Monthly Archives: March 2014

7 Day Program to Positive Thinking

By: Gloria Marie

Sensational Sunday

Every Sunday the Single, Happy, and Strong Blog will have an exercise for you to do.  This is a wonderful way to start a new week; to reflect, grow, and begin a shift in your life.  This week for Sensational Sunday we will work on positive thinking.

This is a wonderful article on Positive Thinking.  It was sent to me by Coach Ayisha from the Universal Coach Institute.  I love #5, Recognize/ Reevaluate/Restore.

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“Enlightenment” Your 7 days program to Positive thinking

I’m sure you have a bright idea hidden somewhere in the back of your mind that you just can’t wait to test out. Of course you’re not the only one with the bright idea. So what motivates you to churn those creative or even inspiring juices to its utmost flavor?

It’s always best to set up a personal goal where you can accomplish the most in record time, maybe like mowing the lawn in an hour before the big game on TV. A correct and positive attitude in whatever you do will make things easier, and even enjoyable.

Here are some tips to make it through the week even if you’re just sitting in your favorite couch. An idea takes time to form in your head and is always at work while you are busy sitting.

Having a bit of positive thinking can help you realize things that are never thought possible.

1. Take passionate action towards living your life by design. Talk is cheap. Action = deposits in the bank of a passionately authentic future. Without it, passion is void.

This is a perfect example where dreams are made of where you start by tinkering with your mind, then with your hands. And if the idea weakens, you can always go back to it later until you finish it.

2. Commit to yourself as well as those you love to create powerfully a life you can love. Instead of reacting, commit to creating from your heart and soul, out of love rather than fear. The American Dream will always be there, but a dream will still be a dream without motion. Be amazed as the transformation begins.

3. Recognize and embrace the thought that each moment is perfect regardless of its outcome. Every time you hit on something that may appear too extreme, why not give it a shot and see if it will work. You will be surprised to see if there are other ways to get the task done in time. If you are not pleased with the outcome, decide to use that moment to learn from and make the appropriate shift.

4. Dwell completely in a place of gratitude. Learn to utilize what you have in your hands and make use of it in the most constructive way. Slipping into neediest will become less of a habit when you repeatedly shift towards gratitude, away from poverty consciousness.

5. Use a Passion Formula of Recognize/Reevaluate/Restore in place of the Shoulda/Woulda/Coulda whirlwind. The former is based in increased knowledge and abundance while the latter focuses on scarcity and lack. As you face people or tasks that may seem harder than scaling the summit of the Himalayas, allow yourself to realize that the task is just as important as giving out orders to your subordinates. You would rather be richly passionate!

6. Keep humor at the forefront of thought, laughing at and with yourself when possible. You may find yourself quite entertaining when you loosen up! I am yet to see a comedian ever go hungry even though his jokes are as ‘old as great-grandma’. Life has so much to offer to allow you to mope around in self-pity. Humor is very attractive, very passionate: life-giving.

 

7. Believe that you are the architect of your destiny. No one can take your passionate future from you except for you! Create your life authentically. As long as there’s still breath in your body, there is no end to how much you can accomplish in a lifetime. The concept of thinking big is all about enjoying your work, which would lead to celebrate a discovery that is born within your hands. Watch everything flow into place with perfect, passionate precision.

Can you share one way you incorporated this into your life this week?

 

 

Use Powerful Positive Words

By: Gloria Marie

Tip #12 Use Powerful Positive Words

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 Words are powerful and carry energy. Positive words will create positive energy around you and there is research to prove this.  When we say something out loud, we are putting it in the Universe.  What types of things do you want to put out there?  Positive and loving?  Or negative and mean? If you are going through a transition and want a happier, peaceful life, the chances are probably pretty good that you want to be more positive and loving.

The Hidden Messages in Water by Masaru Emoto is a fascinating book on the power of positive thoughts. Dr. Emoto, a Japanese scientist, used high-speed photography to photograph frozen water.  When photographing water that was exposed to the words, love and gratitude, magnificent crystals in snowflake patterns appeared. In some experiments, he wrapped a piece of paper with the words, love and gratitude, and beautiful crystals appeared in the water.  The words, thank you, also formed spectacular crystal patterns.

Dr. Emoto also photographed water using the words; You fool, You make me sick, I will kill you.  In these instances, no crystals formed.  The colors in these photographs are dull and almost muddy looking.

Our bodies are made up of up to 60% water.  About 70% of the Earth’s surface is water-covered. Just think of the implications of Dr. Emoto’s revolutionary experiments.  By the power of our words, thoughts, and feelings, we can change the peace within ourselves and the peace in the world.  The words, love and gratitude, were so powerful and produced amazing crystals in the frozen water.

Start today; become aware of your word choices.  Begin incorporating the words love and gratitude into your life.  Use these words when you speak to your children, your family.  Write a thank you note of gratitude to someone. “Feel” these words when you wake up in the morning and when you go to sleep at night.

How did you incorporate the words love and gratitude into your life?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Mindfulness In Nature

By: Gloria Marie

Sensational Sunday Mindfulness In Nature

Every Sunday the Single, Happy, and Strong Blog will have an exercise for you to do.  This is a wonderful way to start a new week; to reflect, grow, and begin a shift in your life.  This week for Sensational Sunday we will practice mindfulness in nature.

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Mindfulness Through Nature

 “Keep close to Nature’s heart, yourself; and break away, once in a while, and climb a mountain or spend a week in the woods.  Wash your spirit clean from the earth-stains of this sordid, gold-seeking crowd in Gods’ pure air.  It will help you in your efforts to bring to these people something better than gold.  Don’t lose your freedom and your love of the Earth as God made it.                                                                      -John Muir

If we can learn to be mindful, living in the moment, peace of mind will be attainable.  The present moment is tolerable. Leaving in the past with regret or the in the future with worry, creates stress and anxiety in our life.  Being mindful takes practice.  Just like anything, the more we practice the better we become at it.

As John Muir so beautifully said, “wash your spirit clean from the earth-stains”. I always find that spending some time outdoors, in nature, I forget my worries and I am completely present, mindful.  So today, go outside! Take a walk.  You may not have mountains or woods nearby, maybe it is the beach, a lake, or a park.  Maybe you just put a chair outside your door and watch the sunset or the clouds in the sky.

1. Breathe, reflect, and really pay attention to the sounds, the smells, and the small, intimate, beautiful aspects of nature.

2. When you return home, spend a few minutes reflecting on the words that described what you experienced. Tranquil. Serenity. Magnificent. Peaceful.

3. Write these words on paper.

4. Next time you are feeling tense remember these words and the feelings of peace that they invoked in you.

What words did you use to describe your time in nature?  Where did you go to spend some time outdoors?

 

 

 

 

Dating Tip 11- Read to Expand Your Knowledge

By: Gloria Marie

Tip #11 Read to Expand Your Knowledge

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You are changing and expanding your world, so, I feel a great dating tip is to READ!  As a single woman, you want to keep your options open. Read for fun, read for knowledge. You are going to be out and about more and will be meeting all sorts of new people. Some may be future dates, others may be friends. Reading will help you enter into a conversation with strangers or with a potential boyfriend.

While going through my dark period, I stopped reading current events. My son and his college roommate came for a visit.  It was a real eye opener for me.  They would discuss all types of topics and current events, I had no clue what the conversations were about. After they left, I promised myself that I would read at least 3 news articles a day. To this day, I still read at least three articles a day.  With the Internet, it is so effortless to find three articles. Try different topics.  When you go out on dates, it will give you something to talk about besides the usual type of interview questions.  “Where did you grow up?” “How long have you lived here?”  “What type of work do you do” Boring!  You are growing; be different, be interesting, have fun.

My former neighbor, an attorney, actually gave me this advice.  I was going on my first “real” date after my divorce. He asked me where I was going. I told him were were going to a nice restaurant about 30 minutes away. My neighbor suggested, very wisely, that I read a couple of current event articles to give me something to talk about during the car ride.  Great advice, I still follow his suggestion to this day.

Expand your reading to books, both fiction and non-fiction. By expanding your world, you never know where the inspiration for the next step in your life, might turn up.

What do you enjoy reading?

 

 

 

Forgiveness and Letting Go

By: Gloria Marie

Forgiveness and Letting Go

Sensational Sunday                                                   

Every Sunday the Single, Happy, and Strong Blog will have an exercise for you to do.  This is a wonderful way to start a new week; to reflect, grow, and begin a shift in your life. Today we will talk about a technique for forgiveness and letting go.

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This Sunday I will give you a technique I use to forgive and let go of past relationships. Resentment, anger, and grief over past relationships hold a tremendous amount of energy. It is important to release the negative energy in order for more positive relationships to flow into your life.  It is almost like creating a “space” for something or someone new to enter. Thich Nhat Hanh says, “Freedom is cultivated by the practice of letting go”.

We are not meant to live in a vacuum so eventually I started dating and actually had relationships.  As my attorney said, ‘You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your Prince”. Well, I would not call the men I dated frogs they were quite nice-just not for me.

In order to release myself and my energy from a relationship, I would write a letter to them.  Sometimes it was just one letter other times six or seven. No one would ever see the letters. When I felt I wrote all I need to, I would follow the steps I list below. It provided closure and healing.  In one of my relationships, I felt I was a convenience instead of a priority. I started writing the letters before I ended the relationship for the courage to move on.

This is a powerful exercise.

  1. Get a piece of paper and a pen. Sit in a comfortable chair in a quiet space. Take a few deep breaths. Write a letter to the person you need to forgive or the person you need to let go of.  Take your time. Write your feelings about them; how they hurt you, how that felt, how you may have done things differently. There is no rule as to how long the letter has to be, keep writing until you have nothing else to say to them.  When you feel you have written enough, at the bottom of the letter wish them well and sign your name.
  2.  Tear the letter up into small pieces and then do one of the following: a) Put them in a pan and burn them.  Obviously, be very careful with this step.  As you watch them burn say a prayer for the person the letter is addressed to. b) Bury the pieces of paper in the ground.  As you cover them with dirt, say a prayer for the person the letter is addressed to.
  3. Repeat this as often as needed, until you feel you have forgiven and released the person.

Tips for Online Dating

By: Gloria Marie

Tip #10  Online Dating Tips

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 Online dating is a mainstream practice to meet that special someone.  The online websites have people of all ages.  A recent study by the Proceeding of the National Academy of Sciences stated that one-third of marriages in the United States began with online dating. Of those that did not meet on-line: 22% met at work, 19% met through friends, 9% met at a bar or club and 4% met at church.  Well, girls with those stats, I say, try it!  I have done on-line dating for several years. My philosophy is, if you are not “out” there, you have no hope of meeting someone special.

My on-line dating tips for today:

  1. Some men want a pen pal.  They go on and on with emails.  So many times, I would run out of “cute” things to say or ask.  Enough!  It is my advice to email back and forth several times and then set up a phone conversation.  If you are still interested after the phone call, arrange to meet for coffee or a drink. Do not spend a lot of time or energy with emails. Cut to the chase and if he is not right for you.  Next!   I often wondered about several men that wanted pen pals: maybe they were married or incarcerated?
  2. Be very suspicious of anyone that calls you “honey” or “sweetie” all the time.  The chances are pretty great, that they are dating quite a few women.  By using these endearing terms, will not make the mistake of calling you or the other women the wrong name.
  3. If you attempt online dating, spend some quiet time to analyze what is you are looking for in a man.  You will have many, many men contact you, but, if you are not sure what you want, you are wasting their time and yours.  Be selective in your choices.

Have you tried online dating?  How did you like it?

Manifesting Meditation

By: Gloria Marie

Sensational Sunday Manifesting Meditation

Every Sunday the Single, Happy, and Strong Blog will have an exercise for you to do.  This is a wonderful way to start a new week; to reflect, grow, and begin a shift in your life. This week will we try a meditation for manifesting.

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Crystal Meditation for Manifesting

This sensational Sunday I will be introducing a crystal meditation for manifesting.  Meditation can be a means to find inner peace and happiness. There are many different meditation techniques and styles.  This is just a quick meditation for you to try today.

Sit upright in a chair in a quiet place in your home.  Turn off your phone, computer, and television. Try to eliminate all outside distractions.  Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths.  Scan you body for any tension you are holding. Breathe into the tension to release it. Now picture a large, clear quartz crystal. It is magnificent and has many points that are catching the sunlight. Picture yourself walking up to this large crystal.  You look closely and see it has many chambers inside. It is like a large, crystal clear castle.  Step inside, feel how cool it is being inside. Notice the beautiful bright sunlight shining through the many points. You feel tremendous energy being in the crystal castle. It is glorious.  Begin to explore the different chambers; they are all unique, gorgeous, and soothing.  You feel at peace and at home.  Keep exploring and touching the cools walls. After you feel you have explored all the chambers, you see a door.  Slowly open the door.  Who do you see? Is it who or what you expected?  Is it someone you know or hope to know?  An angel?  Spirit guide? Deceased family member? Smile and give the person a hug.

Now gradually step out of the crystal. Feel your feet on the ground, breathe.  Open your eyes and look around your room.  Take a deep breath. Do you feel lighter? Refreshed? Surprised?

Spend some time journaling about who you saw when you opened the door and your reactions.  What meaning did it have for you?

 

 

 

 

Dealing with Stressful Situations

By: Gloria Marie

Tip # 9 Dealing with Stressful Situationsflower-219697_150

Through my divorce, I found nothing remained the same.  My home, my friends, my job, my boyfriends, dating, the list goes on and on.  Every week, it seemed I was put in new and sometimes difficult situations or at least uncomfortable situations.  Dealing with stressful situations was hard. Our thoughts become things that manifest into our lives and I was determined to assume control over my circumstances whether I was happy about the situation or not.

The Dalai Lama when discussing antidotes to anxiety used the following quote, “If there is a solution to the problem, there is no need to worry. If there is not a solution, there is no sense in worrying either”.   This is such a great quote. We should all put it on a sign in our offices. If only it were that simple.

When I am faced with a difficult situation and feel hopeless, I do this quick exercise to change my energy:

  1. Remind yourself to stay calm. Absolutely nothing is unbearable if we stay in the present moment.  Sit down and take a few deep breaths. If you are sitting at a desk at work, close your eyes and breathe. Staying calm in difficult situations will help you find solutions and think clearer.
  2. Ask yourself, “What do you desire?”  You may not have an answer or an answer may instantly pop into your head and heart. By asking this, you are projecting out of your current situation.  This question will help you look at the bigger picture for your life.  Maybe the current situation is a stepping stone to get what it is you truly desire.
  3. Think of someone or something that you are grateful for. This is a wonderful way to change your energy.
  4. Write the answer to “What do you desire?” and “What are your grateful for?” on a sheet of paper.  Say it out loud.

Do you feel better?  Lighter?  Ready to deal with the situation?

 

 

 

Gratitude Journal

By: Gloria Marie

Sensational Sunday

Every Sunday the Single, Happy, and Strong Blog will have an exercise for you to do.  This is a wonderful way to start a new week; to reflect, grow, and begin a shift in your life.

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Gratitude Journal

Since 2006, I have kept a Gratitude Journal.  My first one was a beautiful hard cover journal with a moon on it. It was a gift from a friend.  I designated this journal just to write out things I am grateful for.  What I have enjoyed about doing this is looking back at what I was grateful for in the different stages of my life. My son will be turning 26 soon.  One of the entries was about his 13th birthday party and the many things I was grateful for on that day.  There are countless people that I mentioned that are on longer living on this earth.  It is really heartwarming to read the incredible times I had with them.  During some very difficult times, I may have only been grateful for another day, the sun, and the sky.  But, whenever I wrote, I always found something to be grateful for.

Our words and thoughts carry tremendous energy.   Living and feeling with a sense of lack in your life, you are going to create more lack.  By focusing on gratitude and the many wonderful gifts you are given every day, you will create more positive energy and bring more positive things into your life.

So, why not begin today on Sensational Sunday.

  1. Get a journal that you will designate as your very own, Gratitude Journal. Take some time picking it out.  Pick out a cover that makes you smile. Hold it in your hands, does it feel right? Good?
  2. Designate a place in your home to keep your Gratitude Journal.  It should be in a place visible enough, so, you remember to write in it.  After a time, writing in it will become a habit.  I like to write in mine right before I go to sleep, so, I place mine on my bed.
  3. Commit to listing at list 3 things ever day.  Remember to put the date. If you are having trouble writing 3 things, take a deep breath and relax, go over your day, and remember what brought you even a small amount of joy.
  4. Try to write different things, it sometimes becomes easy to list the same things over and over.
  5. If you forget to write a day or a week, that is OK.

Enjoy this exercise that will help you focus on the positive aspects in your life.