desk, the stack of magazines, your closet, or your kitchen junk drawer.  All “things” in our environment have energy.  While you are going through the area you picked pay attention to your thoughts.  If you are hesitant to get rid of something you no longer need or use, spend a few minutes thinking about this.

If something has positive memories you may decide to keep it.  If you no longer wear the bracelet you loved several years ago, consider giving to someone that might enjoy wearing it. We accumulate so much stuff and probably most of it is not needed.  Once you clear one area you will notice that you feel lighter and will think clearer.  Give away anything that you no longer use, takes up space or have negative emotions associated with it.

5 Questions to Ask Yourself during this Cleansing

1. Do I feel happy when I look at it?

2. Could this item bring someone else happiness?

3. Do I love it?

4. Does it represent the person I want to be?

5. Would I use this? Do I use this?

Remember to start small with just one area and good luck!

What did you clean out?

 

 

 

5 Ways to Deal with a Broken Heart

By: Gloria Marie

 5 Ways to Deal with a Broken Heart

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Dating is part of a single women’s life.  Having a broken heart at some point may become a reality.  It hurts, it’s uncomfortable and many emotions will wash over you. I like to think of every relationship like a brick in the foundation of the new me I am creating.  If one relationship doesn’t work out, maybe it prepared me in some way for the next one.  After all, we are a work in progress, brick by brick.

When a relationship does not work out, I like to ask myself, “What was the lesson this situation has brought to me?”  “How can I grow from this experience?”  These are very powerful questions to ask yourself.  Spend some quiet time, centered in the moment and think about this.  The present moment is always the best teacher.

5 Ways to Deal with a Broken Heart

1.  Try to avoid negative thoughts about yourself or your ex-boyfriend.  Negative thinking does no good.  Remember the law of attraction.  Try to stay positive to attract more positivity into your life.

2.That beautiful shirt he bought you, either toss is out or box it up and get it out of your sight. This goes for anything that brings back strong memories about the relationship.  If you cannot bear to throw something away: box it up, give it to someone or sell it.  Physical items contain energy and you want new, fresh energy in your life.

3. Exercise.  Exercise is a great way to release stress. Get moving.  Walk, go to the gym, play tennis: the important point is to begin moving. It might be easy and comfortable to stay on the couch in front of the television.  Do the uncomfortable, get some fresh air.

What have you done to deal with a broken heart?

Sensational Sunday Word Wall

By: Gloria Marie

Sensational Sunday Word Wall

Every Sunday the Single, Happy, and Strong Blog will have an exercise for you to do.  This is a wonderful way to start a new week; to reflect, grow, and begin a shift in your life.  This week’s exercise is to choose positive adjectives to describe you.

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WORD WALL SUNDAY

 Listed below are adjectives that you can use to describe yourself.  Today, I want you to pick 3 that you feel describe yourself today and pick another 3 that you would like to become. The list below are just suggestions, feel free to add others.

For example: I feel I am kind, reliable and spiritual.  I would like to become more fun, romantic, and creative.  We are our thoughts, so, by consciously deciding what you would like, subtle shifts will begin.

Get a blank sheet of paper. At the top of the page, write your name, Word Wall and the date.  On this paper, write all 6 adjectives that you have chosen.  Have fun with it: color it, put borders, and make some drawings.  Then put it where you can see it every day for the next week.  Maybe put it by your computer, where you prepare dinner, or on your bathroom mirror.  Every time you see it, read the words and feel them in your heart.  You are taking charge of your life.

 

Kind                             Bright                          Passionate                   Fun

Generous                     Happy                          Beautiful                     Trustworthy

Patient                         Faithful                        Cheerful                      Reliable

Humorous                   Truthful                       Positive                        Creative

Peaceful                      Forgiving                     Prosperous                  Romantic

Grateful                       Compassionate           Athletics                      Content

Spiritual                       Religious                     Loving                          Healthy

Joyful                           Dependable                 Generous                     Artistic

Blessed                        Confident                    Carefree                      Focused

 

 

 

 

Ready for Love

By: Gloria Marie

Ready for Love

The flower doesn’t dream of the bee.

It blossoms and the bee comes.

-Mark Nepo

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You are like the flower, ready to blossom. Imagine what type of flower you can become.  Being single, you have the power to invest energy into loving yourself and being open and ready for a relationship.

If you are ready for a relationship, announce your intention to the Universe.  Affirm your intention out loud and trust in Divine Order to bring someone into your life.  Remain hopeful and positive. Remember the law of attraction.

If you have desperate or fearful thoughts about the lack of love in your life, focus on loving yourself.  What do you love about yourself?  Your smile?  Your body? Your patience?  Now look in the mirror and tell yourself what it is your love about yourself.  This is a very powerful exercise. It helps to change your energy to a positive state.

If you are going through a period of being alone, make quality use of your time.  Work on self help skills to improve your self esteem and confidence.  Take good care of your body: eating healthy foods and exercise. While going through my divorce, I did not have extra money to have professional manicures, facials or pedicures.  But, I was able to do all of that at home. You can too!  Get creative.  If you cannot join a gym, go for a walk.  If you cannot afford a manicure, buy a bottle of nail polish.  If you cannot afford a facial, do it yourself or call a local beauty school.  The students need practice and the price is usually a fraction of what a spa would charge. All this tender, precious care of yourself will help you love yourself more.

While waiting for the “bee”; “blossom”, as Mark Nepo so beautifully put it.

 

 

Sensational Sunday – Gratitude

By: Gloria Marie

Sensational Sunday – Gratitude 

Every Sunday the Single, Happy, and Strong Blog will have an exercise for you to do.  This is a wonderful way to start a new week; to reflect, grow, and begin a shift in your life.  This week for Sensational Sunday we will discuss ways to use gratitude as a daily practice to change your energy from lack to abundance.

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“If the only prayer you say in your whole life is “Thank you” that would suffice”

-Meister Eckhart

 This quote by Meister Eckhart is one of my favorite quotes of all times. It reminds us of the importance of gratitude in our lives. During challenging times, like a divorce, a daily practice of gratitude is vital.  Focusing on gratitude feels our hearts with love.

When life brings challenges, which it will, there is always something to be grateful for. Some things, like the air we breathe, are vital to our existence, but, we may take it for granted. So many days, we may be on auto pilot, just trying to get through the day.  On days like that, try to focus on the abundance you have in your wonderful, magnificent life.

I can compare it to a horse with blinders on.  The abundance is right in front of our eyes, but, we have blinders on.  Take of the blinders, take a deep breath and focus on gratitude.  Did you have something to eat today? Water to drink?  A beautiful smile from your child, a friend or a co-worker? Are there beautiful clouds in the sky today?

Focusing on gratitude changes our energy and attitude from a sense of fear or lack to a sense of love and abundance. Even during the darkest of times, I always found gratitude as a daily practice so important.  When money was really tight and writing checks was a necessity.  I started to write “Thank You” on my checks.  This helped to transform my fear of lack to gratitude.

Today’s Exercise:

1. Sit down in a quiet spot.  Take out your journal.

2. List 25 things that you are grateful for today.  Some may be small things and some larger.  Do not stop until you have listed all 25.

3. Now read them out loud at least two times.

4. How did this make you feel?  Try to incorporate a daily practice of gratitude.  Maybe the first thing in the morning, articulate verbally a few things you are grateful for. Over time, living in gratitude will be a way of life.